Am I going to die a bachelor?

Question

I'm 23. I've never had a girlfriend or been with a lady. I've nearly finished 4 years of undergraduate university with no success in finding someone.
How am I supposed to find a girlfriend/wife now? I'm not into the bar scene. I have no family here who can hook me up. I know dating in the workplace is impossible.

What are my options?

Answer 1

You'll need more money. Hopefully your studies were in an area where you will be able to achieve a high income.

Once you have enough money, nothing else matters to women.

Answer 2

Well Dave, sounds like you've been to busy so far to mess with a woman. Once you finish school and get a job, you might just find the time to concentrate on finding that perfect woman you seek.

Hell your only 23, you have a long time to find someone. If I were you I'd do things now that you may not be able to do later. Take some trips to places that you may have always wanted to see and do it alone!

If you wait till later you may have to put up with a girlfriend or wife that will give you all kinds of grief, ie: David, I don't want to go there, did you forget my allergies? ... lets go here, it will be much better for us (them) sweetheart! Or, Dave you know my Mother doesn't like the hot sun and sand on the beach! What on Earth were you thinking?

Dave, if I were you I wouldn't be concerned about dying a bachelor, I'd be more worried about dying a virgin!!! Have you tried picking up a librarian? You know what they say ... nerdy but dirty! lol

My advice is, don't worry to much about this, I figure you'll find someone when you least expect it.

Good luck .. you never know, Miss Right may be on your left just around the corner.

Answer 3

David,

I am in a situation more dire than yours. At least I was until just recently. I am a few years older than you, and have just recently hinted to my crush of 2 years that I am interested in her. It was just a simple note, like "would like to buy you a drink sometime". Her reply was that she would like that. From that moment, I have felt over the moon! Words cannot describe how good it feels to know that the woman you have been head over heels for realised that you like her.

I am assuming you have a crush but are finding it difficult to make a move. The only word of advice I have is ..... MAKE THE MOVE!!!!! It sounds nerve-racking, and it is until the words come out of your mouth. From there on, nothing else matters. Her reply will 99% of the time be "sure". The old cliche, "there's no time like the present" should be taken as gospel. REALLY!

Do not wait, just go and put your heart on the line, either in person, phone, email whatever. Just do it, even once and you will NEVER regret it. You will regret you didn't do it earlier.

All the best David,

RonR.

Answer 4

Hey, you're still very young, so don't fret. There's all kinds of ways to meet women. You may make friends with someone at your workplace and then they will hook you up with someone they know. You may attend some type of conference and meet a woman there. You may go to a deli to eat lunch someday and the woman of your dreams will work there. You may have to make travel arrangements through a travel agency and the agent that helps you might be THE one. The cute/nice teller at the bank who cashes your check might take interest in you someday.

See . . . . I could go on and on. The one that is meant for you will come along. You never know when. You just have to be patient. It will happen when you least expect it.

Answer 5

Aww, don't despair! My fiance was 20 before we started dating and we were both each other'rs "first"

i think its a good thing that you are not into the bar scene, that is not a good place to meet a wife. Instead, get out into the community in other ways that reflect you. Join a co-ed team, a community organization or volunteer at activites that are important to you. For example, my fiance and I met at the bowling alley on a league and we know several other couples who met that way! Find something you enjoy and get out there doing it. Don't pressure yourself either, that will send the wrong woman straight your way!

Answer 6

You will find someone someday. Maybe if you go to a restaurant, and you might fall in love with a waitress.

Answer 7

Try a dating service. If you see someone you like, walk up to them, and start talking, maybe you'll get lucky. Good luck!

Answer 8

I don't know why dating in the workplace is impossible. That is where I met my fiance.

Answer 9

You're kidding right? You have like 30 years before you should be thinking like this.

Answer 10

DONT WORRY!!!!! you're still young and things will happen WHEN it happens. just relax and start looking for friends & potential girlfriends at your college, library, and outdoors.

if not, i'll hook you up =)