my 11 yr old daughterm tells me she is old enough to date and does not want to listen to my advises?

Answer 1

spank her while its still legal

Answer 2

She is 11. She shouldn't even know what dating is. Before you know it, if you do nothing, she will be having sex, get pregnant, and be in the same position you are in 11 years from now with her daughter. Get help from her dad if he's around or a counselor. An 11 year old is not old enough to be making those sort of decisions. At that age, kids may say they have boyfriend/girlfriends and it is harmless fun. They have the "title" but thats it. When it goes beyond school, then there's a problem. Unless your daughter is able to drive, you have all the control in the world. Be a parent. She may hate you, but its your job and she's not supposed to be your friend. You'll be grateful you did. Good luck

Answer 3

My big thing with this is that it isn't advice lol. If you think she is too young to date that is your decision not hers. You can try discussing with her when she WILL be able to date though to let her know what her boundaries are. Just because "Everyone at school is doing it" doesn't mean that she should. She may do it behind your back, but then you have to step up as the parent and discipline with grounding or however it works at your house. My parents allowed me to date at 13 and I wasn't out there getting pregnant though. Just find the age that you feel is right and tell her what it is and that it's fine to tell the guys that it's all her moms fault or however she wants to word it so she isn't so embarrassed and feel like a baby. I had a friend that politely turned guys down with "I'm not allowed to date until I'm 16, but you can definitely give me a call then".

Answer 4

If she likes a boy her own age then you don't need to give her the talk about perverts.And maybe you should let her have a boyfriend that she can only spend time with when you are around.There was a good show on Rachael Ray today about parenting young children. The family went on an outing and set up a tent and the parents were instructed to speak calmly about helping each other then they all had to cross a rope bridge to let the child see for herself that sometimes she would need their help and advice in life.Sometimes a girl has her best taste in men when they are that young. I wasn't permitted to talk to the guy I liked and once allowed I became a bum magnet.

Answer 5

Ground her when she refuses to listen or goes against what you say. She is still a little girl and is incapable of making adult decisions. She is way too young to date.
I wasn't allowed to have a boyfriend until I was 16 years old. I didn't like it at the time but looking back it was a great thing. I didn't do the immature things most kids do nowadays. It gave me the opportunity to be a kid.
If you let her date, odds are she will lose her virginity at a young age and possibly become pregnant. No parent wants that for their child.

Answer 6

She is definitely not old enough to date and I think you see that. What you have to do is not talk about it. The more you say no, the more she wants to. Just make sure that there is no possible way for her to get out without you seeing (don't tell her you are doing this). If all else fails let her eat lunch with boys or go to a chaperoned SCHOOL dance with a boy. Whatever you do, keep her in places with adult supervision.

Answer 7

she sounds like she is more mature than you think Som 9 yr olds can date its like 10 going on 13 11 going on 14 It sepends on the maturity lvl Plus all this mean is Can so and so comeover...? she probably just wants to have friends over or go to the movies or skating at the local rink Its not soo bad if she dates.. as long as she isnt dating someone way older than her and she obeys you such as staying in one place being where you allow her . It sounds like she just wants a little independence and to have good times that way she can grow and learn things..its good to learn how to socialize.. plus at that age school dances.....talking about boys with friends...she may just want to socialize more girls at school a crush.... If you scare her now or are having conflicts wait 2 more years! I know your the parent but compromise a little... its ok if you go see this movie but I will pick you up at this time.. my parents did that for me and it never got out of control Im glad I wasnt one of those girls who stayed so shy and alone. Now that Im older I can look back at all the good memories ive had....

Answer 8

Way too young to date, wow. no way, you just have to tell her that she can date when you (the mother) decide that she has become a young responsible young lady, and then make sure you talk to her about what the boys want. My daughter is only 2 but I am going to be very strict with her outings, like lock her in her bedroom when she hits puberty LOL, good luck. I was an overbearing teen so I can imagine what you are going thru. Stick to your word. DO NOT GIVE IN. You don't want to be a grandmother too early do ya? (I mean that nicely by the way)

Answer 9

Well, that's too bad for her. You're her mother and if you forbid an 11 year old, which is way too young to date, not to date than she has to listen. Tell her all that 11 is too young, its inappropriate, the police, neighbours will frown on such a thing and she has to listen to you. She can have him as a friend and he can come over to your house and watch TV with her and if they want to go and see a movie you will accompany them.
Honestly if my daughter would have come up with that idea, I would have smacked on her bottom, of course times have changed in that aspect.
Kids,! you have to laugh with what they come up with. They don't realize how they fritter their childhood away with wanting to be grown up.
Good Luck to you.

Answer 10

ok i can see saying my child wont listen to my advice for like a 16 year old or soemthing...but 11????i mean at that age they should be able to make some decisions...and at least have a chance to state their views.......but i dont think a parent should be giving dating advice to an 11 year old....unless said parent wants to be a grandma soon......TELL HER NO!!!!!

Answer 11

I agree, that is WAY too young! If it were my daughter, I'd make sure of where she is, and if I find out she's seeing anyone unchaperoned, she'd be grounded. Holy doodle, what's happening to kids today?! When I was 11, I was still playing with barbies, never a thought of boys!