HELP!!! How do I tell my girlfriend shes not good at things?

Question

My girlfriend is nice and sweet and I love her 2 death but certain things she isnt good at. Like the other day she made cookies and they sucked. I ate them and told her they were alright but I told her i dont think u put enough baking powder in or whatever cuz they r really flat. I offered to give her a recipe from my mom. Then she saigreat u hate my cookies well im never baking again ull just have 2 ask ur mom 2 make them. There are just some things she doesnt do well, and if u straight out tell her she almost cries and gives up, if u try 2 tell her in a nice way or a roundabout way she gets mad and gives up. Back to the cookies example, I loved that she thought to make them for me, but they were terrible. How can i get her 2 keep makin cookies just w/ a different recipe or something and not get mad at me. I know its the thought that counts and stuff but dammit I just want good cookies lol.

Shes also like this w/ certain things in the bedroom. I wanna help her improve w/ hurting her self esteem and I dont want to come across as mean or ungrateful

Im not in it just for the bedroom believe me

It also works the other way.....I love when she scratches my back but everytime she does she says how bad she is at it. And i tell her everytime How good it feels and how much I like it but she never believes me. She has confidence issues and ive tried everything

Answer 1

omg...i kind of find that rude
who cares if she doesn't bake cookies like your mom
and if your only in it for sex then break up with her

p.s.-any girl would be sad if the guy they loved told them their cookies tasted awefull

Answer 2

Do you tell her that you love her often? Do you tell her when shes good at the things she is good at and how much you like that? with the back scratch thing, when shes says shes no good at it, look her in the eye and tell her how much you love it and dont blow it off. If you've tried telling her about the cookies and she still gets upset you'll have to deal with them and tell her how much you love the fact that she made them for you. Make her feel good about herself in the things she is good at and carry it into the things that arent so great and things should improve. (dont do it just once or twice)

Answer 3

Will i'm not good at everything but my man still love me for how i am .His loveing girl how help out with any and everything . You should do the same for your girfiriend .but the guestion is can you cook and bake ? Then teach her , make it a sexaul thing in the kiction .Make it hot and steamy over the stove ! Writ back if it works ok !
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Answer 4

Ok, I have a husband who sounds like you. Yes, it pisses me off when he tells me things that hurt my feelings, but if she loves you enough, she'll take it; become bitter; then start to not like you. That doesn't mean she won't love you, she just won't like you. Oh, and don't ever compare her to your mother if you don't want her to start resenting your mother. That ain't cool, dude.