i've lived with him for over a year and hes the best thing thats happened to me since my family fell apart.we fought so much after about 7 months of dating and it just kept getting worse but we still managed to work things out because we wanted it to work and we loved one another,but now everything just fell apart. ever since i was pregnant things just went downhill.i had emotional outbursts so many times a week.is it normal or is it just me?its kinda embarassing to say this but since being pregnant no sex unless i begged and he doesnt even want to passionately kiss me like we used to and when i told him how i felt he said that he wants to but he cant bring himself to because his feelings for me arent that strong anymore.now im almost due and no support.alot of ppl say being pregnant is a time where you bond with your partner and such a wonderful experience but its been a hell ride for me.it hurts so much to be going through this alone.will he come around?i just need someone to talk to
2007-03-03 17:48:21 · 15 answers · asked by thisdorkychick 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Poor guy. 35 weeks earlier would have saved him a bundle in child support.
2007-03-03 17:51:05 · answer #1 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 0⤊ 3⤋
If this is how he's acting, then I hate to say it but, he doesn't really love you the right way. A man should be excited about fathering a child and love his woman no matter what. Love doesn't just fizzle away, especially in less than a year. Re-evaluate the entire situation. You're going to have a little boy or girl to raise for the rest of your life. You don't need baggage like this man lying around, bringing you down. I don't really trust guys who act like this. I want you to read a book. It's called the Breakable Vow. I had to read it in high school. It's probably far more dramatic than your situation, but the truth is there. Search for a pattern in his behavior. If it resembles the main character's boyfriend, get out of that relationship for the sake of yourself and your child.
2007-03-04 01:58:03 · answer #2 · answered by Kurohana 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This is terrible. It's hard to tell if the change in his feelings is because of the pregnancy or just because he's grown more distant, but his timing stinks. Unfortunately, this is one of the reasons old-fashioned conventional wisdom advises being married before getting pregnant, but judging by the chatter in this forum, it's little heeded. He will still have financial responsibility for this child, whatever happens in the relationship, so don't let him off the hook in that department. Here's a suggestion: call an adoption agency and ask to speak to a counselor. They will not require that you place the child with an adoptive family--they will help you with all your decisions. It may be the someone to talk to that you need.
2007-03-04 01:57:32 · answer #3 · answered by Wise Advice 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I am sorry to know you're in a situation like this. Well, it's obvious that he doesnt care much about you anymore. I know it's hard to get rid of a feeling specially when you have a baby with him. I dont see the reason why he would come around after he said that his feelings are not stronger to you anymore. I am sorry to tell you this but that's already a sign that he does not want to deal with you anymore. Now, the most important thing is to think about you and your baby's health. I dont know how it feels to give birth with no support but I bet it's gonna be hard. Dont think too much about getting a support or not, what you need to do now is to focus on you and your baby.
2007-03-04 01:56:38 · answer #4 · answered by sweetcherry 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You loved one another? If he loved you, why did he not marry you? I know how it goes; the man will say, "I do not agree with marriage because so many break up! They may point to their parents marriage or others." His gf may say the same thing as this is our times. Since over half do not work and end in divorce, then we consider shacking up! Yes, if he loved you he would be with you at this time. You were a bed partner and that is how it appears. Look for a REAL MAN that will love you with showing it! Ask God for help and His forgiveness for making the original mistake! Rule: don't shack! God bless. Earl
2007-03-04 01:59:08 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You do not want him around, wasn't being hurt this one time enough. His kind will not change. You will soon have a child to take care of. I would never trust him to care for this child at all. He cares little for your feelings. Do not trust him with a crying baby. There are good men out there, take your time and do not rush into another relationship. I know you are hurting but soon you will have a little one to love and care for. Time will heal the hurt.
2007-03-04 01:59:39 · answer #6 · answered by JAN 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He probably isn't going to come around I know I've been there too
My son is almost 6 now and I am married to a wonderful guy but sadly (for my son, not me) his father is still not mature enough to be there for him. Pregnancy is a terrifying emotional experience and it sounds like your man is either unwilling or unable emotionally to be what you need him to be. But i promise you you can do it by yourself just don't give up. One day there will be someone there for you..
2007-03-04 01:56:28 · answer #7 · answered by flamstrosity 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
you really need to talk to this guy. tell him that you're carrying his baby and you both need to make an effort is raising the baby together. he need to realize that he's the father. and besides, your moodiness is only caused by your pregnancy... you both need to reevaluate your goals and realize that you're having a family.
if this guy decides to leave you, either he must stressing out and needing some time to think or maybe he's just not ready//
and i see there are some relationship issues, but if it cannot be solved AND if you both are no longer together... he still needs to acknowledge that he's the father and you CANNOT go through this alone.
2007-03-04 01:55:26 · answer #8 · answered by lelenguyen05 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He is a sick man get a shot gun and fill it with rock salt and shoot him in the ****, a troubled family you are looking at the same you had in your old family life. Good luck I hope he comes around, the prick is not only hurting you but the child, and he needs to have his butt kicked, and the name Lorana bobiit comes to mind. if he don't grow up get some good buddy freinds to thump on his head to straighen him out. he's confused and stupid too. Sorry. asking him if it didn't feel good when he was making a baby? tell him it didn't excite you much see how he likes it.
2007-03-04 01:59:23 · answer #9 · answered by Right 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I had lots of emotional outbursts when I was pregnant too. I was probably nearly impossible to tolerate. I dumped her dad when our daughter was about 2 months old, and we don't even speak anymore. This guy is not worth your trouble....you can find somebody who will treat you and your child a lot better.
2007-03-04 01:55:42 · answer #10 · answered by LadyLindsay 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i am really sorry about your situation,but don't worry,just be calm.no amount of anger can change him.keep a low profile,just make sure that he knows every details about your health and delivery through email or friends and should not nag him,if he does come back its the best .but if he doesn't ,you just get on withyour life.
2007-03-04 03:19:59 · answer #11 · answered by alec. 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋