he still loves me too. but he already had a traditional marriage which in my culture, its more important than the church wedding. i feel like im going to loose my mind. what do i do?
2007-03-03 16:51:46 · 19 answers · asked by centralmite 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Move on. You both made that decision long ago. Do not tamper with his future, but find one for yourself. Join a group. Go do volunterr work. Do something at the church. You need to refocus your life and your longings. Wish them well.
2007-03-03 18:06:40 · answer #1 · answered by the Goddess Angel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure I totally understand the problem. You broke up with him for something he did.
You love him.
He loves you but he's marrying someone else or already married?
Apparently whatever he did, you thought it was bad enough you didn't approve & didn't want to be around him. Why do you want this back in your life, now?
Just because 2 people break up doesn't mean love no longer exists between the two of them; it isn't like a valve.
But apparently since the breakup he's managed to move on, found someone else.
Unless he tells you he wants to try with you again & unless you are willing to do the same, then you have to accept things for what they are.
You are afraid and confused & that is the cause for the feelings you're experiencing. It wouldn't hurt for you to find a free or low cost agency in your city for counselling.
2007-03-03 17:08:27 · answer #2 · answered by weddrev 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing you can do. You claim he still loves you, but if he's getting married/is married, then maybe he doesn't love you as much as you think.
Grieve for a little while and move on. He will always be the one whom got away, but there is someone else out there for you, who might actually be better. Why all have that one love or relationship that end and we question what if? But, we can't go turning two people's (your ex and his new wife) lives upside down, b/c you broke up with him years ago.
Get over it and move on.
2007-03-03 16:58:38 · answer #3 · answered by Answer Girl 2007 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to move on and not ruin another relationship. Let him make the mistakes. You broke up for a reason, you are probably just upset that you aren't the one being married. It hurts and I feel bad for you, but think of the reason why you aren't with him. And if a guy will leave this woman for you, he will leave you for someone else. It sucks, but get over it. I'm sure you're a decent person who doesn't want to ruin a lot of other people's lives.
2007-03-03 16:58:36 · answer #4 · answered by s 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
The best thing you can do is let go of that fish and keep on fishing for the right one to come along. He is not the only man on this planet. What would happen if you were to have told him how you felt and he married you instead. I would guess in divorce court in about a yr or less.
2007-03-03 19:32:56 · answer #5 · answered by dlunaii 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing. You ever hear the saying "You made your bed, now lie in it?" Basically, you made your choice and now you need to live with it. You chose to break up with him. He's found someone new and moved on. How do you know he still loves you? Did he tell you? Maybe he didn't want to upset you or hurt your feelings or maybe he just said what you wanted to hear. Either way, he chose this other woman and is marrying her. If he doesn't love her, that's his problem and he has to live with his choices, just as you have to live with yours.
You have no choice but to let him go and move on.
2007-03-04 02:39:01 · answer #6 · answered by ms. teacher ft 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to watch the Movie - "My Best Friends Wedding "
starring Julia Roberts Get Over It !
2007-03-03 17:01:14 · answer #7 · answered by Always Curious 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Walk away
Let him have his life
and you have your life
what ever broke you up in the first place has not changed and he may tell you he loves you but he is to be married
2007-03-03 17:28:12 · answer #8 · answered by Cheryl J 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont listen to those other people its not a stupid question and you shouldnt just forget aboutit cause this will in a way affect the rest of your life, tell him how you fell and tell him you wish you wouldnt of broke up with him, if you tell him how you feel he'll reconsider the wedding, maybe he wount ditch her and come running back to you but the poin is he'll reconsider if the weddings a mistake, sorry i cant tell you anything else to do besides express yourself, i wish i could but i cant
2007-03-03 17:06:00 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
get over it and tell him to shut up next time he says he still loves you because if he did he wouldn't be marrying someone else
2007-03-03 17:33:55 · answer #10 · answered by flamstrosity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋