what made me question our relationship was on friday. we walked home from school instead of driving because he told me that he wanted some alone time with me. we finally got to my house and he told me he loved me more than anyone he's ever loved. he told me he wanted to be with me forever. then he hugged me but i just couldn't hug him back, but he looked really disappointed and sad, and he just unlocked my door for me and walked home. but on tuesday i was over his house doing hw and then when we finished we were talking, and then i made the first move to have sex even though i shouldn't have, and i ran out on him [he did NOT pressure me or rape me!] and now he has told me he wants to be with me forever...he's done so much for me, i just wonder if this is even real love.
2007-03-03 13:41:30 · 8 answers · asked by lauren 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my whole body froze when he hugged me. it was so awful, i could just see his eyes tearing up. i've only seen him cry twice, and that was when people couldn't accept our relationship because of racism, and the other was when his mother filed divorce from his father.
2007-03-03 13:47:59 · update #1
because i'm pretty? and i am NOT PREGNANT we didn't do anything. i didn't just do it because he told me he loved me, at the time it felt like something i can't even explain to you. it felt right but it wasn't.
2007-03-03 13:49:03 · update #2
well i am 99.9% positive i love him, but everything is weird because if you have seen my other question, he keeps teasing me going "is this the part where you run away?" and he thinks that its funny but i don't...i just don't want to ruin our relationship because of that 1%. so maybe you guys are right, maybe its me but i feel like i love him to much.
2007-03-03 13:55:34 · update #3
we are both seniors.
2007-03-03 13:58:13 · update #4
Honey, you need to slow down. Don't have sex with anyone just because they told you that they love you. If you couldn't hug him after a big announcement like that, then you should have listened to yourself and backed off. I hope you used protection and aren't pregnant now.
2007-03-03 13:46:52 · answer #1 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is more than just sharing physicalmoments together, it is also respecting each other's weaknesses... and there are other ways to show love to someone other than sex. It would also help if i know how young you are (not that i would judged the actions based on your age) so i can best determine how to help understand the pressure you are feelng right now. It is important to ask these questions, Are you happy with him? This is the most basicof questions anyone in a relationship should be asking themselves. I have been through a lot myself and it would help that we use our mind and heart in anything that concerns matters of love. Love is a wonderful feeling and it shouldnt make you feel like you've done something wrong. Take it easy, learn together... make sure you enter the relationship with the goal of making each other a better person not only for the relationship but for others too. Its early to say if its REAL LOVE - it will take time. Just pray for guidance and please please when in doubt - DONT.
2007-03-03 21:57:12 · answer #2 · answered by Ayen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
school days..... when you young you will love, cry, get hurt, love again then get hurt and the cycle repeats itself. I love the comment you made" he loved me MORE than anyone he's ever loved. Q: how many others has he loved??
Look this guy might be very sincere but just remember boys want sex and girls want someone to love.
If this guy loves you (without sex) he will wait. He doesn't have to wait forever but show him your not a push over.
PS talk to a really good (older female) and see if she agrees
2007-03-03 21:56:23 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
to me it seems like you are confused about your feelings for him. maybe everything he told you scared you off a bit but if you really like him and he likes you you should take things slow. i think it depends on how long you two have been together to say if it could be real love. but having sex does not equal really loving someone. it only adds to it. have a talk with sweety and tell him how you feel. if the relationship is moving too fast for you tell him and if you feel having sex was a mistake, tell him that too. he should be able to wait until your ready if he REALLY does love you.
2007-03-03 21:54:24 · answer #4 · answered by star 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that he knows what he wants and that he has some true feelings. However it doesn't seem you do. You didn't hug him back and you ran out on him. I think your question should be, " Am I in love with him?" Hmm
Good luck and have a great night
PINK ELLIE
2007-03-03 21:48:43 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think we are questioning his feelings. We should be questioning his. Why didn't you hug him back and why did you start up sex and leave? Are you in love is the question. He seems to be sincere with his feelings!
2007-03-03 21:45:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he keeps persisting in saying i love you and showing you how much he cares for you and doesnt give up on it hes being true. if you wont hug him or say anything back or give him false leads he'll start to think you dont love him. you should question yourself not him .
2007-03-03 21:49:00 · answer #7 · answered by trucksandtrains 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes because you pretty.
2007-03-03 21:47:56 · answer #8 · answered by angel2brat2002 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋