my boyfriend and i have ben dating for 2 1/2 years and we are both 17 and i want to move in with his family because i get along with all of them really well i look at his brothers as my own and i call his mom "mom" and go to her for everything and i dont get along with my mom at all actually i dont think i have ever gotten along with my mom. plz help me decide if i should move in with him
P.S. we would have seperate rooms
2007-03-03 14:24:07 · 12 answers · asked by sexie lexie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no no no. Dont do that trust me. That aint even right. Naw wait till ya get older and find yall own place. His parents wont give yall any privacy. Not a good idea.
2007-03-03 14:26:57 · answer #1 · answered by kc_816ma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Not a good idea. I would not advise it. What you should do is to try to get along with your mother. Get together with her one evening and try to talk things out and discuss in a calm manner what has gone wrong between you. I think a reconciliation with your mother is more important than playing house. You are only 17 years old, very young I might add, and I think psychologically you are trying to find another family. Try to make it right with your Mother...it is very important. I am sure your Mother is hurting by your estrangement with her, and will be open to you reconciling with her if you take the first steps. It is the right thing to do. She bore you..she suffered in pain for you to be born, she brought you up..think about it. Do the right thing and stay in your own home where you belong. You are way too young.
2007-03-03 14:33:11 · answer #2 · answered by cardgirl2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is quite a tough questio and I can see it going either way. Personaly I would look ahead to the future. Most kids don't stay at their parents houses much after 18-19 so you'd only be there a little bit. Wouldn't it be better to just wait a bit and move out on your own ? Have you spent the night over there before and lots of time to make sure they don't have any quirks you can't stand?
My friend's sister moved in with her boyfriend and it seems to be working but she had quite a worse situation with her mother.
2007-03-03 14:28:56 · answer #3 · answered by RandomMan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I think you should wait another year till you are 18. Then you and your boyfriend can movie in together if you're still dating. You've lived where you are now for 17 years, I'm sure one more wont hurt. Besides, living with your boyfriend in the same house might cause problems. And who knows if his family can handle another person living there. If something happened where you and your boyfriend had to break up, and you'd have to move out, who knows if your mum would let you back in with her.
2007-03-03 14:31:59 · answer #4 · answered by nicolepantss 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait a year and move in with him alone. Trust me moving in with family will be horrible. You need your own space and living with a family no matter how much you love them will not help that. I would wait until you are 18 and then move out together if you want to live together. You will be a roommate if you have separate rooms and trust me I have done this, I have lived with an ex and his family and it was not good. Space is not a bad thing.
2007-03-03 14:28:47 · answer #5 · answered by Hawaiisweetie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you feel you are self-sufficient, and this would work according to all the family, then yes, why not? As long as you are ready to be responsible for helping take care of a household, paying bills, supporting yourself, what have you got to lose? I would assume you wouldn't just plan on moving in & having them support you, right? Now, THAT would be very selfish and immature. Otherwise, just do what will work for you.
2007-03-03 14:34:02 · answer #6 · answered by lizrdluvnmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dang! your only 17.you may not understand yet what that means but you seriously need to focus on yourself and not a family or boyfriend and living arrangements.once you get pregnant there is no guarantee everything will be alright and if your already pregnant finish school and go to college.life goes so fast and before you know it your repeating day in day out.im glad your b-friends family likes you that would suck if they didnt.your mom is you mom like it or not through rough and rougher just try and put yourself if your moms shoes and try to understand we only have 1 mom.good luck
2007-03-03 14:32:17 · answer #7 · answered by lala 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you really feel it would be a better home life for you then you need to sit down & talk to your mom and his mom about this.
As an adult who has to pay bills I'm thinking of the financial aspect of it. That's one more mouth to feed, one more person using power, water..... There's a lot to think about & talk about.
2007-03-03 14:29:13 · answer #8 · answered by Tender Hearted 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you have seperate rooms is one thing.Realize you do get along with them great now but you are not living there now.
Remember you are only 17 and other things aree going to happen to you.What if you broke up?How long do plan on living there?Till college?Just some things to ponder....Personaaly ive done it MANY times.Never workd for me!
Good Luck
2007-03-03 14:30:15 · answer #9 · answered by spindymindi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you will be happy with it. But don't you think your family might be a little sad about their daughter moving to someone else's home?
2007-03-03 14:27:23 · answer #10 · answered by julia 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋