I like this one girl. I am positive that she likes me back, since I find her staring at me and smiling everytime we are talking, and walks so close to me that our arms are touching, and other reasons. The problem is, she has a boyfriend. Not only that, but the boyfriend is one of my friends. Her boyfriend and I aren't really good friends. We hardly ever talk. Even though we aren't good friends, I don't want to lose our friendship. Now, the relationship between the girl I like and her boyfriend is horrible. They hardly ever talk to each other, they walk far apart if they do walk with each other, and they only went on one date so far. They have been going out for about a year now, the date was at the beginning of their relationship. I have been told to wait till they break up, but I don't think it will end soon if they didn't break up yet. I am friends with the girl I like, and my friendship with her is better than their relationship. So my question is, should I ask this girl out?
2007-03-03 13:22:03 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
yes and no. dont literally like ask her on a date since she still has a boyfriend. use the time between now and when they break up as a chance to get closer. go to a movie as friends, maybe with some other ppl so its not like a date. then, when she breaks up with him, you can comfort her if she needs it and when she feels better, she'll look up and see u there and know that you and her were meant for each other.
2007-03-03 13:27:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The way you describe their relationship, it sounds like they are broken up. With that said I would say ask her out. But you need to realize their relationship might be different when others aren't around, so she might really love her boyfriend (heck, they've been together for a year!) and if you ask her out, she may become upset, thus your relationship with her and her boyfriend will be shattered. I think you should do what you think is right, but don't act without knowing all the details. But shucks, maybe you should just ask her out, you only live once!
2007-03-03 21:28:14 · answer #2 · answered by Lola 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a girl I would say that you ask her out. But first I would ask her about her relationship with her bf. Girls are more willing to talk about that stuff. Once you find out think about whether she is worth it to lose a friendship over her. Most likely her bf will want nothing to do with you if you both go out. But she will have to break up with him in a polite way face to face and directly without hesitating in a private place. I think that she doesn't like him either. But find out why they are going out also. I hope this helps.
2007-03-03 21:32:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally would ask your friend (the guy) whats up with their relationship and if he would care if you went out with her. If their relationship is that bad he might not even care and let you go out with her (ive done this before). . If you ask the girl out without talking to him hes guaranteed to get pissed and your friendship will never be the same. Also it might ruin your reputation with other friends if you go behind his back to get with his girl. People may not trust you as much. If you think the girl is worth a lost friendship and a hit to your reputation then ask her out!
2007-03-03 21:35:10 · answer #4 · answered by Bill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldnt because if you ask her out when she's still going out with her bf then that'll cause problems between you and her bf. The good thing about this situation is that you and her bf arent really good friends and you can still be his friend and ask her out when they break up. But if you want them to hurry up and break up then you should confront her about your feelings towards her, that might make her realize she has to end the bad relationship she has with him and then be free so you can ask her out, but wait a few weeks after they break up because if you suddenly dive into a relationship with her that'll cause problems between you and her bf. So pretty much dont ask her out, confront her about your feelings, wait to see if she breaks up with her bf and if she does wait a few weeks then ask her out, but if she decides to not break up with him then keep looking!
2007-03-03 21:29:21 · answer #5 · answered by Diana_Is_Amazing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say wait a few weeks after they break up and then ask her. If you ask now, the girl will have a lot of things to worry about.
2007-03-03 21:28:13 · answer #6 · answered by Rafael 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If she has a boyfriend i think it would be good to wait, is she using you to make her bf jealous? and if they do break up do you want to be her rebound guy? It's really hard on girls with rebounds cuz their feelings are all skrewed up and they confuse you with their boyfriends...and if she was your gf would she treat you like her boyfriend now? you have to be careful with girls like her.
2007-03-03 21:32:46 · answer #7 · answered by Julia 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this girl is your friend then you can talk to her as a friend and ask her what her intentions are with this guy. Ask her if she is willing to dump him to date other people and then you will know how she stands and you will know if you should ask her out or not.
2007-03-03 21:28:15 · answer #8 · answered by nessa 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell that girls best friend to tell her that she should break up with her bfirend cuz you like her....and then as soon as they break up ask her out
2007-03-03 21:25:48 · answer #9 · answered by crazily confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure!!! It sounds like they will be breaking up soon anyway.
2007-03-03 21:26:48 · answer #10 · answered by hopeful678 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋