I have been interested in this guy for 2.5yrs and he has been interested in just as long (so he says). We have been hanging out more and more in the past 8 or 9 months but things have been going really slow (relationship wise). Recently, I noticed that he was starting to back off so I approached him about it, he said that he wasn't ready to jump into it the way that I am, and that he isn't ready to have a girlfriend, but in the same sentence told me that if there was any girl he thought about everyday, it is me. I told him I would back off completely and leave whatever happened between us, in the past. He said thats not what he wants at all, but he's just not ready to date me because he wants to get his life together, and i have a couple of kids. (I think thats part of it too) He said he still wants to hang out with me "on occasion" but want to keep it light for now. My question is... is he just keeping me around for sex or is he actually genuine?
2007-03-03 13:31:46 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well, let's not get into your sex life, but next time you two do have sex, study his behaviour. Do you not hear from him for awhile and when you do is it only for intercourse? Or is he a sincere guy who calls you just to hang out and not have sex? I can agree with him wanting to get his life on track. Before he can handle any serious relationships, he has to ask himself if he is ready for this and how much of a commitment it will be. Maybe he also feels pressure because of your children, if he has a relationship with you, there's the questions of: Does he have to support them? Do they like him? Where's there father? You know questions like that can burn a guy out. I say give him some space and if he truly is interested, he WILL come back. But don't hang yourself too much on him, remember you both have lives and neither should depend on each other.
2007-03-03 13:40:44 · answer #1 · answered by rara_latina 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Don't know, but I'd back off a lot and see if he calls or contacts you at all. He might not and then you know that he just wants you for convenience, not real love. Also, he might have found someone that he wants to check out before he decides that you are OK. Humm, not a great thought there since he should realize he has a good thing with you now & not have to shop around some more. I think I'd let things drop and see what happens... It will be hard probly to let him go, but might be interesting to see if and when he calls you...
2007-03-03 21:37:37 · answer #2 · answered by jani 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A few problems there......you both have different expectations from your relationship.....and yes the kids may be a problem too. Personally I love kids.....but many men/women don't see things the same way !
Yes I think he's using you for sex.....but then are you using him , to fill a gap in your own life !
Carry on as you are.....till you get a better offer.....or things improve !
Set your targets for where you want to be.....in say 6 months......12 months......2 years......5 years .......10 years........
Don't forget , you have to include your children in that equation. But you also have to have your own life !
It's important to keep yourself happy......whatever you decide !
Good luck xx Peter
2007-03-03 21:42:47 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hun, I would ditch him!
this same exact thing is happening to my best friend, and I don't want to sound rude but i think he wants to have his cake and eat it two
if he doesn't accept you for who you are dump him
and the fact that he doesn't want to date yet he still wants to have sex with you is a red flag. (your his booty call)
but if you really really still like him then just ignore him for a couple of weeks and he'll be right back kissing your feet.
GOOD LUCK and i hope everything turns out well
2007-03-03 21:39:10 · answer #4 · answered by ..... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is promble kept you around for sex but he my like also for hangging out but you scholding went for him cause is not readyt for a girlfirend how long are you going to went for him you can also find other boyfirend andd he is going to loss out
2007-03-03 21:40:46 · answer #5 · answered by DIANE E 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he just wants to focus on work or school how ever old a you are maybe he just wants to focus on his own things just give it a little more time just hang in there it will come ok?!!! :)
2007-03-03 21:42:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
a little bit of both i think. maybe he's unsure about where he would fit in with you if ya'll did truly get together because of your kids
2007-03-03 21:36:00 · answer #7 · answered by YinxSphinxmen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sound like sex
2007-03-03 21:36:50 · answer #8 · answered by retawknird2001 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yup, gurl you are his booty call...dont put out no more and move on...be strong...good luck...
2007-03-03 21:36:43 · answer #9 · answered by ileaddontfollow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
SEX
2007-03-03 21:35:52 · answer #10 · answered by chaosshade16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋