Why doesn't he confess to booty calls?

Question

my friend and i hookedup once and i said somthing about it being a booty call, and he said no it wasn't and it ws a mistake and then we got back to normal...even though i didn't appreciate that dismissiveness about it.
and then it happened again, and this time he says he never meant for it to happen and he'd take it back if he could.
This hurts because it was enjoyable and i personally would not say something enjoyable is somthing i'd undo. I did tell him that i was staring to fall for him, and that's when he got all defensive. I wanted to discuss it maturely and he just closed up and would not tell me anything! he completely closed upand im rambling on like an idiot and he is mum's the word. he keeps saying "i dont know what you want to hear" or "i dont know what to tell u" and clearly states that he does not like me "that way" and doesn't want a relationshp. I said i understand that. is he a pussy? why cant he just say it was nice? why cant he be more tactful about it?

i meant that i would be okay with it if he would be man enough tojust call it what it was, WHEN it happened

but NOW i am starting to fall for him....and now he's getting all defensive. before he just pretended like it never happened, (but it did and it was pleasurable and nice). NOW he's saying it was a mistake and acts like he wishes it never happened. I am very appreciativ that it happened but i mean let's be adults and see what is really going on here, regardless of my falling for him....

Answer 1

So you want a relationship, but it's also nice just being his booty call? If that's what you really feel, then I strongly suggest telling him exactly that, and then trying to convince him you mean it.

If what you feel is anything else, then you're guilty of giving him mixed and not totally accurate messages yourself, and you should please stop blaming the poor guy.