Her name is B. I love her, she is gorgeous. This made "A" very mad at me, said she was "replaced", which she asked me to do. Says its a woman thing. "A" got fired by her new boyfriend in January, and is devastated. Cries all the time. She flirted with me during their entire romance, but the rejection is killing her. "A" and I still go on runs/workout together from her place, but then she does not want me to leave. She hints she is sorry she left me, won't come out and say it for fear of another rejection. I love her and at times want things back as they were, but also love B. "A" is a workaholic like 80+ hrs a week, B works part time. I know I am an idiot, go with B end of story, but I cannot stop thinking about "A", yet not sure she will get over her workaholism any time soon. What to do, I love two women, have a long history with A have known B for six months. My friends envy me about B. "A" is very attractive but not like B. ???
2007-03-03 17:28:37 · 7 answers · asked by r1q7d2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't let attraction play a key role in your decision, because beauty eventually fades. Just ask yourself which one you see yourself growing old with, thats the easiest way to figure it out. "A" may want you now because she didn't expect you to be able to move on so quickly and jealousy is setting in. She also realizing that you can do better which makes anyone person male/female realize what they had. Those feelings "A" has now for you will not be permanent if you was to ever leave "B" and go back to "A" the same thing will repeat itself and she will urge you to move on. The best thing to do is work on your new relationship and quit seeing your ex as much so that can give you time to realize where you want to be.
2007-03-04 07:49:50 · answer #1 · answered by J-Remy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It shouldnt be about who is more attractive. it should about who makes you feel good about you, or makes you want to be a better person or who has more goals and motivation in life, it should be about who do you see your self with in the long haul. You have to think about what you want out of a relationship and which one of them can offer that.
And of course A is hurt. It is really hard for a woman to see her love with some one else. It happened to me. But as soon as we started to move on with other interests....we jumped right back into "us" and dropped the outsiders. Our history together was something neither of us could let go of. We are happy and (hopefully) wouldnt give that up again.
2007-03-03 17:37:56 · answer #2 · answered by Lola 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may want to allow her bypass,and certain its a lot less puzzling suggested then doing it. If she ain't prepared to hearken to you,then note of her wish and leave her.i imagine its better you 2 end as friends.Having her as a buddy is larger than no longer having her on your existence. Loving her wont make her come decrease back.of route she is falling for this guy.What extra do you opt for to tutor that she doesn't opt for to artwork on your relationship? i imagine you owe it to your self to bypass on,and stay a clean existence.manage your self,purchase new outfits/shoes,get a hair reduce.merely because your love existence ain't operating the way you wanted it,doesn't advise you may want to quit treating your self. Its like that declaring ''pretend it til you're making it'',it wont be straight forward getting over her,yet a minimum of you wont look scruffy for the period of that element. some people stay existence being bitter via problem that are akin to yours. I merely wish you ain't one in each of those people. there is and could be a lady obtainable who will love you and performance a similar fee as you concerning relationships.
2016-11-27 20:12:58 · answer #3 · answered by mcraney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tough spot, but do what you want. if you're with B and thinking about A all the time, that's not fair to B. but if you're with B and truly happy and can see yourself with her in the long run, forget about A and stay with B. history is hard to get past, but people move on all the time. if B is so wonderful, move on from A. you're lucky to be in such a situation to be able to chose.
2007-03-03 17:33:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stick with B!
1) A had her chance with you and she blew it by dumping you.
2) When it's over, don't ever go back.
3) A wants you as a rebound guy so she can break your heart again and feed her fragile ego.
The choice should be very easy.
2007-03-03 17:36:01 · answer #5 · answered by nerdyjohn 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like your heart is with A, but she just isnt around that much. B looks good to you so I know its really hard to give that up because I'm a sucker for good looks too. Tell A you would be with her if she agreed to stop working so much. Even if B is fine, your heart will not be content because it longs for A. I'm telling you from experience, FOLLOW YOUR HEART! You will thank me later I'm telling you...............
2007-03-03 17:35:30 · answer #6 · answered by Wisdom 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok you need to leave A and go with B and for you to be able to do this stay away from A no more working out together or going on runs... ok???????????????
2007-03-03 17:36:01 · answer #7 · answered by sadgreeneyes3 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋