Feel like a failure?( HELP ME!!!)?

Question

I often feel like a failure when i forget to do something or do it wrong. How do i improve and become better in social stuff, emotionally and things like that? im going through alot and if i fail, i really feel like a failure.

PLEASE HELP AND THANK YOU FOR YOUR TIME!

Answer 1

This is low self esteem. I have it. I have to work on mine everyday. Try turning all of your fears over to God. Let him do all of your worrying. Good luck and I'll say a prayer for you. :)

Answer 2

I can certainly relate to being quite sensitive to feeling 'less than' when I make a mistake, even small ones, or things just don't turn out the way that I'd hoped. However, I try to remember how everyone in the world is human and that human beings do make mistakes, are not perfect and that just as someone else mentioned, mistakes can be a great learning experience.

When I was in a therapy program, the therapist told us to always try to change a negative thought into a positive one. Such as, "I'm going to look stupid. I don't know anyone that will be at the party," instead think, for ex, "I will be fine and will have a nice time. I'm as good as the next person." Something along those lines. Perhaps you can get into some counseling to work on improving your self-esteem and self-confidence, especially since you tend to have such a low self-worth quite easily.

And someone mentioned self improvement/self-help books which can be a real booster. There are even books with positive affirmations that one can say to themselves. I also like to read informational/reference types of books. That can help make social situations easier knowing something about the world, current events, basic geography. (I'm not saying that you don't, just a word to the wise :) How about taking some self-enrichment courses? And since you said that you are going thru a lot right now, getting into some type of therapy can really help you to put aspects of yourself and your life into perspective. Please take good care ;)

P.S. I was trying to remember an inspiring quote and it was actually from Thomas Edison whose inventions include the electric light bulb, dictaphone and phonograph. (Altogether he had 1,093 patents.) His quote regarding failure (or success ;) "Results? Why, man, I have gotten results! If I find 10,000 ways something won't work, I haven't failed. I am not discouraged because every attempt discarded is often a step forward..." That quote along with others of his can be found at www.thomasedison.com and then can click 'quotes'.

Answer 3

First, realize that we all make mistakes and we all doubt ourselves sometimes.... even those people you would never suspect! You are not a failure!

You might have grown up with, or are growing up with very critical parents... like my own! The important thing is not to give up. Keep trying. The real difference in success is not how smart you are -- or how much natural ability you have -- it is persistence.

Secondly, you are being way too hard on yourself. Stop beating yourself up! Give yourself a chance and give yourself some credit. Write a list of all of your accomplishments. Forget about the mistakes. We all make them. Try to see yourself based upon the positive.... not the negative.

Thirdly... Talk to someone. At least once a week, go to a counselor. You need to let all of this stuff out of your head. The best way is to get a therapist or a social worker -- you can find someone in a price range that will work for you. Try not to bog your friends down with your negative thoughts and self doubts. I've lost sooo many friends that way! Talk to a professional!

Good luck... remember, you're not alone. We all have self doubt. You just can't let it dominate your thoughts! You deserve to be happy!!

Answer 4

So many people fall into this feeling. You must get involved with others. Be aware of those around you.
Become an Angel in small things. Buy a cup of coffee for a homeless person. Volunteer at a nursing home.

Love people by doing small deeds. even having change near parking meters can be a blessing.

Be aware of blind people and others with disabilities
most people don't.

Allow God to work through you.

The personal things you need to do . prioritize and tackle one at a time, slowly and carefully.


Don't watch horror or depressing movies, enjoy a comedy and laugh often.


Others will see you in a new light and you will be more than you are.

You will start a ripple of deeds that will be passed on.

you will really like yourself.

Bless you.

Answer 5

Possibly you need to deal with the real problem first and the rest will fall into place. Competent counselors can help, check with your church or local mental health agency for a reference. Sometimes, talking with a friend helps, but they need to be able to see the BIG picture, not just your side of things. Self esteem is what carries you thru when things seem overwhelming. It is how you view yourself, not how others see you. Start out small, believing you are a competent person, who tries their very best. Give it your best effort. Then move on to make a list of things you do well...and be thankful you have talent. Try volunteering for those groups of people who have handicaps and need a friend. Helping less fortunate people, lets you see that maybe your place in life isn't that bad...or you can see what you need to improve on. The only person who can make you feel bad about your best efforts is you...other people can say things, but it is you who believes it. Lighten up, we all make mistakes. Life is too short to focus on the falls...the trick is to get back up and keep going. We fall down, we get up...it's biblical! Just don't enjoy the luxury of staying down; prove the world wrong. You can get back up and keep going! Good luck!

Answer 6

Remember - that 'failure' is just a step closer to success. No one succeeded without several 'failures'. I think you're looking at it the wrong way.

It's good to know "what you like, what you don't, what you're good at, what you're not" and it's a trial and error for a while. You'll figure it out. I used to tell my sons "when you're involved in something and the day just flies" what were you doing..... try to think of a business that uses that talent.

They are both very successful today. Don't be so hard on yourself. It's 'life' - it's a ride, smooth, bumpy, whatever - but it's a ride - don't take it too seriously - have fun - try hard and it will all work out. There's no such thing as failure. Everyone is good at something - your job is to find that "one" thing.

Answer 7

I looks like you have a negative view of yourself and your life. I personally believe that nobody fails but only gains experience.

Go to your local books store and read a modivational book or two. Check out a guy named Anthony Robins. This guy spends his whole life helping people just like you.

Answer 8

Failing is a part of succeeding. If you need some examples in order to believe me, go to:

Answer 9

you need to change your way of thinking. the voice in your head is to critical.
positive affirmations are what you need. write a list of all the things that you can do and add in the characteristics and influences that are positive in your life.
do not allow any conversation that includes negativity. it takes practice, but you are capable and worthy.

Answer 10

As long as we learn from our fail steps, we are moving in the right direction. When you stop making mistakes, it'll mean you aren't trying anything new, and that way lies death.