Ever since the first time having sex, I have no problem getting it up during foreplay and oral, but as soon as its time for intercourse it goes limp, and I cant figure out why, eventually after trying over and over with the same person it starts getting better, but I cant figure out why the first time, it poses a problem on many occassions
2007-03-03 17:01:43 · 13 answers · asked by alongfortheride 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sounds to me like it's more on psychical bases than anything else - you just "know" that it does so, so you expect it to happen and eventually it happens. My boyfriend had the same problem in the beginning of our relationship - he had it with his ex and it kinda passed over to me, but in the long run after we came to know each-other much better and I assured him to just relax, have fun and not bother about what might get wrong, because whatever "happens" it's still ok - after all sex is fun, not some test - everything got just right and now we have no problems at all. It just takes a little time.
2007-03-03 17:13:38 · answer #1 · answered by Victory 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you just get nervous, specially if it gets better with the same person, you are probably getting more comfortable. Just relax more.
By the way, all the idiots that made gay comments should probably not use the computer until they are old enough to have sex. Please children, go do something else.
2007-03-04 01:08:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
It's called performance anxiety. The best thing is to stick with one partner as it seems changing partners is causing you grief. This is also a safer approach for your health.
2007-03-04 01:05:43 · answer #3 · answered by outandabout 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you get nervous or scared about your sexual performance because you said once you try it over and over you get it right. I would just relax
2007-03-04 01:05:12 · answer #4 · answered by shelly63795 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
because your mind isnt into it especially if your changing partners. just think of the reward you get after all the work you put into the act.
2007-03-04 01:10:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to see a doctor. It may be something physical. Good luck.
2007-03-04 01:04:52 · answer #6 · answered by stseukn 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Its probably something called performance anxiety
2007-03-04 01:05:17 · answer #7 · answered by raykpcs 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I've had trouble getting it up ever since I read this dribble.
2007-03-04 01:13:55 · answer #8 · answered by Richard H 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Could it be that she'll tell ALL her girlfriends about you limpness? And they will, in turn, tell ALL of their girlfriends about your shortcomings? Then EVERYONE you know will look at you and the first thing they'll think is how you can't perform. I'm glad I'm not you.
2007-03-04 01:07:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 5⤋
its purely pyschological
2007-03-04 01:05:18 · answer #10 · answered by billy t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋