Ladies, do you expect a guy to be ON throughout a date?

Question

I'm a guy in late 20s, and go out on dates every once in a few weeks. I'm wondering, what do women expect on a first date? There are times when I feel I have a good time with the girl and others when I get the feeling during the date that the girl is getting bored, and distracted after some time ... my question is, what do girls expect during the first date? Does the guy have to be ON all the time -- in terms of conversation, charm, etc.? Is the guy allowed to make any mistakes at all -- i.e., if I'm charming for half the date and not so much for the rest of the date, how do girls take that? Also, isn't a date a two-way street -- shouldn't the girl have some responsibility to make the date enjoyable for both as well?

I'd love to hear the opinion of girls on this. Also, do girls expect a guy to call for a second date? Third date? When do girls start initiating dates? I've had mixed experiences with different girls, so just wondering if there are any "rules" of thumb I should know...

Answer 1

I just expect him to be himself. I don't want you to try and impress me, just act like you're out with a friend.

And dating is a two-way street. I'm not sure why you think it's not unless you've gone out with some bad daters.

Traditionally guys are the askers so a lot of girls wait for him to ask, but that's starting to change. There aren't really any rules. It's up to the two of you to figure out how to make it work for you both.