If he is 34 years old , shares an apartment with 2 other guys , and does not drive (has no driver's license either) ,and has virtually no savings?
Would you get in a long-term relationship with him ?
2007-03-03 18:10:44 · 28 answers · asked by Y 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
But he is nice , caring , and easy to talk to, and has a great sense of humor
2007-03-03 18:11:49 · update #1
But he is nice , caring , and easy to talk to, and has a great sense of humor
2007-03-03 18:11:50 · update #2
He does not drive because where he lives has very good public transportation.
He still shares because the rent is very high
He does have a job.
2007-03-03 18:25:08 · update #3
He is a bachelor by the sounds of it and frankly at his age, he should be living on his own, unless he doesn't have a job that pays enough. Hanging out with his pals is one thing, continuing to live with them is another, unless he is afraid to be alone.
Kindness, caring, and all that only goes so far. What about his character, his ambitions, his motivators, etc.
2007-03-03 18:18:42 · answer #1 · answered by T esira 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he can't take care of himself on his own then no.
He can live in an apartment. Alone.
He needs to have a vehicle. How else is he going to get to work to put food on the table? Further more, if you end up moving in together how is he going to hold up his end of the bargain...
And he must have savings for a rainy day. What's going to happen if he loses is job? How is he going to be able to pay rent etc with out a safety net?
If he is 34 and has no sense of direction I don't think he is ready for a relationship. Then again if the girl is 19-22 years of age then they both have something in common.
Good Luck and God Speed.
Jennifer
PS A relationship in never about one person giving 100%. It's about two people giving 50/50 to make 100%. When one is giving 40% and the other is giving 60% it shows support and understanding while your PARTNER is having a rough time. It goes both ways. A relationship is about being a team with some nice benefits ;)
2007-03-04 02:22:53 · answer #2 · answered by JNM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advise to you is no, I would not get in a relationship with this guy. The living with two other guys is not a problem, it's the savings and the no driver's license. How does this guy pay his rent? Now if this guy is nice and looks good I would talk to him, but just as a friend.
2007-03-04 02:20:51 · answer #3 · answered by Vivian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because of all of those things doesn't mean he's a "loser". It sounds like he has some great qualities. There is probably a story behind why he doesn't drive or lives with 2 other guys, which might not even be his fault. Or maybe he just chose it because he figured he's single and might as well enjoy it for awhile. The bottom line is you should judge him on his personality, not by what he has or where he lives.
2007-03-04 02:15:55 · answer #4 · answered by jlg_jdf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
THAT IS A DEFINITE NO!! and not because he has no savings, but why would you even ask and think about a long term relationship when he obviously has no future? he is 34years old and is still living with room mates!! and to put icing on the cake, he doesn't drive or have a license?! hahaha> sorry let me catch my breath! come on thats sad!!
2007-03-04 02:16:06 · answer #5 · answered by Jdez 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
34 is a little old to not have your **** together but there could be a perfectly good excuse . not everyone is blessed with a great life. get to know him more and make the decision on your own. dont judge him for what hes got but judge him for the content of his character
2007-03-04 02:14:25 · answer #6 · answered by Chelsea S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends, does he work and take care of his responsibilites? That is the main question here. If he does, then I don't see anything wrong with it. Circumstances sometimes limit how we do things, don't judge them on little things they might have done in the past. If he doesn't work and take care of the responsibilities he has now, then he is a loser. Good luck!
2007-03-04 02:16:46 · answer #7 · answered by Tammy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would all depend on the personality. At first the way you describe this man i think it could turn someone off because of superficial reasons.
But there's barely anything a great personality and good heart won't help for me personally.
2007-03-04 02:15:52 · answer #8 · answered by Kaela H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would want to know why he has no savings and no car or license and is living with his roomates? He sounds a lil insecure and undecided in his life. At least he does not live with his parents. Or does he ???? Lives in basement of parents with his buddies !! No way no no and no. Does he have a job? You did not mention that or is he going back to schoool? Need more info.
Oh wait no I would not date him. DUH I am happily married to a great guy.
2007-03-04 02:19:38 · answer #9 · answered by Cassie B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, I like that you call us ladies. I would go out with you but I am too old for you. although older women are better , just like fine wine. You would not share the apartment with two guys for long, at least it is not two ladies. good luck sweetie
2007-03-04 02:15:03 · answer #10 · answered by spuds_suds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋