job that does'nt pay too much so most of the time I was struggling, the only time I hear from her is when she needs somthing, she has done alot of things to me to hurt me, she has lived with me on and off, with her baby, and calls me and says I can claim them, now she wants all the money. I feel like keeping some for myself, but feel guilty, should I or not?
2007-03-03 17:39:48 · 10 answers · asked by kathleen h 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If she has ton of money, why do you let her stay with you on and off?
You are not obligated to give her anything of yours.
You got to put your foot down.
2007-03-03 17:44:01 · answer #1 · answered by Spring 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She definitely seems like a user. However, a lot of times parents point fingers at their children and never point a finger at themselves. Parents believe they can manipulate and use their children and get upset when the same treatment has been used against them. You seem to have no problem with claiming your daughter (who has all this money) and her child and then keeping the money for yourself. If she does nothing but hurt and use you then keep your distance. It's called tough love. Using the same childish, manipulative tactics against her is only going to add to the cycle.
I'm still, however, trying to understand why you need to claim someone who has all this money. Doesn't she have a job and is able to claim herself? If she is so dependent on you, chances are she is struggling herself. Stop the cycle and strengthen your daughter, your grandchild and yourself.
2007-03-04 02:02:37 · answer #2 · answered by jussagirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't really know what to say but if you can claim for them you should keep so much for board or other expenses but aren't you supposed to give them so much of it, if it was my daughter i wouldn't personally be asking this i would just do the right thing sorry, your daughter is your daughter nobody is perfect in life and kids don't ask to be born sorry but it's true. I think there may be a little more to this story because why should any child be spiteful and cruel to a loving parent, talk to your daughter find out why she behaves the way she does your her mum act like one sorry harsh but you chose to have her help her sort her life out and good luck :)
2007-03-04 04:40:39 · answer #3 · answered by clare w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A mother's love never ceases to amaze me. My kids don't call me either; whenever I call them they said they love me. But they don't visit. The only time they call is when they need something from me.
As a mother, you still love them and care for them and pray for them.
Don't expect anything from anyone even your own kids. Take care of yourself and do what is right. Search your heart, you know the answer.
2007-03-04 12:08:50 · answer #4 · answered by childofGod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does she feel guilty about the way she has treated you?
Are you not entitled to a life?
Can you not stand up for what you believe in, or has she she so devalued you, that you no longer have any self-esteem?
She sounds like a bully who has made you feel unimportant.
"Fight" for your Rights, as a HUMAN being & a parent!
Teach her to show you some respect by having some for yourself.
Don't give in to her greed & selfishness!
2007-03-04 03:32:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you already claim her on your taxes and recieved a refund? If so it's yours in my mind and you can do what you want with it. She lived off of you and now wants more? Tough love is better than no love.
2007-03-04 01:45:09 · answer #6 · answered by Skinny 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
kids.. wow i don't know what to say she obversly is a greedy one i think it is up to you how you go about this.. i have no probs with my kids they are great !! just normal and cheeky but as far as money or towards me they are great..
don't feel guilty for anything you do .. YOU are the parent ok..
2007-03-04 01:45:53 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is right to keep some for yourself. after all if this is the way she is treating you, who is going to look after you when u need it. a parent's responsibility is to raise a kid, feed, clothe, send to school, instill good values, and keep a little cash for them as starter money when they finish school. when she gets a job, and can stand on her own, then its time for you to look after yourself. its time now that you enjoy your time, your income, go travel. you have already done your job raising her. let her to stand for her self. her kid is her responsibility not yours. just like you shouldnt expect her to look after you too. but when children do, look after their parents, then that is just a bonus.
2007-03-04 01:52:51 · answer #8 · answered by mela 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kathleen,
Our kids have no obligation to us - Find your own way and life - She is a user
2007-03-04 01:43:35 · answer #9 · answered by Beth Owen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry. That's terrible.
2007-03-04 01:42:26 · answer #10 · answered by marincaligirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋