My boyfriend says he NEVER wants kids but we are so in love, we are 32 and have been together for 3 years and have both been in previous long-term relationships. I don't want to date anyone else but he NEVER wants kids. Should I move on or forget my dream of ever having my own child? I love him so much and we are so happy together and I'm not even talking about getting pregnant tomorrow, I just want to know that he will want a child somewhere down the road when we are ready to settle down and be responsible parents to a baby of our own. We aren't married and that would have to come first I know but I just want to know I'm going to eventually have a baby and I'm hoping it will be with him. It's just upsetting to me because now most of his friends, wives or girlfriends are pregnant and I'm never going to have that with Him. I don't want to get too old so that if we do break up later on, that when I do find Mr. Right I'll still be young enough to get engaged, married and have a baby.
2007-03-03 14:27:55 · 30 answers · asked by Loves Babies 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
Get out of this relationship...there's nothing in for you or anyone else for that matter.
2007-03-03 14:31:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't forget your dream of having children if that is what you really want. You need to get out of that relationship as hard as it might be so that you can meet someone who will treat you right and share the same dreams that you do. Yes you are getting older, not a bad thing at all, but you need to consider that. I mean if he is dead set against having children then how long are you going to wait before you move on, when your 40 or later. If you have been together for 3 years and not married, there might be something deeper going on with him. I am not saying that you should rush and get married but with how old you are and with having been in previous relationships marriage usually occurs sooner than 3 years. If he says no, then maybe he doesn't ever want to be a parent, I know my husband and I have toyed with never having kids, probably will later in life but we both right now say no, but mind you we are both 24.
2007-03-03 14:39:25 · answer #2 · answered by Hawaiisweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well at least he was honest with you from the start. My brother is the exact same way, he and his girlfriend, (they are both in their early 30's) have been together for 6 years. She wants a baby, he is absolutly set on never having kids. She says it is better that he be up front, then try to please her, have a baby, and then be frusterated or feel trapped and leave her all alone. She has choosen to stay. The realtionship was perfect except for that difference. She took a long hard look at herself though, she knew that if she choose that route, she could never hold it against him. She decided that their love was more important. You need to do a lot of soul searching. It could take months. He has been honest and you know where he stands, now you have to decide where you stand. If you have to have that family, then you need to leave now and pursue your dream, if his love is enough, then you need to accept that and make sure you never feel resentful or vindictive towords him. Good luck with your choice.
2007-03-03 14:54:38 · answer #3 · answered by Barbara C 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-30 04:13:21 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a tough one for sure. You have to do some serious soul searching. You need to decide if your man is worth more to you than your desire to have children, and if he is worth giving up your chance to have them. He sounds pretty stubborn on the issue and would you really want to try to convince someone who is against the thought to have a child. On the otherhand, a lot of guys say that they never want to have a kid, but when it happens they are soo happy it did. Sorry, I guess that's not very much help. Just follow your heart. Your still young and you have the choice!
2007-03-03 14:48:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Boyfriends can be replaced, but children are forever. If having a child is what you want then you really need to be with someone who shares your life goals and dreams. It would be much more possible for you to find another love, than it would be for you to live happily in your life without a child. Think about it....you're talking LIFETIME here.
I know this sounds cliche' but your biological clock is ticking...you don't have a whole lot of time to figure this out.
2007-03-03 14:39:42 · answer #6 · answered by LolaCorolla 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people don't want the same things - that's why you date. He should have told you this a long time ago so you didn't invest our time in someone who doesn't want what you want.
You don't have much time left, btw. Not at all. You need to decide and get moving.
And remember, more than 10 hours of separation a week from mommy is very damaging to an infant and toddler. So is not nursing.
2007-03-03 17:44:35 · answer #7 · answered by cassandra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you are in a difficult situation; your boyfriend and your dream of having a baby. I now this is hard but you have to decide which is my important and which is what really want. A boyfriend and no baby or a new guy with a baby. Or you can talk with him about this situation the results may shock you. Hope I helped and good luck!
2007-03-03 14:34:56 · answer #8 · answered by ♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being 32, if he says he never wants kids, then he is probably serious. If you have been with him for 3 years, then that is a while. If he knows this is so important to you, yet he still isn't willing, then I would say he isn't the man for you. Move on while you still have time, and find a man that is willing and loving enough to share your dream of children.
2007-03-03 14:43:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
LISTEN to him. He doesn't want kids. Whether you move on or forget having kids is YOUR call. No one here can make that decision for you. Just be aware that your current boyfriend doesn't want kids and should you be come pregnant it's not going to make him WANT kids any more than he does now. If you were to be married it could actually end your marriage. Frankly you have no right to be upset, at least he is being honest with you and not leading you on about wanting to have children when he doesn't. I wish my ex husband would have been as honest.
2007-03-03 14:35:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
i had the same problem as u but was able to convince my then-boyfriend that 1 child was a really good idea. have been married 7 yrs. and together for 13 and 3 kids later........ if u can get your boyfriend to agree then stay with him.. if not you may have to leave him.good luck,give him at least a year to change his mind.
2007-03-03 14:38:04 · answer #11 · answered by Stacey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋