Let's say you meet the love of your life, but maybe your still young and have much to do, or your not ready to stay in the relationship, or for any reason, you weren't ready to find "the one"? Can that person still be "the one" or perhaps you just want them to be. Even though they say you'll know you've found the one when you meet them, what happens when you didn't want to?
Thoughts, ideas, comments?
2007-03-03 15:39:47 · 11 answers · asked by Janet 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If someone comes into your life and you think they are the "one" yet you are not ready for that type of commitment, then they really are not the "one".
However if you are just scared to make that type of commitment because you are not sure how it will turn out, then the person can be the "one" yet you may elect to pass up on that opportunity.
There are more than just one, the "one". The "one" will depend on if you are ready or not. If you are not ready, then another "one" will be there later, when you are ready. Or you might have to wait for a bit, but waiting never hurt any one.
2007-03-03 15:53:42 · answer #1 · answered by T esira 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not at a place in your life where you are ready for "the one" keep it on a friendship level for now. When/if you are ready for a relationship, then you can move to another level (assuming he/she also feels the same).
Sometimes we do just hope/want/dream someone is the one. Sometimes they really are someone we could have a great relationship with. The only way to really know is once you have a dating relationship with them. I have had wonderful friends who make lousy dating partners for me. Doesn't mean they are a bad person, just not someone I click with in that way (or sometimes they haven't clicked with me that way).
Don't jump into something if you aren't ready. There is plenty of time for that later.
2007-03-03 23:47:35 · answer #2 · answered by Just Curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on where you are in your life and the level of commitment the BOTH of you are ready to put forth. Just because the person is the "one" for you....does it mean that you are the "one" for them? Ask if it's worth the wait or the sacrafice. I do know that it's a wonderful thing to have found true love and it does not come around easily.
2007-03-03 23:45:26 · answer #3 · answered by bb m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i believe when you finally find "the one", even if you aren't ready for it....you put everything else aside and nothing seems more important than they do anymore. i think when you find the one true love of your life you wont care about being ready or being young anymore. when you find the love of your life, even if you said you werent ready for a relationship or anything like that, all of a sudden you become ready for one....a never ending relationship with the only person you ever want to be with.
2007-03-03 23:45:57 · answer #4 · answered by little missy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"the one" comes right when you need them
"the one" is always right on time.
the real "one" will always be the "one".
if you weren't ready for it, then it's not "the one",
maybe it's what you imagine the one to be...
but as you grow, your vision of that "one" will grow and evolve too.
so, what seems perfect to you now, will be totally inadequate to you ten years from now.. your standards will elevate, you requirements will increase....
you'll see... it'll be ok
2007-03-03 23:55:18 · answer #5 · answered by ladrhiana 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if you werent ready, you tell "the one" give me "x" amount of time until I finish doing whatever and I will get back to you.If they do not wait then there will be another "one".
2007-03-03 23:43:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if they are really the "one" they will be in your life when you are ready.. if you do not feel ready then you cannot say for sure if this is the "one" or not now can you??
2007-03-03 23:42:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That happened to me. Lots. I just say to myself: Nick, you're not going to settle for this girl - your better than that.
2007-03-03 23:44:02 · answer #8 · answered by Nick Y 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LOOK your HEART will know when you find the love of your life.
2007-03-03 23:43:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will not be the real love which god accept it for us
2007-03-03 23:48:17 · answer #10 · answered by Miral N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋