Well see Im engaged to a beatiful girl. We have been together for 2 years and 3 months and r planing on getting married. but the problem is that their is an obsticle i have to over come. See their is a guy that she likes and he likes her. The boy is deaf and cant hear but sign languages. we have already broken up and i told her if she wanted to she could go with him and that i would always wait for her. it took her 45 minutes to reliaze she loves me and she assures me that she wont leave me and that she loves me and wants to stay with me. Here is the problem she still nomatter what wants to be friends with the guy and me and him dont like each other. So i need help, i wana know what can i do to get him out of the picture or am i just jelous and shouldnt have anything to worry about.
2007-03-03 14:37:03 · 12 answers · asked by Jose 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're jealous, and the fact that she's up front about being friends with him, and friends only, and you know this because she's told you is the best reason for you to be the man, mature, accept him and maybe you'll eventually realize what it is that she likes about him as a friend and you'll embrace that quality as well.
Face it, you could have already walked down the aisle and she'd still be friends with him but because you're jealous of something as simple as a friendship she could be doing all this secretly and what would you then think?
You need to go ahead and be the man you're trying to be, try to perhaps do something with the two of them and learn more about him so that you won't feel jealous anymore and hey......you actually all can live happily ever after!!
2007-03-03 14:44:26 · answer #1 · answered by raquelha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I'd wait a while (couple months) and make sure she truly has gotten over this guy. There's nothing worse than getting married and learning she's still falling for another guy. Why does she like this guy so much? If you've been together for over 2 years when did she meet this other guy? Was it when you were going out or has she had a thing for him for over 2 years if so it may never die. I can see you're in a really hard place and i'm not 100% sure what I'd do in your place.
2007-03-03 22:41:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, well its kinda jealousy, but its also a healthy worry. She realized she loves you which is good, how long has she known the other guy? I have a guy i've know for four years and i love him so much! were not dating but were really close, if i ever got engaged and had a guy be jealous i'd undestand but at the same time i would never watnt to stop being friends with him. Put yourself in her shoes, also observe her behavior see if she has something to hide or is flirty with him. Good Luck
2007-03-03 22:41:47 · answer #3 · answered by dimondbacks7 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your insecurities are building a wall of jelousy over you and this guy. Jealous means fearing or worrying that that person might take something of yours away because he/she might have something better or more than you. The best thing to do is just be friendly with this guy because life is too short to envy or be jealous of anyone who is overall equal to you like everyone else. Trust the one you love, and if she does anything to make you not trust her then you know its her thats the real problem. Good luck.
2007-03-03 22:43:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh I don't want to ruin anybody's marriage..but sweety, if you really think that she's going to stay with you through the thick and thin and not go running behind your back to some other man...then you may want to sit down and think about that.Maybe you should let her go because obviously she wants to care for somebody else who she feels that needs more attention.If it took her 45 minutes, then that means she's probably plotting to go behind your back someday while you're married to be with that guy.Watch your back!
2007-03-03 22:43:30 · answer #5 · answered by Just Some Woman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok clearly your a little well dense so if some one was deaf yes of course they cant hear sorry for that......erm she is probly just wanting a friend it is normal for a guy to have friends that are girls and girls to have some friends that are guys ........its just the fact that he is deaf and probly has no other friends that makes her like hims i mean there are different kinds of likes there is you know the like meaning i want to go out and then there is the other like ..like hey how you doing buddy hows it been going
2007-03-03 22:41:51 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only you can be the judge of that. The fact that you and him don't get on.....could mean that there is something going on between them......but then it could also point to the fact , that he is unhappy with you , with the way you treat your girlfriend !
2007-03-03 22:42:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump her like a bad habit how can you possibly be with someone that wants someone else? You need a good clip over the head!
2007-03-03 22:41:44 · answer #8 · answered by trysssa999 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you seem to be jealous,but it is natural if its true love and they love to see like this.i was in similar situation and lost her,being so possessive.so,don't be hasty, do something that would MAKE HER JEALOUS and feel what you feel,and she will realise that you are THE ONE.and finally lets know what happened.good luck
2007-03-03 23:26:09 · answer #9 · answered by alec. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were you then i would give the guy a chance. maybe he can be a good friend of yours. and maybe he'll teach you things about you going to be wife that you didn't know. Good Luck! = )
2007-03-03 22:43:16 · answer #10 · answered by Sarah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋