I don't understand why I'm still single, I'm attractive, educated, I have a good job make pretty good money

Question

I do have two children from a previous marriage but their dad is a great daddy and I have a good relationship with him. I just don't understand why I can't seem to find anyone to date? I'm starting to think they're might be something wrong with me??? I feel like I'm ready to start dating, it's been two years since my divorce. I'm just not finding anyone, what's wrong with this picture?

Answer 1

Maybe you are too busy for anyone else? Not to be rude, but between work, parenting two children, and still having a relationship with your ex, it may be hard to find any time for yourself and someone else. Also only two years since the divorce? The first year is usually spent trying to recover, the second year is usually spent trying to get the rest of your life together and back on track. Don't rush it too fast, wait for Mr. right, try to allow a little time for yourself and it will happen. Rush it too fast and you may end up with Mr Oh my gosh what was I thinking. Hang in there, and good luck.

Answer 2

After reading how you desribe yourself it probably is you no offense. Your probably setting a standard to high for people there's always something wrong. From what I've read you seem like an attractive woman and attractive woman have a tendancy to look for brad pitt as I like to say. they want someone that is fit attractive has a college degree loyal smart they try to find everything and don't give any room for something that's not there. You have no clue how many times I've been turned down for something stupid that doesn't matter. There was this one girl who I was completely amazed was dating me at all after several dates and amazing sex she asked me how old I am I happened to be two years older than her I knew she liked men older than but things were going great we were always together doing somethine for about 3 weeks and after that I never saw her again. One time after a couple amazing dates with this woman we went back to my place she was suprised I owned such a big house for my age and after a couple hours things got exciting she took my shirt off to find I have a tattoo a rather large one that can only be seen when my shirt is off but shortly after she came up with some excuse not to have sex and then I haven't heard from her since. I make well over 100k a year I got turned down because I didn't have a college degree it didn't matter how much money I make. things like this seem to happen often to me and I see it happen to other guys. just becuase he's not exactly to the T what your looking for doesn't mean he's not a great guy. Lower your expectations a little bit and you'll find the perfect guy.

Answer 3

By what you write the only problem that you may run into is that you are a single mother. I was in a glorious romance with a single mother for about 8 years and fortunately I did not have to compete with her 3 kids for her attention. Some guys may fear that situation. While our relationship was very strong, it was not helped that her kids did not like me very much.

While it was somewhat of a challenge, I was able to handle her as the President & CEO of a home-based compamy, a mother of 3, a woman, and a lover. I would not have missed it for the world, but other guys might find even the smalles component as a reason to stay clear. The dynamic that single-women bring to a relationship is priceless.

Answer 4

Can't find anyone to date, huh? You need to look at what you are doing in your life. Men are everywhere, and almost all of them are looking, even the ones who already have ;) Get out. You won't met many men worth dating staying in your living room. Online dating, will give you a great deal of fustration and risk, but at least the chat rooms might give you good practice for flirting. But mostly, get out, go to places that the type of guys you are looking for might hang out. If you don't know what you are looking for... well, there is your first problem. Get out, practice flirting, and yes, sometimes you might fall on your face, but why worry... you are attractive, educated, and you have a good job. I think you will be fine. But... stop looking here... GET OUTSIDE... and if you are willing to keep waiting for someone to just come along... go right ahead... it might be the repair man... or the cable guy... you never know ;) ooo ooo... I know! The pizza boy!... Get OUT and MEET MEN, they are all over the damned place.

Answer 5

Your looking to hard..Just enjoy each day that comes along and do the best you can do..I have heard it said so many times "A Watched Pot Never Boils" well lookin for a good man is like that..
Alot of men will pass themselves off as knights in shiny armor only to be monsters hungry to kill..Just do what you normally do each day ,,trust me,,right when you aint lookin,,right around the corner,,you will see someone that will take your breath away...God is like that..He brings the perfect person in your life at just the right time..So relax,,enjoy life and be ready to meet the man of your dreams..Be patient...Good things come to those who wait...God bless

Answer 6

Some people just aren't made to be in a relationship. But don't worry, sometimes it just takes time. For some the time is a longer wait than for others. Just keep trying and don't give up.

Answer 7

Well, I have often found that when an attractive educated woman who has a good job can't find a date, it's probably because she is a complaining b*tch with a negative attitude and that is such a turn off for guys.

Answer 8

Tough to answer unless you at least narrow it down to:

1. You simply aren't meeting many desirable guys.
2. You know lots of desirable guys, but none of them seem to want YOU.

One thing -- a single mother will naturally put her kids ahead of a man. To make up for that, she may have to knock herself out to be pleasing to him at other times.

Answer 9

For me, I wouldn't want to hook-up with a girl that has that much baggage. Doesn't matter how attractive, rich, educated, ect. My advice, find a guy who doesn't mind the baggage.