When should it be?

Question

I had an earlier question that asked if 18 was too young to get married and most said yes, and that we should wait for a few years. Well, last thursday I asked her to marry me and she said yes! We are going to wait until at least our third year in college (I am going to Naval Academy and she is going to another college in Maryland not far from there). My question is for people who have already gotten married. In your opinion what is the best time of year to get married (spring, summer, winter, fall), for anniversary years which have you found more...."workable" for lack of better word. We want to get married on a wednesday (that is the day we started going out 4 years ago). Also we are thinking about getting married in the Virgin Islands (I have a house there) so if anyone know's a good church there, that would also be great, money is not a problem, so don't hold back because of that.

Again, money is not an issue, not at all, so please don't say save up for the wedding.

Another thing is, a few people have asked why I proposed so early. The answer is that I am joining the Navy and she has had some problems with that (I am not willing to discuss them unless you privately email me) so I thought this would be a good idea, I love her and nothing is going to change that, I know a lot can happen in three years.

Answer 1

To all you people telling him he needs to wait and he doesn't know what he's doing....he's 18, not a retard. It's not like he's saying he needs to get married this instant, they're going to wait a little while. And it doesn't matter what day of the week the wedding's on. The people who matter the most will be there no matter what.

I think it's great that you proposed when it felt right for you and decided to wait until it was right for both of you and your lives. Congrats!

As far as the time of year is concerned, I wouldn't worry about anniversaries cuz you'll make it work whenever. I'd say just pick your favorite time of year and do it then. But don't set anything in stone because a lot of things change in 3 years (I was engaged 3 years) You both will most likely change your minds on a lot of things between now and then. Get ideas, but wait til it gets closer to make decisions. Good luck and have fun!

Answer 2

I would get through school first, get a steady job, steady place to live, save some money for the wedding and then start planning. You're ideal day today, maybe completely different in a few years. As short as 2-3 years is, a lot can go on in the lives of the two of you; both as a couple, individuals and even in your own families.

Honestly, I would tell you Wednesday isn't too smart of an idea. Wednesday is the middle of the work week and that just isn't going to fly with people's work schedules. But, since you're 18 you probably don't know a lot about having a solid 9-5, M-F job.

Grow up a little more, and then start thinking about getting married. Why did you propose to early anyway? If you honestly think you are destine to with someone, that person will still be there in 2-3 years and then you can propose and get married then. Having an engagement ring isn't going to make your bond any stronger.

Answer 3

I suggest you wait on deciding when the wedding should be if you're getting married in 3 years. Start planning the wedding one year in advance, that is, if you two haven't completely changed as people as most 18 year olds do, or you get her knocked up, whichever comes first. :)

Answer 4

May & September are the best months to get married, weather-wise. If you are planning a VI wedding, just check the weather there and see when its the best. It doesn't matter what month your anniversary is in, you're going to celebrate it regardles, right? I think that's a weird question.

Answer 5

just get married at the beach and have a party at the V.I. house, be done with it...wedding, party and honeymoon all in one!

Best wishes to you and your lovely bride.