I'm a guy and I have no game. I'm 24 and I've never had a girlfriend. My therapist told me to just ask my friends how to flirt. I'm uncomfortable with that so I'm asking you all. What do you do?
2007-03-03 15:42:41 · 5 answers · asked by THE STUDLIEST 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Have no fear, listen here, and change your life forever!
I don't normally take time out of my day to type out a long expose for someone, but I'm in that kind of mood. First off, GOOD NEWS, flirting is not something you need to learn, it's totally natural! But some bad news, it requires an even bigger obstacle to overcome: your level of confidence.
You yourself said you have no game, that's already a negative image you've projected onto yourself. Also, you said you are uncomfortable asking your friends for help. I would say you have a negative view of yourself and you are afraid of rejection, and you seek the approve (or lack of disapproval) from others.
This is something you need to change. Be confident. Easier said than done, I know. But that doesn't really matter, because if you WANT a girl for yourself, you need to get it done (it being gaining more confidence). Some people make lists of things they are good at, and lists of things that make them great guys. You could do that, or just make a mental list. Remember to dwell on why you're good. Getting "game" is a mindset. If you believe you are a great guy, and you don't take rejection personally (because honestly, who cares?), girls will be all over you.
This doesn't mean you should wait for them to come when you are feeling confident. It does still have to be YOU who makes the approach, but be indifferent and confident, ask for a number, email, anything. Start here, and you will naturally grow. But given this information, you have to make sure of one thing - that you DO start. "Knowing" this information is one thing, putting it to use is another. I wish you the best!
2007-03-03 16:00:44 · answer #1 · answered by Hermes711 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its just like learning any new skill - you have to try the different methods and figure out the best one that works for you - I know its hard - I have to go through the same thing - I had girlfriends from aged 19 - 34 a couple when I was 35 - for the last year I have not had a girlfriend - It is the longest dry spell I have had - Its like learning everything all over again.
2007-03-03 23:49:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Smile, wink, catch her eye, mirror her body language, and make sure you're not moving around constantly (look confident basically, not nervous and anxious). If she looks at you and then looks down, or smiles while looking at you, feel free to walk over. Now, introduce yourself and ask her a question, about school, or anything that comes to mind. If she seems uncomfortable or looks around a lot, she isn't interested.
Trust me, though, if she likes you, you will know, unless she's shy.
2007-03-03 23:51:17 · answer #3 · answered by Katie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't want conversation that wears out your ear listening to some creature talk on the phone even though one isn't to her ear. No, you need a do-it-er. Maybe someone on Yahoo will write you.
2007-03-03 23:56:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check out seductioninsider.com. It's pretty cool and free.
2007-03-04 00:00:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋