I just found out that once again my boyfriend cheated,... like he did have sex with anyone but he was going to go on a date with them. It happened before he took a girl to the movies I didn't find out until like a month after the fact. But all they did was go to the movies that once so I forgave him. And less then two hours ago I found out that he was planning to take a girl out bowling. He says it innocent, but I don't believe it. I still love him and I can't imagine my life without him. We've been together for two years and he was my first. Please tell me what should I do. If anyone have any stories please share it with me. PLEASE HELP ME!!!
2007-03-03 13:29:09 · 31 answers · asked by babygirl2g04 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
At the top it suppose to say he didn't have sex with any of the girls..... and thanks to everyone that giving me advice
2007-03-04 03:24:11 · update #1
Honestly??? dump him! cheating never stops if they are a cheater.. the only thing that improves is the stories they tell to cover it up or justify it.. Unless you want to live the rest of your life hearing his reasons and excuses as he continues to cheat then you need to dump him and never look back. This is not saying this to be mean.. but there is no cure for a cheater.. Been there.. done that and forgave and forgave and forgave that.. I'm sorry
2007-03-03 13:40:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well I got a story for you hun..I was cheated on once to and it sucked I was grounded for two weeks because of this guy and in those two weeks he was having sex with another girl...my best advice for you is drop him like a hot potatoe!! All I have to say is once a cheater always a cheater..if this guy honestly had the same feelings you have for him he wouldn't be hanging out with these other girls and what not!!! you can obviously do better and although it will be hard at first you will get through it!!!
2007-03-03 21:34:14 · answer #2 · answered by Ashton 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't play games as in other suggestions. You are better than this, you don't deserve to be cheated on. Yes, maybe it was innocent, but those dates will grow as he knows that you won't leave. These dates are disrespectful to you and you have to "find" out about them. How many are happening that you don't "find" out about? There is no reason why he should have these types of relationships. If they are friends then you should be invited to go along with him. You are better and deserve better. You CAN live without him, just think, he isn't giving you what you need, you need to find someone who will. This isn't saying that leaving won't hurt, but in the long run you are wasting time of your life with someone that would rather take other women out on dates. Good Luck!
2007-03-03 21:39:17 · answer #3 · answered by My Opinion Counts for Me 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if you can go on the bowling date, if he doesn't mind then it could be all a miss understabding. But if not you better be ready to be hurt, that is no respect for you or even the other girl. I know the first boyfriend is hard to leave but its not worth the heart ache, I know. I was with a guy for two years my first for everything, he went up to this girls house quite a bit started to wonder and sure enough they were getting to that point. But he kept saying they were friends. Then he broke up with me a little while later and went with her. So don't jump into it too bad untill you know for sure don't let love blind you cause it can.
2007-03-03 21:38:32 · answer #4 · answered by clover0002005 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, maybe you should ease your mind and see if he's just being good friends with the girl. Go talk about this in a deeper level.
Of course, a back up plan would be to get someone to follow him to see if he does really cheat on you. I leave that choice to you though.
And personally, cheating would be like sleeping with other person i.e. performing intercourse, being away for another person, and other things I cannot think of at this point...
By the way, where are you getting this information from about him doing these things? <<<
2007-03-03 21:35:42 · answer #5 · answered by ShadowX 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he does not respect you. And IF it were so innocent, he would have asked you to go also. Have respect for yourself, and find someone who will be loyal. Once a cheater always a cheater! Besides, he's probably up to more than just movies and bowling...I mean come on!
Good Luck!
2007-03-03 21:35:22 · answer #6 · answered by Tina B 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i've been cheated on by 3 different people....and i dumped them the first time. he doesnt deserve another chance...just like u dont deserve to be cheated on. past behavior is future behavior. if he knows he can get away with it...then he'll just keep on doing it. take a chance and dump him. u could meet the most wonderful person ever who treats u like u want to be treated. if u dont dump him...u will regret it b.c there r so much better opportunities out there for u and if u think u'll regret leaving him, then you're wrong b.c he's most likely gonna cheat on u again. i didnt regret leaving any of my bf's...cuz now im with someone who treats me a lot better than them and im actually happy.
2007-03-03 21:40:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
But the thing about cheaters is if they cheat, they lie too. To be completely honest, if you can't trust him, you should leave. Being your first only makes it hurt more and makes it more difficult to leave. But if you can put the emotion aside for just a little while you will see with clarity that you are not going to be happy with a cheater.
2007-03-03 21:35:24 · answer #8 · answered by Alex W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him about it. Tell him how it makes you feel and ask him how he would feel if you went with a guy to the movies or bowling.. but it was just innocent. Ask him to put his self in your shoes for a moment and see the situation from your view point. Personally I wouldn't trust it was just innocent.. he should be taking you out and doing those things. Sometimes you just have to let the one you love go... because sometimes love just isn't enough.
2007-03-03 21:33:57 · answer #9 · answered by wondering 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is a hard to let someone go that you have been with for a long time. But think about it. you are not married to him. there is no sting attached, so it will hurt being that it was your first. You don't want to spend your life with someone that is not going to be honest with you. If you have to find out that he is dating other ladies. It is time to move on. He should not have that much time on his hand to spend with someone else if he says he love you. My suggestion is to pray and seek God. Move on with your life. He know that you love him but he is not willing to commit to you. he is still shopping, but want to hang on to you. Let this be a lesson learning to you. NEVER give your heart to a man. Give your heart to God. And know that God has someone better for you. You are finding him out now before it to late and (what if you decide to marry him and later found out that there is a child out there.) Honesty is the best relationship that a person can have. Move on life is too short. You are looking for a life time honest relationship. Because I know that you are honest with him.
2007-03-03 22:02:23 · answer #10 · answered by victory 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋