What's wrong with me?

Question

I've been eating so much lately, my mom is leaving to go to Thailand in half an hour. I feel that my family doesn't care about me. Like, my mom promised me that she would pick me up one more time before going off in her trip for a month, and she didn't come. T_T I asked her why she's going and she just said "i'm going because i'm tired of your father for a while" i asked "what about me? how do you think i feel?" and she says "Oh, honey my happiness comes first before yours :)" and that made me go like this O_o. Now my dad keeps on complaining over and over....and i don't really like my dad. i love himand all but...just... :( Any helpful suggestions? I"m sad right now :'(

Answer 1

EATING - its called emotional eating. Your concerned about your mum and dad and where you fit into the picture.
I think your mum might be right and she needs a break from your dad (just to think, sometimes us adults need time alone to really weigh everything up). Having said that she should have included your feelings as well.
I know its going to be hard for you while your mums away, I wish I could give you a big hug right now.
Do you have someone else you are close too? maybe spend a little time with them or someone else you can share your feelings with.
I know that you said that your dad is complaining over and over, maybe you need to be strong and tell him that he's not helping you deal with their situation and you need to be told the truth.
Sometimes it take the kids to smarten the parents up because they just cant see past there own problems

Good luck

Answer 2

Awww, there's nothing wrong with you sweetie. Your mom's words were harsh. She's busy and distracted with her plans right now and not thinking straight. Maybe you can use this time that she's away to find some common ground between you and your dad and begin to establish a better relationship with him. I don't know your circumstances or why you don't like him, but if you can, spend some time with him doing something pleasant like watching a movie, going to the museum, or the zoo, or whatever might be fun for you both. And help him with housework and such so he might have more time to spend with you. Try to make the best of the fact that you will be spending a month together.

Answer 3

Sounds pretty messed up to me. Do you have any grandparents or anything you can stay with for a while. Because a parents happiness never comes before their childs happiness. Try talking to your dad and getting a closer relationship with him. You 2 may not be getting along but at least he is not going half way around the world and abondning you. He loves you I am sure. Like it or not he is all you have right now. Good Luck!!

Answer 4

I can only imagine how you must feel right now and eating may make you feel comfort but in the long run you will suffer. You need to realize that your mom for whatever reason is thinking about herself. Try not to be sucked into the drama in their relationship. I don't know how old you are but you should try to stay busy, maybe keep a journal while your mom is gone. Write down all the feelings that you have about her leaving and issues with dad. Get out, stay busy, go to the mall, hang out with friends! Stop with the comfort food OK. You will be much happier if you do.Good luck! Try to remember that we parents often make stupid choices especially when we are having personal problems in our marriages. Not making excuses!

Answer 5

Ok, well sounds like your mom is pretty hostile towards your dad, and she's being a little selfish right now. She probably needs time to herself for a little while. Let her go get that out of her system, and I'll bet things will look up when she returns. Just try to be supportive, tell her you love her, and to have a nice trip. It will make you both feel better. Good Luck!

Answer 6

Well aren't you gifted with the symbols. :P

I know how that feels, there was a time where I wondered if my mother was really coming to see us like she said or would she just "forget" again. Your mother saying that her happiness comes before yours though, that upsets me. Shame on her. The best you can do is talk to your dad.

It looks like your mother just went on vacation without you guys. Your dad is feeling bad about it, I would give him a break really.

Thats a pretty disturbing situation and I am sorry it is happening to you. I hope that it gets better in time.

Good luck and have a great night
PINK ELLIE

Answer 7

It's okay sweetie! Trust me, I know what's it's like to wonder if your family loves you or not. Life is meant for challenge and growth. Love is abundant! Look within yourself to get yourself through this time. Perhaps you have some awesome friends that you can get support from, or a teacher, or a friend's mother. Look around to find someone who has strength to offer you support right now. And LOVE yourself through this!! Be kind to yourself in your thoughts. Know that God is with you and you are here on this earth to grow. Growth feels painful sometimes, but pain is a part of life too! You'll be okay, just keep looking up. Keep loving yourself! You're going to be okay!

Answer 8

hang on there life has some ups and downs but you will make it through. talk to your parents and the eating a lot is everything we go through when we are sad do something that makes you happy or proud of yourself

Answer 9

Don't feel bad. Maybe this time apart will be good for your mom and dad and she'll realize what a mistake she is making. Pray about it.

Answer 10

she just needes spme time give her some time to come back to being her self. do somthing so when she comes back she will put yoyu infront of her happynes.