bridal shower?

Question

A friend of mine is planning a bridal shower for her sister-in-law. does anyone have any suggestions on what to do? One of her main questions are can you include two registry's in the invitations? and do you give lingerie and house gifts at the bridal shower or are those two separate events??

Answer 1

You can, and should, definitely include all registries that the bride and groom have made in the invitiation--whether it's one, two, five, or ten. Include them all. At the shower you can give both house gifts and lingerie. Typically the bride receives both.

I planned my best friend's bridal shower last May. We did a honeymoon theme--the invites said "Let's shower (bride) before (groom) whisks her off to an island in the sea by giving her a bridal shower with a honeymoon theme!" The invitations were pink with yellow and orange flowers. They were great. We then gave silver airplane luggage tags as favors. (I wanted to give favors that were useful and wouldn't just end up in the garbage or on a shelf as magnets, candles or shot glasses often do.) I made little cards that said "Let's wish (bride) and (groom) congratulations before they head off on their honeymoon!" that were tied to the favors with yellow ribbon that said "(bride)'s bridal shower" and the date. Each table had a tropical themed centerpiece and plastic flower leis for the guests with a fabric floral lei for the bride.

At the shower we did some games like bridal bingo (where each guest gets a blank bingo board and a list of the gifts that were purchased off the bride's registry, they put the gifts in the boxes on their bingo boards and as the bride opens the gifts, the guests mark the gifts on their bingo boards. Whomever gets bingo first gets a prize--maybe a small spa kit (like you would buy for $5 or $10 at a CVS or other drugstore) or a nailpolish or something like that. We also played bridal word scramble (words like "honeymoon," "bride," "groom," "reception," "marriage license," etc. were all scrambled up and the guests had to unscramble them). I've seen bridal showers were there were bridal crossword puzzles and "how well do you know the bride and groom" (questions about the couple and whomever gets the most right will win a prize). I've also heard of the "timer game" where the bridesmaids set an egg timer and the person who's gift the bride is opening when the timer goes off wins a prize.

Basically, the reality is that bridal showers are boring (even for the bride, usually), but doing games helps alleviate some of the boredom for the guests.

The basics are good food, a cute theme, nice favors and a quick gift opening assembly line (one person grabs the gifts, one person starts to rip the paper, the bride opens, the next person on the chain records the gift (who it's from, what it is), the next person puts it away, and one person saves the ribbon to make a ribbon bouquet or hat) help to make the day more enjoyable.

Some people also do a "wishing well" which is where each person writes a recipe on a card and attaches a spice used in the recipe or a small kitchen utensil (like a recipe for banana bread with vanilla extract attached to the recipe or a small spatula attached to the recipe). But, if you do this, be sure to explain what a wishing well is on the invitation. I was invited to one with a wishing well and had no idea what it was, so I felt embarrassed when I got there and realized I didn't participate in the wishing well.

Also, remember to bring paper & pen to record the gifts!

And, gifts like sex toys (flavored rubs, lotions, handcuffs, dirty dice, gummy body parts, etc.) should be saved for the bachelorette party. The only sexy stuff at the bridal shower should be tasteful lingerie (no crotchless panties!).

Good luck planning.

Answer 2

The wedding registry should be in the wedding invitation normally at the bridal shower the gifts are for the soon to be bride to keep her husband happy and what not. Good things to do is of course have a scrapbook so all the married woman can give her advice on her upcoming wedding. House gifts remain for the ceremony only!!! Games and prizes should be her concern and letting everyone know the brides size. Check out www.bridalshowergames.com and she can find many different things to do during the shower and also themes she may want to incorporate in the shower.

Answer 3

Ive seen two registries on bridal shower invitations. You can give lingerie and house gifts at a bridal shower. No they are not two separate events. Usually the mother of the bride gives a white wedding lingerie outfit to her daughter as a gift along with something for the home. That is our custom in our family.

Answer 4

Yes, you can have two registries (or more!) and yes, you can give lingerie or whatever is on the registry. Pick out a theme and colors and if you're into games, that would be fun, too. You can be creative in the gift department if you don't want too much lingerie: put down a "time" for each person and that person can give a gift according to the time. For ex., a "7 am" gift might be a toaster or coffee maker. Of course, the clever giver might even give lingerie at that time, since newlyweds use lingerie at any time! For my shower, I did a twist on that and designated "rooms" for each person. For ex., some people got "bathrooms" or "kitchens" and gave me gifts according to the rooms. Have fun!

Answer 5

First off, have her print of a little piece of paper of where the bride is registered and put them in the invites. Next, ask the bride if she would be compfortable with having a lingerie shower. Most people aren't. But it is a cool idea to have a theme. For instance, assign people to different rooms of the house and have them buy something on the registry accordingly. Otherwise just to have a theme. Here are some ideas of what I did when I planned my sisters bridal shower:

-in the invites, ask everyone to bring their favorite recipes on 3 X 5 index cards, and then collect them at the shower and make a recipe box for the bride
-have a craft at the party. What I did, is I got three boxes the same size, and lots of decorations like fabric, ribbons, bows etc. and I had 3 teams and each team make a card box (something that brides seem to forget about for their gift table at their wedding) and the bride picked the winner. She still used all three at her wedding though
-have food! Little sandwiches, soup, fruit platter, things like that
-have a jar of "something" that people can guess how many are in it (I did M&M's in the brides wedding colors, winner got to keep it)
-play games! I had an icebreaker game that I called famous couples in history. I taped a couple to everyones back (on an index card) and you had to go around and ask people questions about who was on your back. Whoever guessed first won. Another game that was hilarious that I made up was called "kiss the grooms ***" I blew up a pic of her fiance and tapes it to a pin the tail on the donkey game. Everyone got their own lipstick and was blind folded and has to try and kiss closest to the ***. It was sooooo funny...Lastly I had a game during gift opening. I asked her fiance questions about him prior to the shower and everyone got to ask the bride one of the question during gift opening. If she got it right, she could open the gift, if wrong, she had to do something silly. I put a punch of things in a can and she had to pick one.
-lastly, have favors and prizes I have seen people give away spices, post it notes, bath & body stuff, great harvest bread, and stuff from tastefully simple

Good luck, hope this helps!

Answer 6

yes, you can include both registries in the invite b/c the bride is not giving herself the shower, so you aren't breaking any etiquette rules. As for the lingerie, I won't have it at both showers. Leave the lingerie shower as part of the bachelorette party, and more for the bride's friends on family members that are in the similar age range. Usually, grandma doesn't want to see lingerie at the shower.

As for ideas, I would just have good food and good conversation. You could play games, but I find at when I go to showers I prefer to socialize with the other women. Women can entertain themselves for hours, just by talking/catching up with friends or relatives they haven't seen in a while.

Answer 7

Bridal shower ideas:

spend some time at a spa and go out to a lunch for the gift part

have a do it yourself spa where everyone does homemade manicures and pedicures and facials etc more like a sleepover venue from teenage years then you can open gifts and get silly and relax

there is a bridal luncheon where it is hosted somewhere and everyone eats and she opens gifts

and yes you can have "house" gifts and lingerie at the bridal shower practical and fun together it will loosen things up

Answer 8

yes to both
double and triple registries are common
I was given personal shower along with a bridal shower and felt it was putting others out.
We can a great time, but I felt like it was asking too much.
both gifts are fun at a bridal shower and if you know the guy will be there, I would also throw in a pair of silk boxers : )
Really cool, is a romance gift with lingerie, candles, wine, whatever will make a great night

Answer 9

She can give whatever kind of shower she wants to...and she should check if any of her other friends are planning a shower. Often her bridesmaids might give a personal shower which would the lingerie...so she needs to check.

If she is having just one shower, then it can be a general or miscellaneous shower which includes anything...she can list several registry's if she wants to....they are just for ideas for people to find out what she wants....and include her planned colors for towels, sheets, etc...and her sizes if it might include personal items.

So she should talk to some of her other friends first to find out if they have any plans, so they work together. a bride often has several showers. You can even have a couples shower......my family planned a "farewell to the single life shower"...includes friends from both the bride and groom...we created it just for the fun of having the guys come too. All the single ones dressed up like they were well off...and all the married ones dressed up like they were poor and down and out and they brought both gag gifts, and real ones....

Answer 10

usually the bridal party will make a gesture toward the lingerie while leaving the household items to the aunts and cousins...never let mom help with the lingerie. LOL... yes, you may include two registries, just not the lists, inckude the way to locate the lists and let the guest go get the list from Macy's or Crate n Barrel herself.