Should i follow my educational plan or follow my heart?

Question

I'm currently in my senior year and deep in love with a girl that i have been dating for a year when May hits. My plan after High School, before dating her was to go to PV University and major in Mechanical Engeering on a baseball and academic scholarship and then mabye go pro if good enough.

Me and my g/f have been talkin about being togather forever however we have college next and are paths are differant, which could seperate us. Neither one of us want the other 2 change schools to be with each other, but should i do it anyway. I have this feeling though if i lose this girl i would be losing the girl of my dreams the girl that was suppose to be my wife. What should i do? I'm willing to change my future to preserve are love but wut if doesn't work out anyway, don't wanna change all that for nothing. Should i really follow my heart like they say?

Answer 1

When I was in high school, I was totally in love... and then I got older and wiser, and realized I was too good for the cat. The person you are now is not the person you're going to be two, five and ten years from now. You're going to evolve many times over and you may or may not want to be with this person.

Let's say that your relationship with your girlfriend will last a lifetime. There's a chance that it will. If you love her so much, why would you want to deprive her of her education and the chance to live life to the fullest so that she can be with you and struggle and work at Starbucks for the rest of her life. That is so lame.

Follow your educational plan AND your heart. Go to school, keep in touch, if you were meant to be everything will work out. You'll see each other during breaks and during holidays. You may even break apart for some time... but if the love is truly there you will always find your way back to each other... and you will be grateful that you didn't give up on your goals.

Answer 2

If it's true love it will survive separation . If your college and future plans are what you really want you shouldn't change that for anyone. You have to be true to yourself first and foremost or you will lose yourself and end up resenting her and/or the relationship. If she's the one for you it will work out somehow. Honestly! Making a life altering change at your age is not a good ideal You have a lot of years ahead of you. Imagine how you will feel 25 years from now if you gave up your dreams?

Answer 3

Wherever you end up, you will mostly be taking Gen-Eds for the first two years anyway so your credits should transfer anywhere. If neither one of you would be happy with the current school choices, why not look into a college that combines both of your needs? College choices are not set in stone, you can always transfer if something doesn't work out.

Answer 4

The best relationships are based on delayed gratification. If your love is strong, it will be there after you complete your education. You have many years to be together, and if it doesn't work out, you will always have an education. Make a long range plan together.
Don't wake up in 40 years saying, I wish I would have.....

Answer 5

my dear is better u follow ur academic plan since u know that that is what u intended to study and fly out in colours rather than studying s'thing else and fail academically, my dear if fly out in colours ur love wont leave u but but if u fail u will irritate her.if truly she loves u changing course or school will be of no intrusion to relationship, beleive it.

Answer 6

I think you need to follow your plan. Whether or not you are with this girl in ten years, you're education should come first. Skip school, then split with her two years later...now you're double screwed.

Answer 7

you should stop asking this.... and focas on education until your out of highschool seriously.