I look around and see couples everywhere. I feel extremely left out. Is this normal?

Question

Lately its been a little lonely. Im not sure how to react to this. Should I do something?

Answer 1

aw, yes it's normal-- I'm not sure how old you are, in school, or if you work---that always has an affect on finding someone---it's even more riskier to just go out and approach someone. But that's the only way. You can try a website, and search for local singles--unless you're not into that sort of thing. Or go out with friends one night and pick a good one to chat with and ask for their number--it's scary, but it helps build confidence---and try finding out if they live nearby, or work nearby, so you can have a better chance at seeing them at convenient times---make friends first, and build on it. But if that doesn't work---at least try. I was the same for the longest time---now, to me, I usually don't like relationships, cuz I'm not so good dealing with birthdays and stuff, and wanting to do stuff hehe, sounds terrible I know, I just like being alone---but I met this guy who I just love--he's the best I've had so far, and I understand now what a relationship can do for someone, at least emotionally and mentally--and it changed me and made me enthusiastic, so I understand your feelings. If you're at a time in your life where you feel rushed or something, don't worry too much, they're out there don't give up---otherwise tho being single isn't so bad

Answer 2

It's normal, but don't rush to fix it. Loneliness is easier to deal with than the problems that arise when you rush to fix it. Try hanging out with your friends more or start a journal. Times when you feel lonely can stimulate creativity and/or inner strength. Use those times positively. Negativity will only make you feel miserable. The right companion will come! Be patient!

Answer 3

You see them, but you dont see them.

You see the outside, the "public them", the "good times". The couples you are imagining arent what you are experiencing, but neither are they the actual couples. They are an idea in your head.

They are like the ideas that a young man brings to his wedding night, vague and powerful, but not based on the person he is about to go in to.

Once you know that you are fighting an idea that isnt based on reality, the way to defang it is to expose it to reality. Ask yourself if you really know how the couple fights, or where their finances are, or how gentle they are to each other. If you cant immediately, accurately, and completely answer those questions then you dont really know what the couple is feeling. You dont really know what it is like inside of them.

Every relationship has ups and downs. You cant stay together if you dont know the healthy way to fight, and effectively resolve conflicts.

Thinking that allows you to be realistic about them, and then to be realistic about your approach to guys.

Its something to consider.

Answer 4

Yes, I do believe it is normal to feel left out and lonely. But don't do anything rash or that you are unsure of. Just take your time, meet people, keep your life going, your eyes and your ears open and soon you'll find that right one for you.

Answer 5

what do you mean do something?
if you dont want a relationship with somebody, well then obvioulsy you shouldnt do it just cause everyone else is.

it just feels that way becuase theyr making out all over the place, but if you really look around, its not that many people
and if you like someone, sure, do something
make the first move.
if you want something done you gotta do it yourself
good luck girl (;

Answer 6

Well I am in a couple and I look around and see mostly single people and I feel left out! They all look so happy having complete indepence, going out meeting new guys, it looks great to me so enjoy it while it lasts.

Answer 7

Yes. Be proactive in your approach and don't fret. I think an estimated 49% of women are single(above the age of 18) Youre probably just focusing on the couples you see since thats what you lack.

Answer 8

well dont feel too left out because im sure there is a reason why u dont have a bf right now. . .i bet u there is mr. Right out there for you and u might just meet him real soon. . .maybe.

Answer 9

Completely normal, its hard being single or alone! what are you going to do, get a friend with benefits? Enjoy your self and soon someone will come along.

Answer 10

Well i guess it's normal that's how i use to feel but you just have to be pacient and wait for the perfect one. I think it's better fo u to enjoy life meet new people . just have fun your young yet.