Q for guys: What exactly made you decide on that first date, that you didn't want to continue seeing her?

Question

You can list as many as you can remember from your personal experience.

Answer 1

she could not shut up

Answer 2

She smoked.

She was rude to other people, like the waiter, for no good reason (implies that she is a selfish person who is nice only when she wants something).

She talked about other people in a judgmental way (implies too insecure).

She acted overly prudish and uptight, constantly reminding me for no good reason that I shouldn’t try anything, even when I wasn’t (implying that she might have some sexual identity problems or a history of abuse). Some women think that acting overly prudish makes them seem pure, but it actually gives guys the opposite impression – why is she trying so hard to prove something? What is she hiding? Nothing wrong with being pure, but a show-off of any type seems insecure & insincere (trying to live down a bad reputation, perhaps?).

She was way too excited & too happy to be on a date (too desperate!). Being happy is fine, but she doesn’t know me, so why act as if she just got a date with Donald Trump? She doesn’t know me well enough to have strong emotions either way

She was too cold (I know this contradicts the last one, but extreme emotions of either kind are not a good sign). Guys take this as a sign that she is simply not interested.

She is too nervous (she doesn’t know me, but I am not a criminal – why is she acting crazy? I almost always take this as an insult).

Too negative & complaining (people want to have fun on a date, not talk about unhappy things – besides, if this is her on her best behavior, what is she like at her worst?).

Always thinking about herself, and complaining that I am not doing everything that I could to make her happy, or constantly complaining that I forgot to do something like hold the door or pull out her chair – I am human, after all (ditto the last comment).

A devout feminist, or anyone who has a chip on her shoulder about men in general (too much baggage – besides, if she hates men, then this means that she is a bad judge of character, since she obviously dated only jerks in the past).

Answer 3

There were no second dates for one or more of the following:

* Her wearing an outfit that's revealing too much of the goods.
* She smokes
* She has bad hygiene.
* Her not having any manners/respect; in other words she is rude.
* She can't hold a conversation.
* When holding a conversation, she doesn't know a lot about the world around her.
* She talks too much/doesn't know when to shut up.
* She had no goals.
* She was too materialistic.
* She says something offensive/repulsive/derogatory.
* When picking her up on the first date, she isn't ready and takes way too long to get ready....and doesn't apologize.

Answer 4

She was one of the most beautiful girls that I asked out, but after date #1, it was over. Why you ask?

She was obviously shallow and cared for little outside of herself and her own interests. She was very one sided, she talked about how good she was with fashion, she then had the nerve to bring up a previous relationship. I pretended to not care and apparently this made her try and earn my approval, so then she acted all clingy and needy. We went back to her place, I left in the morning and never called again.

I would recommend you try and show depth in your character, be challenging and play hard-to-get. Be smart AND sexy. I hope you all the best!

Answer 5

i have one rule that will make a break a date in the first five min. of a date. if i open a car door for a girl to be polite. But while i'm walking around the car to open my own door i walk a little slower to see if she will either unlock my door for me or even open it. that is the moment that i decide if i want to continue to date her or not.

Answer 6

Too much perfume
Her personal Hygene
She Smoked
Inability to carry conversation
Too forward

Answer 7

I may have seen beauty and intelligence and found her to be shallow, self indulgent and dull.

One I like a lot was discovered to be rushing parent hood for herself (she wanted a baby any way possible), when I wasn't interested in that yet. Scarey...ran like hell from that one.

I kissed one good night and found her breath so bad that it just killed the interest

I went with some on the rebound from others and discovered my error...I really wasn;t interested.

Some I just lusted after, but found their interests so different from mine that I lost interest. I still think of many of those of what could have been...I have found that some think of me that way too.

I went with one that almost jumped me from our first date...maybe a little too fast. I slowed it down a bit for us. We had fun but she told me years later that she was happy I did...she was careless with her life and body then and learned to control herself. She was angry at me at first, but later really appreciated my caring for her when she was careless. She had a good marriage and sex life, and wonders if that would have been had she continued acting like a nympho. That said...we did have fun, but she was too fast for me.

Answer 8

Now, let me see.
1. bad breath.
2. Body Odour to kill a cat.
3. Big brother came along as a chaperone. Her mother didn't trust me.

Answer 9

I want to comment on the guy that says he judges his date by whether she reaches over to open his side of the car for him. A lot of guys hate it when the girl reaches over to unlock the car door for them. So guys..makes up your mind..Are we supposed to try to reach over, or not?

Answer 10

oh i have a bunch:

1. she couldnt talk about anything else besides shopping and clubs
2. she was a smoker
3. very materialistic
4. answered her cellphone while on the date
5. talked with her mouth full
6. talked too much about her ex-bf's

Answer 11

Her interests and her personality were too different from mine. I didn't feel we had much in common.