Ok this is gonna sound bad but I am 16 almost 17 and I like a 23 year old. He likes me too and he is really sweet but everyone says that we would never work out with the age difference but I think if you love each other does it really matter??? Nothing would happen till I am 18 maybe even older but do you think age really matters in love. I say no because age is just a bunch of number and love knows no age so just let me know what you think??
2007-03-03 14:28:52 · 19 answers · asked by lover_gurl_2004_08 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We just have the same thought about it. Age doesn't matter as long as you love each other but if you really love each other or if that guy really loves you, he will wait for the right time to have you or to be with you. Since you're still not yet that big 18, focus first on things that's needed your attention. Love isn't about rushing. It's not because you feel like you love him, you'll just go and go.. Learn to stop for awhile and wait. Wait for the right time to be with him. Well, you can be with him if you really want but you have to learn your limitations.
2007-03-03 14:36:39 · answer #1 · answered by poochini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think this is a double edged question:
When you are 16/17 and the guy you like is (pick any age) and you like him (especially if you think he is hot) no one can talk you out of how you are feeling even if people around you say he is toooo old.
I agree that age just a number, having said that at your age you must consider this:
He is sexually active, you say you are not. He will make you feel different about that.
You have so many areas in your life that you are yet to face, so this one is 23 the next time he might be 19 and so on.
Remember one thing boys want sex girls want to be loved, dont make yourself another statistic.
Its not until you are older and you have had a little more experience then ask yourself was 23 years old too old
2007-03-03 22:51:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not so much the age difference that matters as the maturity and the ability to live independently.
A 23 year old probably has some post-secondary education and some work experience. While you are still in high school and you are not ready to take care of yourself.
If you could expect to get married to this guy and let him take care of you for the rest of his life, then there wouldn't be any problem in your relationship with him. But that's not how things work in your country now.
Divorce is rampant. Marriages are seldom for life. And you can end up with some serious problems in your life, if you don't go to college and don't get professional work experience as a consequence of your relationship with this guy.
2007-03-03 22:45:17 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age doesn't matter. I am marrying a man 8 years older than me. My parents were 10 years apart, and happily married. My ex husbands parents are 16 years apart, and they are doing fine.
Remember, men take longer to mature, and that is why women find the older men, more attractive, as you are on the same scale, so to say!
I guess with being almost 17, that people think you haven't dated many other men, yet, to make a decsion of being in love with a 23 year old. But, as I always think, if it is meant to be, it will be!
Hang in there and do what your heart tells you. Lots of luck!
Hugs~
2007-03-03 22:38:43 · answer #4 · answered by Jersey Girl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I've dated guys 20 years older than me so, no, age does not matter. It seems like a lot now but that's because you're only 16. If you were 36 and he was 43, you'd never give his age a 2nd thought.
2007-03-03 22:32:09 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age doesn't matter to you.....but it might matter to others.....whose attitude towards you and your partner , might affect your life and / or style !
I am a 55 year old male....and have 2 best friends who are beautiful ,
model type girls.....but they run after me.....I don't run after them.......and as I am not wealthy......I must have something they want !
I think my friendship ! But I would not deny them a relationship, if that is what they wanted.......but neither would I pursue a relationship !
I am happy as I am .........with 2 gorgeous mates !
2007-03-03 22:38:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
age doesent matter,i was 20 when i met my girl,she was 15,we dated a while and we got married when i was 23 and she was 18 and we been married for 10 years now with a 6 year old boy who is everything to me.if it is love it will work out,but if its lust all he wants is sex and he will pressure you into it.
2007-03-03 22:34:53 · answer #7 · answered by dragomir 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's not the age difference that matters (outside of legal considerations) but the level of maturity.
2007-03-03 22:33:38 · answer #8 · answered by InvicibleStar 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Age matters in wine and cheese.
Maturity matters in people - usually occurring long after they think they are mature.
It does sound as tho' he is far too old for you dear.
2007-03-03 22:35:07 · answer #9 · answered by Sweet Gran 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i don't think age matters cause i am dating a guy that is almost five years older than me an i think you should go with your heart and just date him as long as your parents don't care i would you and him sound good for each other go ahead and date him.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2007-03-03 22:47:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋