So, my bro has destroyed not only my parents retirement life but also my future. He lied to my dad one time to have him sign a power attorney, so that he could take over my dad's money. My dad has helped him buying a house, buy a car from VW Jetta '96 to an Audi A6 '00. He used all my dad's money. He took the money that my dad gave me to buy a car and he lied to me by saying that the money from him and his wife. It was $6k. My bro bought me this $2k worth of car and kept the rest. He also did not want to put my name on the title of the car instead he put his but when there is somethings wrong with the car, he doesnt want to help me. Now I need the rest of the money that he has to complete my study, so I can graduate but everytime I told my dad, my dad would say that the more I want to fight for the money, the more he would upset to me. I can not forgive my bro because my mom is sick and he doesnt even help a bit. He also told me that I should forget about the money.
2007-03-03 18:21:19 · 12 answers · asked by sweetcherry 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ahhhh. what a piece of crap. holy sh*t. no never forgive him. thats blind greed. your poor parents. for your parents sake leave it alone in front of them. it would only cause more stress on your sick mother. an a** like that doesn't deserve forgiveness.
2007-03-03 18:26:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
He sounds like a total jerk, my advice take it or leave it. For the sake of your wellness forgive him, but have nothing to do with him. Talk to him but keep your distance, do it for your parents, and for yourself to show him you are the better person in your parents lives, forget about the money even if it hurts. You do what you have to do to get everything you want out of life, and you will get it. You sound smart, and your brother sounds crazy, and his wife must be a nut case. I would defenetly stay away from both, you cant trust him and if I were you I would seek some legal counseling so your brother wont try to mess your parents lives anymore than the damage he has caused them and heartship...Dont ever let him get a hold of your social security number, he is a conartist, and not to be trusted, with any of your personal documents of existence. Try to do everything in your power to have your parents protected for the sake of tomorrow. Keep the peace with your brother to be ahead of the game, and keeping him close you might be able to smell what he is cooking up next. He could easaly try to get a new car or credit cards under you name later on. Call the Equifax, and ask for a credit report in your name, and then let them know you want some security on your credit. They will help you and making sure when you are 18, to continue to monitor your credit. He could do so much with your personal information. Good luck and take care!
2007-03-03 18:32:58 · answer #2 · answered by HOPE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can choose your friends but not your family. However there is no law that says you have to like your family members or how many chances you must be willing to give them. Only you know how much you are willing to do. Either choice you make, either to forgive him or despise him would be a perfectly logical and acceptable under the circumstances. Blood is thicker than water, but with blood like that who needs enemies?
I have personally always felt it was healthier for myself to not hold a grudge against someone and if I can forgive someone it is better in the longrun. However I will also only take so much sh_t and after that I am done, and when I am done, I am done with that person. It is not so much that I hold a grudge against them, rather they just cease to be an important part of my life and in a way cease to exist.
2007-03-03 18:29:57 · answer #3 · answered by Great Dalmuti 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a case of family feud about the financial situation inside the family circle. It hink you have the right to know and control the whereabout of your parents money cause you are still single and studying. Your bother is a married man and he needs financial support of your father. And, the fact is, your bother finds his way to get money from your parents without your knowledge, and, that's what irritate you always.
Your situation calls for you to guide your parents in all their undertaking about money especially your "smart" brother. Talk to your bother and I think, also together with his wife. Explain to them the situation that you care for your parents life and also yours, that some of the money is for your studies, and other things that concerns you. But, be sure to guard youe actions and speech to avoid quarelling. Fairly explain most that life has its meaning and that he's married and he find his life outside their family circle. They only help in some aspects but not all coming from your Dad.
Be a good talker and convince him and his wife the reason why you're doing this.
2007-03-03 19:37:39 · answer #4 · answered by FX777222999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing... Only sad thing is my parents did it to me... I trusted them with my Trust that I got when I was 17... I don't talk to them now. You can forgive however it is YOUR CHOICE to have a life with them. Choices are powerful. I am content with not having them in my life. I have no regrets. It only makes me want to achieve more. ON MY OWN. Your father chose your brother over you and that should have been that last straw. Your Father should have made a consorted effort to help you out. My Mother chose my step-sister over me and she was the one who was never there for anything. Long story-short. Bottom line is they deserve each other and the bankruptcy that followed. I say good riddance and get a credit card. Be responsible. That when you graduate you can give yourself a pat on the back.
Your Father is allowing this to happen and there for shame on him.
I wish you luck and Good Fourtune.
2007-03-03 18:34:59 · answer #5 · answered by JNM 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
some time it's hard to forgive but check this out when someone very close to my heart gotten r#$* my brother did it some would asks how and why because i could no longer stand to be angry everyday of my life donot get me wrong every now and then i think about it but it does not control me thank you god for the heart of forgiveness.money you can replace it's temporary your soul is enternal forgive him but make wiser choices when it come tohim handling the money you might want to speak to a lawyer
2007-03-03 18:36:22 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have rights and boundaries that no one should cross . but If that was their wish , then forgive him , but be conscious to him.
I'm sure you will not get the money back from him, and sure he won't come and ask about your mom , he simply doesn't care , and that hurts.
don't trust him again , don't give him your money again ,instead ..do things by your own and learn , for example learn to by a car by yourself , even if you lost your money in this way ,it would be better than giving it to someone who would steel it , plus you will learn something new .
2007-03-03 20:25:03 · answer #7 · answered by pianitta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has screwed your family for money. Seek legal advise. He doesn't care and is out of control.
2007-03-03 18:26:11 · answer #8 · answered by karena k 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Though you may disagree or dislike the things your brother does.
I doubt you seriously hate him. lets say your brother was to die, youd feel bad, a way to deal with this is tune him out,
2007-03-03 18:24:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't forgive your brother at this time..
Give it a few years and re-evaluate him...
Perhaps 10 yrs...
2007-03-03 18:24:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋