Women all tell me they wish they had a compassionate guy who treats women with respect. I am this kind of guy. I am told I am a good looking guy. I have been told I am a gem and any woman would be proud to have me. So what is the problem? When I meet someone who I think I would be interested in I can't even get a phone number. I am not one to play the so called dating games. I have even been on a couple of dating sites. I email w/ no responses. I use humor, compassion, ect.ect. No results!! I am not a bar hopper. I always said if I found someone it would be someone from church or a friend of a friend. I am getting very discouraged. Help me out. What ideas can ya'll give me?
2007-03-03 17:48:06 · 4 answers · asked by Art 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Art,
You are one of many my friend. I too had problems long ago. I learned if you try too hard it just doesn't happen. When I quit looking it started to happen and frequently. When I quit showing interest, women started hitting on me! After awhile my confidence increased and I learned that the best way to get women to show an interest was to quit looking for a girl friend and just start looking to make a friend. Women want someone who make them feel comfortable. That gives them less pressure to deal with and they actually get to know you better and a whole lot faster. Less time is wasted on keeping those protective walls up. It also will give you more insight into what they are really like inside. If more men and women that get married would start that way there would probably be less divorces. I am still labeled as you are(the first four sentences in your posting). But the last three women I have dated have had enough time to get to know me and added that I am one of the most romantic and insightful men they have ever met. Don't give up - just change your direction by taking an easier approach to life. You will be recognized for who you are inside and when it does happen don't be surprised if you start getting more attention than you bargained for.
2007-03-03 18:10:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not all women want what you have and they are fools. Dating sites are creepy, stay away from them. Women that are looking for a good men tend to be cautious because they have been hurt before or are unsure. Asking for a number is a little forward. It takes me awhile to be comfortable with any guy having my number.
Here are some suggestions to get any girl to raise an eyebrow in your direction.
1) Be yourself, but not directing attention toward her. If she's one of those strong types, she'll want you to notice her and put herself out there.
2) Talk about your good qualities with a buddy while a girl is conveniently within ear shot.
3) Make this world wide complaint out loud, again in the company of friends. Any girl around who likes to prove men wrong will be willing to discuss this with you (opening a chance for you two to meet).
4) Travel. Moving around will help you see the world in a whole new perspective.
2007-03-04 02:17:23 · answer #2 · answered by Kurohana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women are the anti spock. There isnt a logical bone in their body. So they say they want what you hear, and maybe they really do, but what they fall for is the jerk, be an asshole and they come a running.
2007-03-04 01:52:14 · answer #3 · answered by moolie_wfo 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
We are all individuals with different likes and dislikes. Just like snowflakes, no two are the same.
2007-03-04 01:55:42 · answer #4 · answered by starrynight1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋