What's up with women?

Question

Women all tell me they wish they had a compassionate guy who treats women with respect. I am this kind of guy. I am told I am a good looking guy. I have been told I am a gem and any woman would be proud to have me. So what is the problem? When I meet someone who I think I would be interested in I can't even get a phone number. I am not one to play the so called dating games. I have even been on a couple of dating sites. I email w/ no responses. I use humor, compassion, ect.ect. No results!! I am not a bar hopper. I always said if I found someone it would be someone from church or a friend of a friend. I am getting very discouraged. Help me out. What ideas can ya'll give me?

Answer 1

First off, dating -is- a game. Don't take it personally if you are rejected; have fun! Secondly, its also a numbers game. On average, only 1 in 10 women will be interested in you and possess good traits of Integrity, Flexiblility, and Giving. Again, don't take it personally if you are rejected; it doesn't mean that you are a bad person, it's just the nature of the game.

When it comes to women, follow the 3 Cs:
1) Confidence: Self-Esteem and Self-Confidence
2) Control: Self-Control, Patience, and Discipline
3) Challenge: aspect involving mystery, being hard to get, making the woman the aggressor for once

When you first see a woman who catches your eye, go talk to her within 3 seconds -> Confidence; spend only 3-5 minutes maximum per woman. Avoid heavy subjects like sex, religion, and politics. Try not to give out information about yourself except for your name. Ask for her HOME phone number; this is a test of her Interest Level in you. If she is interested in you, then she will give you her home phone number; but it's okay if she gives you her cell or e-mail (since women must protect themselves from psychos). Then exit the conversation first--> Challenge!

Guys do the picking; girls do the choosing. In a relationship, it's the woman's Interest Level in you that counts. It's always best to approach girls who give you buying signals, such as the twirl of the hair, smile, eye contact, touching, etc.

As for finding women, you need to expand your horizons to the supermarket, bookstore, shopping mall, gym, dance class, etc-- everywhere there is a woman you could be interested in.

If you do get the phone number, call 5-9 days later -> Challenge. Keep the conversation short again; 3-5 minutes, ask her out for the following week at least 5 days in advance; that way she won't have a good excuse as to why she can't go or cancel the date (and if she really likes you, she wouldn't even with a broken arm!) Make sure it's not a movie/dinner date, cliche and not enough face to face interaction. If she enthusastically says Yes, then you are in. Any hesitation or stuttering or excuse = she's not interested. If she says she can't make it, she will give you a counteroffer, or she is NOT interested in you. When they like you, girls help you <--- common sense isnt it?

Good hunting!

Answer 2

No offense but maybe you seem too desperate for their numbers? Sometimes you don't really have to work so hard and the right person will find you. Just move on with your life as normal and don't expect anything. Expectation comes with disappointment. You never know, the special someone might suddenly appear and ask for your number instead.

Answer 3

You have answered your own question. Being a nice guy is not working. Mix in a large part of being a jerk. The girls say they want a sensitive guy, but bang the jerk every night.
I had to develop a jerk attitude and am now happily married to a wonderful woman.

Answer 4

Someone told me that love will come to you and although blind dates suck; you hang out with your friends because you like their personalities.. so if they have friends that are single, your personalities could be compatable.. Sorry to say this out loud... but ask your friends if they have any single friends... (Make sure you see a picture first) and talk to them on the computer/phone before you go out... it makes things less awkward.

Answer 5

Dude, it's obvious that you have no game. There are many broke, ugly men who still seem to get women... they have game.

I'm a woman and couldn't tell you what's up with us. For some reason we like bad boys and overlook men who are compassionate and respectful. And when we don't overlook them, we get easily bored with them. Men were made to hunt, and I guess we women like hunters. *shrugs*

With that said, please don't change, because there are women who adore nice guys... maybe you just haven't approached any of them.

Answer 6

You just havent found the right one. Keep looking and dont be discouraged! Life is interesting and you just can not force things like you want it to be. I suggest you to keep looking and just dont give up. There will be someone eventually who responds you. Just be yourself and don't try to act to be someone else.

Answer 7

Women are generally dishonest. If a woman tells you that you're a gem and so forth, and isn't sleeping with you, she is lying.

Answer 8

Its not you at all. Sounds like your a very good catch. She will come along in time. Just be patient. Maby its the kind of girls your chasing. Sounds like its the wild ones your attracted to. God bless you and good luck.

Answer 9

Go to a different Church or maybe you already found her and you don't even know it, you guys could be best friends.

Answer 10

Be confident and don't worry. Every dog has his day. I've had my streak of bad luck with the birds but hey, you just keep on going. It's not like you've asked every girl around. One's bound to like you.