Is this even possible!!!! I couldn't believe it when he told me!!! What should I do? It's killing me!!! He says they're just friends because she's had a hard life and I agree she has but, they were together for FOUR YEARS!!! They have been "just friends" for two. What gets me the most is that she cheated on him and that's why they broke up. Could there still be some feelings there? How do I deal? Or do I?
2007-03-03 16:10:02 · 20 answers · asked by Andyr 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talk to him about it. If he gets defensive and won't answer you outright, then you have something to worry about. If he really loves you and cares for you, then he will be understanding of your feelings and will do his best to show you that your concerns are unfounded and unneeded because he's sweet.
Also, think about how you really feel about it. Can you handle them being friends? Are you getting really bad vibes from their relationship? Pay attention to your intuition. It's usually a good indicator of things.
2007-03-03 16:15:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I don't think there is anything to worry about. She cheated on him and that right there should be enough to tell you that he doesn't want her anymore. Yes, it is possible for ex's to be friends because I'm friends with all my ex's and have no feelings for any of them now...except my first love... but I can have a relationship with putting my feelings for him that I'll always have aside...remember there's always a reason why 2 people aren't together...
2007-03-03 16:15:24 · answer #2 · answered by Alyssa . 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as they are just friends there is nothing to be concerned about. I try to remain friends with all of my ex partners because I still like them as people even if the relationship didn't work out. I can understand that it makes you feel nervous but he's with you. You could always just let him know it makes you feel nervous so that he can be sensitive to your feelings. As long as you have no reason not to trust him you should believe him. Don't let it get in the way of your relationship. Just accept their friendship as long as it doesn't cross any of your boundaries.
2007-03-03 16:27:33 · answer #3 · answered by SophieJulien 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you should not be concerned. It is natural to feel that way. Being too concerned will only push him away for he may feel that you do not trust him. Be natural and courageous. Courageous means knowing you're scared he may leave you, yet being bold enough to let him know that you like him alot and realize that even if that happened in the future you'd be cool. One thing that guys like to feel is that they are not trapped into a relationship. They need to feel the space. Let him know that if he does break your trust however, then it will be over. This is not threatening, it is being honest and clear. Then lovingly let him know you trust him so much that you know for a fact that he will not do that.
After you have done all this I guarantee he will see that you trust him, are loving, yet not impressionable. When a woman stands up for her values and beliefs she adds value to herself. In conflict situations, add value to yourself. Don't decrease your value by going on a rage, and other silly behavior. be mature about it and so will he.
2007-03-03 16:20:33 · answer #4 · answered by AroseC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, so if i'm analyzing this properly: you have never met him yet you met him by way of a chum yet have not long previous out with him and you have been relationship him 3 weeks now Now you have no longer talked with him for 6 days and he's now ignoring you. i don't understand the way you should be cheating on him. out of your description I have not got any thought what you have been doing with him interior the 1st place (and that i'm vaguely worried that from that description of "relationship" I' m now relationship the standard public of folk analyzing this submit).
2016-10-02 08:36:59 · answer #5 · answered by koltay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is possible to be just friends but when the relationship was that long it seems a little weird. If he hangs out with you more than her and treats you like he always does than I don't think you have to worry. If he spends more time with her and talks about her get out of that relationship before you end up hurt.
2007-03-03 16:16:16 · answer #6 · answered by thefirehot1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if this dude is really feelin you then dont front about it....everyone has atleast 1 ex that their just friends with, i doubt there still feeling between the 2 of them becuz he is probably still upset curious bout y she cheated....dont let it bug you if you ever feel that she mak'n a move on him or you jus want her to know that he's with you now so step bak..wen there talking or something of the sort walk up say hi and give him an awsome unforgetable kiss
2007-03-03 16:17:30 · answer #7 · answered by physco_porsche 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would be concerbed until she starts calling him and stocking him and telling him lies about u so he will break up with u and date her again my boyfriend still talks to his exs and it dont bother me expect one of them she is stocking him and has been since we started dating and we have been dating 2 years now and she is trying everything to get him back and its not working b/c we have a strong relationship we trust each other and everything and we live 334 miles from each other and dotn see each other very much ya its hard to deal with the fact that some boys still friends with their exs but it doesn mean that u have to be concerned about it all the time until things start getting to where he dont talk to u and he talks to his ex more than u than ya start being concerned but i wouldnt be concerned until then thats my option on it i hope it helps
2007-03-03 16:37:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl,i aint trying to be mean,but if they was like that and all,yeah,they still got feelings,but,what you need to do,is dont get yourself down cuz you need your confidence cuz that makes you strong and attractive,plus,you could always casually ask your boyfriend how much he loves you,and see what he says there,i aint saying you shouldnt worry,but has he hurt you before?think of that,if you trust him just be cool,if you dont,then ask him how he feels about her and or just try to trust him,i bet it is killing you and im sry,i wish you the best of luck.
2007-03-03 16:19:09 · answer #9 · answered by *Brooke* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U don't deal girl! U have reason to think he may be cheating on u but remember this...
SHE CHEATED NOT HIM
what makes u think he would cheat?? also u have reason to be concerned but don't freak. just relax. my friend his gf hates me cause me and him are friends but i just forget it cause she doesn't control who my friends are! but anyway they are most likley just friends but if u worried trust ur guy! ask him if ur really concerned about it but just trust him and don't freak or anything. eveything will turn out fine.
2007-03-03 16:15:47 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋