Which is worse?

Question

Not being able to care about things to the point that you don't care whether you live or die?

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Having so little motivation that you don't commit suicide out of sheer laziness?

Yes, ano I'm depressed. Have been for over ten years.

I'm not going to a doctor because they have nothing to offer (done that).

I don't find friends comforting.

Had a near death experience (two if you include suicide attempts), didn't change a thing.

Answer 1

I like daisys

Answer 2

Sounds like you got both so do you really care whats worse? I have depression and if your friends no use then honey you got the wrong friends.I didnt think the doc was much good either but found the councillor very good talking is the best cure i thought "yeah right" but is does help.So tell me whats worse- Feeling that low that you contemplate suicide not giving a stuff about the people you leave behind and the mess they would have to deal with. OR Getting off your backside, talking to someone and getting your mental state sorted out. you can get out of that pit. stop using it as an excuse. Oh and good luck.

Answer 3

I don't know which is worse. I feel the first one at the moment about not caring whether I live or die. A short time ago I considered killing myself but found I could not do that because of the pain and suffering it would cause my family and they mean too much to me.

I am suffering with PTSD which was caused by finding my partner dead and not being able to revive him. I am receiving counselling for this and am finding it helps me to get through things day by day. Its helping me to cope with all the emotions and understand what happened.

You say you had a near death experience (presumably other than the suicide attempt) this may be the cause of your distress and its very important that you receive help to talk it through and deal with it. Blocking it out wont work, I tried that, it will only keep coming back and each time will be harder than the last.

Please consider getting counselling it is easier to talk with someone you don't know and you will find that they will not judge you. They will help to guide you through things at your own pace and bring you out to a better place.

Answer 4

Haha, I hate to say this but for me it seems the two go together.
So there's no either/or for me, I just get both at the same time. It sounds to me like you're just wording the same problem with two different views.

I'm sorry you feel this way, because I've been feeling the same thing and I know what it's like. I feel like I'm in the twilight zone half the time, I don't recognize myself.

However, my apathy has led me to a lot of addictions, and I wouldn't recommend the same for anyone else. But it gives me something to stay alive for. I've generally gotten into the habit of scaring myself or dissociating any time I really feel the urge to commit suicide. It's not the perfect solution, but I'm still here. Isn't that what everyone wants you to be, alive? (sarcasm)

I wish I could help. But that's impossible; how could I help you out of a hole when I'm just as far down it as you?

If you ever want to talk, though...feel free to message me. I don't know what we'd talk about, but I'd be open for anything. If you just want to rant, or complain, or have philosophical discussions about life and death...whatever.

Answer 5

I am on a med that help control this exact thing.
If you get the right mix, you can moderate in between.
Of course it is better to be too lazy to commit suicide.

Get to a Neurologist. It took a few years, but now there are excellent drugs to balance the two.
I take one type twice a day and one every morning.

Mine has been under control for about 4 years as long as i don't forget the meds.

Answer 6

If you stop believing that you are depressed and try to change, maybe you wont be depressed and life will get better! I'm not being funny, am talking from experience. There are honestly people out there worse off than you and it really does help if you try and help them, makes you realise what you have got. If you have real problems then you need help in solving them, if not the only way you will ever stop being depressed is to make yourself believe that you can stop being that way!

Answer 7

Easier said than done but you have to talk to yourself and ask yourself what you really want out of life, then just kick your own butt and tell yourself enough is enough and that you are now going to turn your life around. You can do it!!!! Its your life and a very precious life it is too. Maybe helping other people is the way to help yourself, there are a lot of people out there worse off than you and by helping someone you will help yourself. Life WILL be good you just need to make it happen. GO FOR IT and GOOD LUCK

Answer 8

Since ive already been the second one, probably would be the first. Not sure if I could even do the first though. It's part of me to care, it would'nt be so easy to get in that frame of mind.

Answer 9

Worse is
asking leading questions and not getting around to the question you really want to ask.
A lot of people really feel like life has so little to offer that they wonder why they go on. Sometimes it is called depression. A lot of people get over it by talking it out. Sometimes with a good friend and sometimes with a counselor.
Life has a lot to offer. People who have close calls with death sometimes see its value. I hope you will someday.

Answer 10

If you feel like that you need some serious (or comical) happiness in your life but for the sake of answering I'll say the latter

Answer 11

This is all too much first thing on a Sunday morning but there is not a lot to choose between them, try finding a middle ground,