I had to tell my mom to back off again and she keeps saying she is acting perfectly normal. So my question is...
-Is it normal to believe that your daughter is going to hell and will have consequences for how she is raising her kids AND expect that daughter will let you be close to her grandkids anyway?
-Is it normal to NOT hear your daughter's 'stop it' or 'no' until she is 'rude' and makes an ultimatium.. 'you make plans with my kids without asking me again and I will take the phone away'. Finally hearing the boundry, the mother responds in a wounded manner?
-Is it normal for a mother to want you to make choices that would make HER happy, assuming that would make you happy too... even though you tell her you are happy now?
My mother is so certain that I am rude and hurtful and she is acting normal (even though I have told her 'stop, you are pushing me away!') Is she right, is she acting normal?
2007-03-03 16:51:30 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
No she isn't acting normal she is trying to rule your life and you can't let your kids see this and think it is normal or they will grow up believing your mother has the say over everything you do, tell her to stay away and stop calling until she respects your life and choices do not feel bad for doing this she is your mum and you love her but she has to cut the umbilical cord one day. She will come around eventually and realize better to have you in her life and respect you and your family than not at all, i am a mother of 2 girls and wouldn't dream of treating them in this way very derogatory good luck babes and no matter what keep strong even a court of law would see her actions ridiculous and undermining :)
2007-03-03 20:52:49 · answer #1 · answered by clare w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly, your mother is not taking the time to get to really know you. It is something to be very concern about because each of us are different and we communicate with other in a different manner.
The best way to handle it at this point is for you to spend sometime a lone and give your mother the time to really think about your words before you explode and lose the one you love. When it's time for you to return, call her first!
...and ask her did she think about what you had said? Try to be patient ok?
God Bless
2007-03-03 17:10:35 · answer #2 · answered by tony 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is acting pretty typical for a mother. Here's the thing. You are going to have to lay boundaries down to her and stick by them no matter how she responds. Give it some time, eventually she will come around and respect the boundaries.
2007-03-03 16:57:11 · answer #3 · answered by tooyoung2bagrannybabe 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds like a very controlling and manipulative mother. I dont know if it is normal or not because my mother doesnt do that but I am sure there are plenty out there that do. You are an adult, tell your mother that and if she can not respect that and your wishes, tell her to leave or dont involve her in your daily life.
2007-03-03 16:59:06 · answer #4 · answered by shelly63795 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off do you live on your own or with your Mother?
If you are living in her house that is why the pressure is there
You may need to get out on your own and if you are on your own you need to make your own boundries
:)
2007-03-03 17:17:23 · answer #5 · answered by Cheryl J 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your mother needs counseling. She is controlling and abusive.
2007-03-03 18:03:51 · answer #6 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋