Iam 14 year old teenager.I am a sort of bad guy as well as good guy.Before one or two years i was attracted by **** and sex.Now i am felling that i am very bad person and my friends think that i am very bad guy even not to hurt me they are being as friend to me.I want to become good preson and live like a normal teen.I have very strong sexualdrive and attracted to **** and sex.Some times when talking i feel very disturbed and sex come into my mind.Please help me. Really serious answers.Please!!!!!
2007-03-03 18:47:55 · 11 answers · asked by sankar 3 in Health ➔ Mental Health
I cannot talk to my parents about this because i am afraid to talk to them about sex.Please give me some tips.
2007-03-03 19:34:45 · update #1
You are so normal. And not just normal for a guy. Normal for a human. Girls, heck all people of all ages think about sex. With **** on the web it's easier to get to.
Don't tell yourself that you're bad because you're not bad until you hurt someone or something.
The esoterics believe that all the energy put into constant sex thoughts and drive can drain us of energy needed for everyday life.
Set a limits for yourself like set a time limit. I have a guy friend that says if he can't find the **** he wants in 20 min. he shuts it down because he realizes he can waste all day, and all night looking for that perfect ****.
Start working out (the chicks like buff guys anyway, right?) join up with some kind of athletic thing you like to do. Get your self some hobbies that get you out of the house. (not girl watching)
If this doesn't work be a gigolo or a stripper when you're 18.
2007-03-03 18:58:21 · answer #1 · answered by manywarhoops 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The high sex drive you describe is normal for all people your age. However, the stress you feel about it is not. It's natural at this age to think about sex and ****. But, I'm concerned because you say you're "a bad guy" due to your thoughts. This does not make you a bad guy. I think you're being very responsible looking for help for this situation. Being disturbed by your sexual thoughts and behaviors is not normal and I think you may need to talk to a therapist. Please, open up about this to a parent, school counselor, your doctor, a relative, anyone, to get some help. A therapist or doctor can help you learn to relieve the stress you feel and also help you express your sexual desires appropriately. I think you may have an anxiety disorder, which is very common for people your age. A lot in your life is changing, as are your body and mind. This is a very stressful time. You may be using sex and **** to relieve that stress. And, that is causing even more stress. Look closely at your life right now and think about what is happening at the times when sex pops into your mind. You might just find out what is triggering all those thoughts. Keep in mind though that being curious about sex and having sexual thoughts at your age is healthy and normal. I just hope you can find a way to be less stessed, because I'm concerned you feel so bad about this. Please talk to an adult you can trust to get help so you can start to feel better and have a healthy attitude about sex. And, if you're thinking about having sex, be smart and use protection. You have your whole life ahead of you and do not need a baby or a STD at this age. Be careful and good luck.
2007-03-03 19:22:35 · answer #2 · answered by psychgirl_02 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel bad that several people here did not take your question seriously, but I do. The level of concern you express as well as the concerns of your friends demonstrates that what you're experiencing is not normal and it is actually quite easy to become addicted to things like **** particularly with the easy access available on the net. It is treatable, however it is not a particularly easy addiction to stop and can have real consequences for your future ability to develop healthy intimate relationships. I suggest you talk with your parents about your desire to get some counseling and if you are uncomfortable disclosing he actual reason, you could tell them that you are finding yourself unable to keep from dwelling on certain things and would like to talk with a neutral party. Hopefully your parents will respect your need for privacy and help you get in to see a therapist. Don't listen to the other immature individuals who commented here, it took a lot of guts to ask your question and I wish you the best of luck.
2007-03-03 19:02:03 · answer #3 · answered by Opester 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
**** images are churned out to make money; the images portrayed devalue women (& men) who make little money by comparison... & are only doing that, cos their circumstances are miserably inadequate.
Once you start appreciating the validity of that comment, the whole **** thing loses attraction.
See women not as objects to lust after,
but as somebodies daughter, maybe your daughter...
As for wanting sex all the time - the more you do it, the more you wanna. Limit sexual activity to a reasonable amount & your brain & body will respond- the craving will diminish.
Oh! & you are a good guy cos at least you realise you were going off after something not wholesome or particularly nice.
Relationships based on expressing mutual love are fufilling, & it is those you need to seek (cos you're human, not an animal!)
2007-03-03 20:33:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you are a very normal young man , just confused and passing through the very common teenage crisis and it is a matter of time when you get over this confusion and laugh at yourself for having such silly doubts about your sexuality. you have a great libido which is good and something to be proud of . one should actually be worried if one does not feel the way you do at 14 .you are definitely not a bad guy . do overcome this guilty feeling .
2007-03-07 17:58:37 · answer #5 · answered by sagar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were into gangs and violence, crime and drugs, those are bad. It is normal to be very interested in sex, and if that outlet is unavailable, to use pornography and masturbation. Many other primate and monkey species masturbate, both males and females. The vast majority of human males masturbate, even married ones, and about a third as many females. So, unless you are doing other bad things, you are quite normal for someone your age, and there is nothing to worry about, except that in your parent's culture, such things are not approved of.
2007-03-03 21:08:50 · answer #6 · answered by CLICKHEREx 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it's quite normal for a boy of ur age thinking such stuff
but u should be not addicted to something
if it's on ur mind all the time then it's bad if not u r perfectly normal
for ur friends maybe they have not attained tha much maturity don't worry about them after sometime even they will start thinking like u
sex is not anything bad or immoral it's qiute natural
never be ashamed about it
2007-03-03 22:59:35 · answer #7 · answered by ANGEL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a very normal thing at ur age.stay cool indulge your self in some physical sports like cycling or swiming they will keep your mind diverted.and you will fell asleep as soon as you fell on the bed.dont indulge in seeing prone movies or sites your mind will turn into a devils house then.make friends ship with somes girls you will start feeling very save and normal once you get used to staying with them.stay in good company thats very important.
2007-03-05 02:25:07 · answer #8 · answered by toploser 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most teens have an interest in sex and **** during the oncoming of puberty. Don't worry about it. As you grow older you will find yourself and you will probably be quite normal.
2007-03-10 04:55:24 · answer #9 · answered by Tony A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have been you attentive to this once you married, or did he promise a great abode, little ones, a van and a white wood fence? You nagging won't make him substitute, and he does not could desire to, he replaced into not born to grant in on your demands. You 2 are orbiting diverse planets, in case you decide directly to calm down and he does not, then sop the nagging and scuffling with, and flow on. he isn't gonna substitute.
2016-10-17 05:40:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋