I dont really want to but I have to because he lies to people in front of me and if asked him to stop. i was raised to be honest, and i hate that he does it. I love eveything about him other than that, this is so freakin hard. How do I find the strength to let him go? I mean I REALLY love this man.
2007-03-03 18:37:36 · 11 answers · asked by Lola 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey...I can see how hard this must be for you! I know how you feel...I really do love my boyfriend and there's just some things that make me think I need to give him up..but it is incredibley hard when you're in love with them and have been with them for so long. I don't know if you're a Christian...but my faith has really helped me to be a peace with my situation. Just giving the situation over to something outside of yourself that's so much more powerful than you can bring such a calm...at least it has in my life. Also, don't be afraid to cry. I've spent some nights just crying and letting it all out...turn up your music and like scream into your pillow if you have to...just getting out all the emotional can bring a greater clarity. Just realize that you're worth a guy that is going to be honest and genuine with you. If you can't take his lying now...if you ever marry the guy, it is only going to bother you more. It's so admirable that you choose you're morals and honesty even over something you love. I believe that if you're willing to give him up for what's right...he'll either see how much he misses you and needs to change, or you'll find someone that is so much better! Just surround yourself with positive friends and influences, and keep that future perspective...that there is someone so amazing for you out there if you're willing to wait. I don't know if this helps at all because I know just how strong a loving attachment can feel. There really is no easy way out of it...but pain is only temporary...even if that feels like a long time and I believe you're going to feel so good for standing up for what you believe in! Best wishes...I will keep you in prayer!
2007-03-03 18:51:08 · answer #1 · answered by Leah 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You know what I learned the hard way? The fact that you can't change a person (which, typically, many women try to do). You seem like a very caring yet logical person who is sticking to her instincts- DON'T MISTRUST them! I have gone out with many liars and despite how open I am at communicating, the communication barrier was created by them... the lying just doesn't stop! I think you are doing a great thing by putting your future into the right perspective. I think you just simply have to break up with him and tell him it is over- tactfully. And find someone who is honest.
2007-03-03 18:51:21 · answer #2 · answered by purringout 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My only adivce i can give you is that, to talk him nad tell him if he the lies dont stop with knowin that there are lies and that you love him very much but sometimes i dont see why a man has to lie in front of his g/f and then do the oppisite but the sayin says if love something enough to let it go and it comes back it was ment to be. If doesnt it never was. that is the only advice i can give you on that unless the idea he has he can lie to you and get away with it ? then there is something wrong with him doin that. I hope all goes well.
2007-03-03 18:45:37 · answer #3 · answered by bigbadwolf10376 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slam the door in his face but leave it unlocked. You have to BREAK his heart and essentially DUMP him to make him see that you mean business when you want him to stop lying. Maybe he'll come crawling back and want to really change ... but for the most part, people don't change.
If he won't stop lying, or seems unaffected by your ditching of him, then unfortunately it will be YOU with the broken heart ... but there's no getting around it. I'm with you ... Liars SUCK. Love or not, if that's the way he wants to live, you can't make yourself a part of it.
Just think ... for every LIAR that's perfect in every other way ... there's probably TEN other guys who are just as good and are HONEST ... really. You might not be able to see the forest for the trees, but be true to yourself, no matter WHAT you do.
Good luck.
2007-03-03 18:43:57 · answer #4 · answered by Tom T. Hall 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes break up with him. A liar is never good for a relationship. You have standards, dont ever lower your standards for jerks like him. But talk to him about this before you do break up with him.
2007-03-03 18:42:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with the first person you have to talk to him about it. by letting it go u only hurt yourself and by that on the other hand u make it ok for him
2007-03-03 18:43:18 · answer #6 · answered by random at its finest 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you stupid? dont break up with him, you need to communicate first. Geez dont be so stupid. You'll regret it later. What will happen is you'll break up then wish you didn't. Grass is always greener on the other side.
2007-03-03 18:41:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't break up with him b/c of that....
but maybe because he doesn't listen to you...I mean you asked him but he wouldn't stop....maybe he's addicted to lying =\ maybe he finds his life lacks something
2007-03-03 18:41:52 · answer #8 · answered by 1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart and you will be happy .
Follow your mind and you will do the right thing .
2007-03-03 18:44:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,if u really love him then breaking up with him isn't the way to go....try to help him change...see a therapist or something....
2007-03-03 18:41:47 · answer #10 · answered by cam_555_fsh 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋