will i started working with him 5 weeks ago and he has benn giving me special treat ment if you no what i mean what should i do
he is nice but............
2007-03-03 17:21:07 · 14 answers · asked by Dianna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is an awkward position to be in. If you welcome it, feel free to pursue it. If not, file a sexual harassment suit.
No pun intended.
2007-03-03 17:24:39 · answer #1 · answered by khanofali 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it! This can spark a lot of problems.
1. You don't want to be known as the "easy" office girl
2. He'll have you on a leash, you won't be able to do anything without his say so because his special favors will be dangling over your head.
3. It may be the beginnings of sexual harassment.
4. Always work hard to get where you want to be in life, no matter where you are. The rewards are far more fruitful. Going with the flow this guy is trying to set for you is taking the easy way.
Ask a trusted co-worker who has been there for awhile about him to see if he's done these kind of things for girls before you. If so, he's a definite pervert. If not, he may actually like you. If he's not married, and turns out to be a great guy with no hidden agenda, take things slowly and cautiously.
2007-03-04 01:32:30 · answer #2 · answered by Kurohana 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is really sexual harassment, he will be using your job as a basis for your attention outside the office; otherwise it is not. Maybe he just likes you? But it usual is not a good thing to have a relationship with a superior at work. No matter how hard a boss or a worker tries to separate the business side with the dating side, it cannot be done. A close friendship is also hard to regulate from the work ethic. So friends in the office, not a bad thing; but outside the office will conflict with the job! If he is not doing anything to use the job as a crutch to get to you; but seems to be honestly caring for you, WHICH IS NOT LIKELY, then it may lead to marriage. That seldom happens, however. God bless. Earl
2007-03-04 01:36:30 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Set clear boundaries. Encouragement is felt when boundaries are crossed and not punished in some way. Go over his head of he continues unacceptable behavior. Most companies have harrasment clauses in their handbooks....and document everything so in case there is an issue in which his behavior becomes in question, it will be more than just his word against yours...and when possible don't be alone with him, especially if working late, etc.
Good luck, and don't be afraid to leave the job if you continue to be uncomfortable and there are no avenues to extinguish his inappropriate behavior. It's better to be safe than sorry.
2007-03-04 01:35:22 · answer #4 · answered by lnh4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want a chance at a career, accept his advances and sleep with him. It will further your career, and give you quite a head start over the other girls in the office who are vying for the same jobs.
If the thought of the old, wrinkly fart heaving on top of you disgusts you, report him to your Company's Equal Opportunity Office for Sexual Harassment. Be prepared for unjust retribution and think about looking for a new job.
2007-03-04 01:30:59 · answer #5 · answered by warhorse 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont date him whatever you do. That could turn ugly very fast. Just keep the thrill of the chase. Smile & be polite but dont let it cross the line as in calling each other or making dates because work & pleasure dont mix. I think my manager is attracted to me because he gives me the best hours on the schedule and I never have to work weekends and everyone gets mad about it. He compliments me a lot too. I know he likes me, but I would never let it cross the line though. Thats doing too much.
2007-03-04 01:28:17 · answer #6 · answered by Wisdom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he is giving you special treatment, it could mean a couple things, one , could be he wants you to be very comfortable with your job and be efficient, and he is trying to give you confidence in your job.
Second, is he married?? well 5 weeks is long enough to amke a judgement of his real intentions..unless he has been touching as he talks and gives you that special treatment you mentioned.. 5 weeks isnt enough time. your last sentence ended with"HE is nice BUT..".
so what is the but for???
2007-03-04 01:29:39 · answer #7 · answered by wongfiehung2003 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay professional, you are probably not the first. However if you do decide to go further with him and things turn bad, how are you going to deal with him at work. Especially if he starts showing attention to another woman right in front of you.
2007-03-04 01:31:47 · answer #8 · answered by Miss G. H. Etto 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not interested, cut it off, especially since your co-workers have probably noticed and that's not the kind of attention you want to attract. Tell him you would like to be treated like any other employee and his advances are making you uncomfortable.
2007-03-04 01:25:41 · answer #9 · answered by Aimee L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to be careful . you dont wont to lose your job, it
could be come a problem down the road if he expise more]
he already giving you special treatment, that not good, time]
nip this right away.
2007-03-04 01:29:07 · answer #10 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
keep it straight, look for a new job unless you want to make your living on your back, and it will neve you in short order.r work, he wil tire of
2007-03-04 01:27:42 · answer #11 · answered by Right 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋