I'm currently in my senior year and deep in love with a girl that i have been dating for a year when May hits. My plan after High School, before dating her was to go to PV University and major in Mechanical Engeering on a baseball and academic scholarship and then mabye go pro if good enough.
Me and my g/f have been talkin about being togather forever however we have college next and are paths are differant, which could seperate us. Neither one of us want the other 2 change schools to be with each other, but should i do it anyway. I have this feeling though if i lose this girl i would be losing the girl of my dreams the girl that was suppose to be my wife. What should i do? I'm willing to change my future to preserve are love but wut if doesn't work out anyway, don't wanna change all that for nothing. Should i really follow my heart like they say?
2007-03-03 18:04:12 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When they say 'follow your heart,' they are talking about following your dreams - traveling along the path that will make you most happy in life (as opposed to maybe the politically correct path or financial freedom path). If you are meant to be together, it will happen in the end. In today's world where there is no certainty or expectation that married folks HAVE TO stay together and stuff, it is not worth giving up your dreams to follow your g/f.
I say stick with your educational plan. There is always time for you 2 to shack up later. You have been dating her for a year, but you are very young. My Dad insisted that I live with the 'man of my dreams' for at least one full year (just him and I) before I get married to him. And thank goodness!! - Despite having dated/been together for a year and a half before that, sides of him came out (and even of me) that we had never experienced before.
Another rule my Dad has tried to teach me is to wait until the guy is at least 25 (or if he did mature early, he must be making payments on his own house, have a vehicle, some education (after high school) and a good job). This is not to be a gold digger or anything; it is to allow the guy to have time to grow up and hopefully have some clue about his identity in society and who he is/wants to be.
Think of it this way too - I realize you 'love' her now, but have you really seen and met everything/everyone else that is out there? There are some amazing people out there. I think we should not be 'committing' to others prior to age 23 or so - I think we need to spend time exploring the world, traveling, and meeting people of different backgrounds.
One last thought - you sound healthy and despite the inability to spell, you seem intelligent, so answer me this.. Are you ready to spend the next 60-80 years with this woman
=) Good luck and stay happy and motivated!!!!
2007-03-03 18:18:09 · answer #1 · answered by razor_cuts_4_me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really love her & u know it will work she will wait 4 u. U r so young but driven,mech eng. is tough. My daughter is in this it is very good field & we know u have brains... hahhahha.. so if your heart is her then u have a tough situation but Love waits....if it is true. Study hard prepare a life 4 that girl u love but don't loose touch . What u feel today may be different 6 months from now.As far as she goes u can hold on to her only if you try . See each other when u can. Maybe you will both find a way as your relationship grows to be with each other more ... Good luck
2007-03-03 18:19:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's a hard question to answer, and the decision has to be up to you in the end. No matter what anyone says, it's only your choice. I mean, you could choose going to that college and then finding out she was the love of your life and you will never have another shot. Or you could choose her, and something could go wrong and it would have been for nothing.
2007-03-03 18:08:13 · answer #3 · answered by blissfully_rebellious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is a hard situation but if your feelings are mutual then its like people say your love will overcome anything. Maybe this is what you will need to test the waters. If you's both feel this way the best thing to do is better yourselves now and be together later.
2007-03-03 18:10:20 · answer #4 · answered by choochi80221 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your eduaction path. If the love is real, then everything will withstand distance. If all else, see other ppl, and see where that takes you. It's up to you, hun. Good luck!
2007-03-03 18:08:10 · answer #5 · answered by Tammy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're still young, please pursue for your educational plans..
if she's still really the one you love and she truly loves you back, the distance & different colleges is not the problem. there's maybe fights, but if it's truly love, distance is not the issue..
my best friend is dating her boyfriend. she lives in north cali and he lives in south cali.. so basically they fly to see each other everynow and then.. and have been dating for 6 years (including high school).
so please consider schooling first.
2007-03-03 18:09:32 · answer #6 · answered by lelenguyen05 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow your heart. You don't want regrets. You can always change your plans if life changes.
2007-03-03 18:07:40 · answer #7 · answered by Boots 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you should decide on your own, we can't do anything. You are old engouh to decide your own life!
2007-03-03 18:07:46 · answer #8 · answered by hong_wei886 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
follow your educational plan.
2007-03-03 18:08:20 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
is this a duplicate question?
2007-03-03 18:06:54 · answer #10 · answered by K R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋