my parents have a serious drinking problem?

Question

hey my name is beau and im 13.my parents have a serious drinking problem every night they get drunk and they yell alot. every night there arguing. they say there getting a divorce but they never do. i ask them to please stop drinking and they yell at me for being disrespectful. its very annoying and its embarrassing.but in the day time there normal. ive been dealing with this for 5 years. i know ur going to tell me to go tell my counsler about it. but i dont want to cause im afraid to and its embarrassing. they dont hit me so u dont have to be suspicious about it. am i the only one with this problem?? i want it to end!!!!! i never wanna be like them when i get older! :*(

Answer 1

there is a wonder program called al-ateen where a lot of kids just like you go. You can call them on the phone.
they do have meetings, and online sites.
they have literature, and you will learn that u cannot control your parent's problem's, and it's not your fault.

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please just call and talk to someone who's been there, just like you.

im me if you need to chat.
i can relate

Answer 2

No you're not the only one. My household was like that too. Unfortunately you don't have a lot of power. Hopefully they will get help at some point. Try not to get too depressed about it. I know it is hard especially when you can hear them yelling. Put on the radio and look at a magazine or anything to distract yourself. Try not to listen. You will just get bits and pieces and your imagination will always come up with something really bad. I just want you to know that you do have the power to be different when you are older. I'm not an alcoholic and I don't do drugs. Growing up in that kind of envioronment can help you to see why you should stay away from these things. Good luck. Remember that you aren't alone. I feel for you. Whether they work on their problem or not, you will be out of their house and away from all that some day and when you have kids you will know exactly how you don't want to make them feel.

Answer 3

A lot of people have this problem. I did too, but my parents didn't fight with each other often. If it is really as bad as you say, you need to confront your parents. Tell them that it bothers you. If they yell at you for being disrespectful tell them that if they don't stop then you will leave. Go stay at a friends if they do. Just remember that when you are a little older and you begin to drink and stuff your parents will think you are a hypocrit. baha.

Answer 4

Hey, i am 13 also.
i think you should get someone else grown up involved or stay the night at a friends or relative. i would think it would be horrible to live away from parents permanently. maybe get a lock on your bedroom door and stay there until morning. i would feel scared about a counselor too. way scared. buy maybe you have to step out of your comfort zone and remember it will definitely help in the long run. do you have any siblings? maybe they could help. or talk to your friends. i hope this helps
stay safe and positive,
ememi200

Answer 5

you have to talk to them when they are normal. It's a real problem. you shouldnt be embarresed to tell the cousler if u have to..the drunkness may get worse and may result in hitting. go with ur parents to a late night movie to take there mind off drinking mayb?

Answer 6

commin from a family that drank alot. my mother died from drinking and driving when i was only 4yrs old. and my father had to learn the hard way. There is really nothing you can do besides talk to someone. they have to want to get help for themselfs. my father went to jail, went into rehab, was on paroll for 5 years, probation for 6yrs and his drivers licence revoked for 8yrs. he just got his licence back in the year 2000. If they can't understand how it is making you feel. they will need to learn the hard way also.

Answer 7

There is an organization you can go to check the local phone book or talk to a counselor at school They will help you and you will have support

Answer 8

go to alon..children of alcoholic parents and loved ones..they will address the issue..you are over your head and don't know your problem...also do you have a school counselor or a church pastor or priest.??this is where you start. if you really don't want to be like them..then get help now..its just that easy..have them go to AA and you go to ALNON