there's this guy i've been seeing and for 7 months he said that he was single never been married.....he would call me all the time and talk about his family and tell me how his mom wants him to get married and start a family and i went on myspace went on his page and his sister left a comment on the page and said that he is married with two kids and that he needs to stop lying to everyone on myspace. why would he lie like this?........no rude comments
2007-03-03 15:53:40 · 14 answers · asked by mrs. MJ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
maybe he loves you too much to hurt you and was afraid to lose you so he kept pushing it off? things happen and either way its all for your good just try to see a good side and be optomistic about it youll still find someone and he probablly had reasons for doin what he did. Good luck and dont be to hard on him
2007-03-03 15:58:52 · answer #1 · answered by alwayzsmilin 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
OK, you've known him for seven months. How did you know that he's single? How do you know that he has a sister? If you think that he is married already, fine. But why not make sure this time?
It's possible. If it is true. Some married people do this. I can't tell you why. It's a cruel and ugly thing to do to another person.
Have you met his sister? If not, why not? Tell him that you would like to meet his sister. Do not accept excuses. Tell him that you would like to have them both over for a meal. What about the rest of his family? Where was he at weekends? Where did he spend Thanksgiving?
Look up his name on the web, find out where the service was held, visit the person who conducted the ceremony, and ask them to confirm this. If it was a religious service, visit his rabbi, vicar, whatever, and ask them how this could happen, and ask them to mediate or for counselling to come to terms with this.
Maybe it's wrong. Maybe his ex has posted. Maybe he is married - how could you tell? You are no fool, and he may be genuine. Or not. How long has he been married, though? Do not let him away with this without answering that question. Do they have children? Has he done this to others? If he has, this is public knowledge, and you need to hear him say this aloud to you. Don't allow him to think that this is OK. He should tell you what is going on! I don't care if he's married - you deserve to hear the truth from him, not from a website.
2007-03-03 16:10:37 · answer #2 · answered by WomanWhoReads 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He would lie to you because he is used to lying and getting away with it. He figured he would get you to fall for him, then when you found out he was married, you would not be able to end the relationship easily and you would accept his married status. But if you are smart and like yourself, confront him and tell him it is over. Get rid of this dude fast, as he will lie and manipulate you till you have no self esteem and will be at his beck and call whenever he wants you...Being the other woman is a terrible life and no woman should endure it or be lied to. End this relationship and be happy that his sister let you know the truth about this scoundrel. Be assured that he has done this before. I wish you luck..and P.S. Do not accept any of the usual excuses that married men give when they are found out, like he is not happy, he is staying for the kids, he doesn't love his wife. It is all a bunch of lies, so if I were you you should just end it quick.
2007-03-03 16:03:59 · answer #3 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately things like this happen all the time. He was with you because he was bored with his marriage and wanted to change things up a bit by being with you once in a while. One thing you have to keep in mind is that there are a lot of guys out there willing to tell you whatever they think you want to hear to get in your pants, its just the way it is. I hate to tell you, but you were his booty call that he set aside for whenever he got bored or his wife was giving him a hard time. It happens, but at least you know now and you can learn from it and move on. It is better to know now than to let it drag on and drag you with it, so get out there and meet someone that will treat you right.
2007-03-03 16:04:08 · answer #4 · answered by Ray G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He did not lie to you; you lied to yourself because the signs are always all around.
Reflect on the times when you called him, where he would take you or the places where you both would go. The reason that he give you. The people you always seen and those you did not see, but you knew were in his life.
We have that problem sometimes as to lying to are selves.
the good thing now is, you can stop lying to yourself and move on to good and better things.
2007-03-03 16:01:02 · answer #5 · answered by Gypsy 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
because he is a liar. A liar will never volunteer to tell the truth to someone he is having a relationship with, regardless how long you guys have been together; the truth is the truth. You should see the fact here and stop wondering why would he lie to you. I am sorry that I have to tell you this but I've dealt with liars and yes, they would never ever be honest with you, that's why they are called Liars.
2007-03-03 16:01:38 · answer #6 · answered by sweetcherry 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Because he feels alienated from his situation. He doesn't have feelings for his wife (and maybe not his kids...sad). He is about himself, regardless of whether he seems genuine or not, so it is definitely something you don't need to deal with in your life. It is a red flag and you will only get hurt if you continue on with him.
“Expecting the world to be fair to you because you are a good person is like expecting the bull not to charge because you are a vegetarian.”
2007-03-03 16:01:25 · answer #7 · answered by Littlesby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-02 08:36:22 · answer #8 · answered by koltay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but you are in love with a loser. At least your not his wife! Drop him now he is a lier and a cheater that probably has many other girlfriends. Be blessed you found out now!
2007-03-03 15:58:38 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
this man is a predator. he is using myspace to meet girls for sex more than likely. do not believe anything he says. if confronted he will say we are separated, or i want a divorce. it is all crap. run away and do not communicate or see this man anymore. you deserve better.
2007-03-03 15:58:14 · answer #10 · answered by misse 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋