I Don't know what to do about it. I'm confused and don't understand why my mom is doing this. I've told people about it but they don't seem to help. I'm scared. What should I do?
2007-03-03 15:19:42 · 12 answers · asked by Living Dead Girl 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
This is really a tough one kiddo. Because your Mom is an adult and because her behavior is not life-threatening (cutting is not necessarily suicidal) she likely can't be treated against her will. You could call your local crisis services where you could talk with a live counselor for free-they are usually available 24 hours a day-and talk to your Dad or family members who are adults who may be able to persuade her to get treatment. The one and only thing you yourself can do is to let your Mom know how her cutting behavior affects YOU and hope that that will motivate her to consider treatment. Do not take it personally or ever feel you are to blame for what your Mom is doing-she's choosing a self-destructive way to cope with her own feelings and may need help finding healthy alternatives, but remember it isn't your fault.
2007-03-03 16:59:37 · answer #1 · answered by Opester 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay, well that sucks. Whatever you do, don't ever try to imitate her so that you can understand what it does for her - in other words, don't cut! As far as what you can do about it, there really isn't much. It's the same as with an alcoholic or drug user - you can't make them stop until/unless they are ready/want to.
Sadly your Mom did not learn healthy coping methods.
One potential thing that can be done is for you to get your Dad and bros and sis? and whatever family and friends involved and plan an intervention. Demand that she seek treatment and make sure that she knows everyone is doing this out of love for her. Most cutters don't really want to keep cutting themselves - they know it numbs the pain/issues for a little bit - but the pain and issues always come back and the scars never go away. It's a crappy thing to do or live with.
The best thing you can do for you is to keep yourself in a healthy and positive state. Take care of you and work on goals in your life.
2007-03-03 23:46:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have been a self mutilator for 7 years and the best thing u can do is make sure u r ok ...and be there for ur mom..she isnt trying to kill herself it is just the way she relieves her emotions..just as maybe u smoke cigarettes or go running..its just a self destructive way but she needs help when she is ready u cant force her and dont judge her dont say hurtful things about the cutting just let her know u are here to tlak if she would like and if u feel u cannot handle it i straongly suggest speakign with a mental health professional.. not cuz ur crazy just cuz it might be a lot to deal with ur a kid and its hard!
if u need to talk u can e mail me im not that ol..only 19..lol...im a recovering self mutilator but i can probide help and support if u would like:
jaysangel040106@yahoo.com
good luck!
2007-03-03 23:28:09 · answer #3 · answered by jaysangel040106 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her cool cut some credit. Buy a gift package with aloe vera neosporin and a band-aid. No-one will want to get involved. If shes doing it to spook you, hit her in the jaw and try to knock her out, then run away. Oh, hi.
2007-03-03 23:33:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your mom is "cutting" she needs to seek help. Something is causing her so much pain inside that she's not finding any other way to deal with it other than self hurt*
If you've talked to ppl and they don't seem to help you need to talk to other ppl..like your doctor...or another family member to get her the help she needs. Call the kids help line and ask them how you can get your mom the help she needs*
Try talking to your mom , tell her how it makes you feel when you see her hurting so much, try to get her to seek counselling now to deal with her pain, before she gets too depressed to talk to anyone. GOODLUCK* GOD BLESS*
2007-03-03 23:24:48 · answer #5 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in school, go to the SAFE coordinator. Tell the coordinator what is happening. They will have solutions for you. You will not be able to help your mom, someone else needs to-
2007-03-03 23:23:16 · answer #6 · answered by kskwwjd 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to a doctor right away and tell him/her what ur mom is doing to herself. she needs an intervention fast. i'm glad ur reaching out for ur mom and i wish u luck.
2007-03-03 23:22:52 · answer #7 · answered by J-Dawg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to be a cutter you take her to a therpist! It works I quit in no time!
2007-03-03 23:22:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
try talking to her and try and convince her to get help ,she should get in counseling,tell her how much it upsets you. if she still won't get help maybe talking to your school counselor or pasteur of your church can help you cope with it.
2007-03-03 23:27:59 · answer #9 · answered by deedee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
TRY TO TALK TO YOUR MOM AND MAKE HER FEEL BETTER-- TALK TO HER ABOUT IT AND MAKE HER GO TO FUN PLACES OR TAKE A VACATION be her little angel!!!!!!!
2007-03-03 23:28:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋