If your best friend turned into a lesbian? Would you change?

Question

Would it effect you and your friend's relationship? Would you still be the same and would she still be the same in your eyes?

Answer 1

I think you'll find that it will be totally different now. If I were you, as her best friend, I would definitely start getting her thinking about the spiritual implications of deciding upon an immoral behavior (given to her mind out of the world) and try to help her get her head on straight.... You don't mention if you are a Christian?; if you are, I pray that you will witness to her and urge her to read God's Word, pray, and go to church... and offer to go to church with her, too. Trust me (no, trust God..) -- that is the ONLY way that will help her get her life fixed and on the right track -- if she hands her worldly life over to Christ. We are all prone to sin and wrongful thinking, it can get into anybody - because we live in a sinful world, and also because man is fallen - and just like the rest of us (Christians aren't perfect - we just know the one who is!), she needs new awareness of what is really going on here in this life and what this life is all about - accepting Jesus Christ, and receiving God's gift of Him = salvation (from eternity without Him, without God, without the paradise He offers..). We all know that the world is enemies with God... (as it says so right in the Bible)... and Christ says Himself that if we know Him, the world is against us, and vice versa... because He is the epitomy of goodness and righteousness; sinful, evil, wrongful things (including becoming a lesbian) come from this world.... So she needs to hear the gospel, understanding, and to receive the salvation Christ offers... and she needs to make the decisions to turn from her sin and to strive after things from above, and in becoming a Christian and being in such an environment (church, church activities, etc.), she would find a new world of fellowship and happiness she never knew existed. There is truly so much revival and fellowship happening in churches all over the world... She would find that all her worldly, wrongful thinking, chaos, and unhappiness, grow strangely dim.....

But anyway, if you can't get through to her by ministering to her spiritually and continue to encounter resistance, I would urge you to still remain her friend, but do so in love and compassion, yet at the same time not acceptance and understanding of her wrongful mindset and behavior (you wouldn't want to do her a disservice by making her think it's ok and messing her mind (and soul) up even more..), but again I emphasize, just be her friend, in love and concern for her... :) Do what you can, but at the same time don't stress about it too much -- pray about it, and trust God to do the rest, or what you can't... Your friendship will change now.... it may be for the better (if what I said above works out), or it may be for the worse..... and only God knows the path it will take... I pray for you and her that it WILL be for the better.... but this would all be a gradual process, one of growing more spiritually refined for her, and one of her seeing the same in you... As humans, we just don't know -- only God knows; and He may have a plan of salvation and sanctification (refinement) for her ultimately.... or He may not... Feel free to talk to God about it and ask Him for wisdom, and then be patient for whatever =HIS= timing may be... and be faithful to Him in all things. :) And again I just emphasize - remember to show her, in love, that you love her (in a best friend way) and through your hopefully continued friendship, conversations, actions, etc., keep letting her see Christ in you.... because truly, that is what we all need..... and again it would need to be a totally gradual thing for her to grasp... one over time, as your friendship takes new shape over the years.... but it would be the greatest gift you could ever give her. I sincerely hope everything works out well for you two... God bless you and be with you. :)

Answer 2

First off, no one "turns into" a lesbian. Lesbianism and homosexuality in general aren't choices a person makes. It's just like what foods you like, or who you as a straight person are attracted to, you don't have control over the way your body and your heart feels.

She is still the same person, she feels this way because it's who she is. Yes your relationship will change, but that's because you know her better now. She's still your best friend, and chances are she doesn't have feelings for you, and if she does, you can talk them through and explain to her that you don't feel romantically for her. She needs your support one way or the other, so stick with her.

No, nothing is the same, but relationships evolve all the time, whether or not someone comes out of the closet with their sexuality. Try not to let this get in the way of the way you see her, just respect her feelings, and her relationship choices, and your friendship should be even stronger.

Good luck!

Answer 3

I very good was friends with a girl since we were toddlers. We lived next door to each other until I was 13. Somehow always new that she was a lesbian, but I never found out for sure until we were in junior high. At that time we didn't live next to each other anymore & maybe that's why she felt more comfortable telling me. It didn't change the way I felt about her, or our relationship at all. It made me feel good that she trusted me enough to tell me something so difficult.

Answer 4

My best friend told me after two years that she was a lesbian and we still had the same friendship as we did before. It didnt change.

Answer 5

People don't "turn" into lesbians. They are that way their whole lives. I had a good friend announce she was a lesbian - it didn't affect our friendship because she was the same person she was before I knew that - she just liked women not men. Hey - it was less competition when we went out! But no, it did not affect our relationship and she was the same person to me.

Answer 6

You must mean if you learn that your friend is a lesbian.Your friend was a lesbian before you learned of it.
Your friendship should remain the same. It depends on you. Can you be friend with a person who has a different sexual orientation? It really depends on how you view people who
do not.

Answer 7

Why would i change? me and my best friend are two different people, i mean i would still love her, but we aren't lovers. And it wouldn't bother me if she did talk about girls, i talk about guys, it shouldn't be any different for her. And i would hope that my best friends feels comfortable with telling me that she is a lesbian, because i would respect that.

Answer 8

One of my best friends from my childhood is gay. I just found out and interestingly enough I feel completely the same about him as I used to. Maybe if I was a man or my best friend was a woman it would be more awkward, but I doubt it.

Answer 9

My best friend since kindergarten is a lesbian.

When I found out, it was fine. Didn't change me at all, but everything made sense...

Answer 10

that should not affect you and your friends relationship at all. accept her beliefs of her sexual orientation but you stick to yours. I know people that have been confronted with the same situation. some of them have turned gay because of their friend some turned gay because they wanted to others stayed straight but are still to this day best friends it is completely up to you if you want to make the realtionship work then you will whats the difference in her having a girlfriend or boyfriend its still a person they're gonna spend alot of time with it shouldnt make a big difference but just because shes gay means nothing accept it. if she is christian and your i dont know your another religion it shouldnt matter its the same situation. KEEP MOVING ON GIRL!!

Answer 11

Honey,
No matter what even If your friend did change don't mean she can't be your best friend. Just tell her that It don't bug you and It don't matter because you will still always love her. But you might want to be careful of what you say around her It might defend her

**Danelle**