We have been together 7 years.
2007-03-03 17:36:58 · 18 answers · asked by debbie2243 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Chatting? Uh, yeah I'd say righteous anger about covers it. If she wants to "chat" she can call one of her girlfriends. Stand your ground. Seven years is enough time, he should know that it's going to upset you.
2007-03-03 17:47:53 · answer #1 · answered by lost and found 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have been divorced for 11 years and married to my current wife for 9 happy years. My ex and I often chat on the phone and sometimes in person. Usually our contact revolves around our daughter, when I pick her up or vice-versa. The bottom line is that it is not a golden rule that two people must hate each other simply because they have gotten a divorce. My wife has often participated in my and my ex-wife's conversations. She trusts me, because I have never given her reason not to. You need to ask yourself if you completely trust your husband. If you do, then their conversations should not be an issue. No matter whether or not you trust his ex. If you get along with his ex, try befriending her. There is no need for you to be excluded in their conversations, just be careful not seem untrusting with your husband.
2007-03-04 01:49:28 · answer #2 · answered by Jimmy C 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Some people stay friends although their marriage failed. You didn't mention whether your husband and his wife have children together.
No, it is not righteous, and it is not indignation. It is jealousy - and jealousy can ruin a marriage. Stop being envious of the relationship that they shared before you came along.
BTW, if you don't want to ruin the friendship that you and your husband have now, you had best get control of your feelings quickly. Do not try to justify them, free yourself from them.
2007-03-04 01:44:15 · answer #3 · answered by annie rose 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have need to be concerned. It sounds like still after even seven years he may not have his ex out of his system. Do they share children together? If they do that gives them good reason to stay on friendly terms, but if they don't, then they have no business talking period.
My daughter's ex husband is soon to marry another girl, but he keeps calling my daughter saying that he loves her and he comes over to her house and they sleep together. I feel so bad for his soon to be wife, cause she is clueless.
Just be cautious
2007-03-04 01:46:35 · answer #4 · answered by GraycieLee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If there are children from the first marriage, AND she is calling to discuss them (or even if they simply remained friend) then I would say you may be over-reacting. If it seems like she is trying to "get him back" then I would say that you need to let her know that she is crossing the line and that she should back off.....
Infidelity is abhorrant to most religions, so both your husband and his ex need to examine how their conversations may be contributing to the appearance of infidelity.
2007-03-04 01:45:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anne Hatzakis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
are there any children they have together which they may need to talk about? If not he is disrespectful of you.
Just chatting is not just chatting. Talk to a pastor or a therapist. Go alone if you have to. They will guide you to know what to do.
2007-03-04 01:44:27 · answer #6 · answered by winkcat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he doesn't have kids ffrom his other marriage, then rip his manstuff off. Men who stay 'friends' with ex's are looking for more than friendship.
2007-03-04 01:50:04 · answer #7 · answered by Michael S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Righteous anything has to be based on God, not on our feelings. Righteous means to be Godly.
2007-03-04 01:44:51 · answer #8 · answered by Poohcat1 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unless it is about a child they had together, that is pretty weird and it would bother me. If they are discussing a child, then you have to understand.
2007-03-04 01:42:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No, I think it's prudent. He doesn't ned to be talking to her except when dealing with any kids that may be involved.
2007-03-04 01:40:58 · answer #10 · answered by Wookie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋