Kids in wedding party?

Question

I have a 5 year old neice and 6 and 7 year old nephews. But on my fiances side their are 2 new babies 3 and 6 months old. We are not getting married till next year so the babies will be walking by then , and I dont want to hurt anyones feelings by not putting them in the wedding any ideas on how I could incorprate them all into the wedding party without looking over crowded?
Also what do you think about our daughter who will be almost 2 walking my fiance down the isle?

I dont want her to walk me down the isle I thought it would be nice to have her walk my fiance (THE GROOM) down the isle because I want her to have a part in the wedding. AND I am not looking at my wedding as a parade for the kids. But they are all kids who are very important to us and I also want them to have some part!!!!

Answer 1

I think you have a great idea incorporating the kids, but be looking for the ones that are shy, there were kids in a wedding party at the last one I attended.
One little girl got half way down the aisle, didn't like that everyone was watching her and she turned around and took off like a shot, running for her momma. It was hilarious.
It could make things funny, if you are not looking for a solemn ceremony. But, life shouldn't be solemn, it should be real, and so should your wedding. Don't take everything so serious, and it will turn out to be the best event you ever had.

Answer 2

As far as the two babies on his side tell the parents that children that age are little young to be in the wedding party because they have trouble standing still for the ceremony and they can be unpredictable. They also don't really understand what is going on. But have the babies dress as if they are in the wedding party and have them in wedding photos. I once went to wedding where the ring bearer stood at the alter for a little while then during the ceremony he took off running back down the isle and his parents had to get him, It kinda took away from the moment. In general you don't want use kids under three in your wedding in some cases a two year old will work out especially if there are other older kids in the wedding party. It really is your wedding you can do what you want people often figure out ways to use babies in weddings. Good luck

Answer 3

Let me tell you something having very young children in the wedding party is like a crap shoot...it is not really that feasible. The older kids are fine to be in the wedding party as they would know how to behave at that age. But, you never know how children of these younger ages will react. They may start screaming, get a temper tamtrum, refuse to walk down the isle. Ive seen it and that is why I advise against it. Do not incorporate the little ones in the wedding party. You will not be hurting anyone's feelings believe me because the parents know and would understand. Don't try to be so accomodating. Its your wedding and decisions should be made by you mostly. As far as your daughter, that is a little different, she could walk down with your fiance...but have a back up plan if she at the last minute gets shy, refuses to walk with him, or starts crying. O.K. You could dress the little ones all the same and at the reception, you could have them be introduced and walk in with their parents. and then you can be introduced and walk in together with your daughter in between you both. Best of Luck to you.

Answer 4

Ok there is no reason to include every child in the family in the wedding party. those soon to be toddlers are not gonna walk down any aisle alone so now you got mom and or dad walking each kid you are starting a circus parade. You get one ring bearer and one flower girl an that is it for the kid slots.

Your baby daughter should not be walking down the aisle with the bride but she could be escorted in along with the Mother of the Bride who should be the very last guest seated before the wedding begins. if she is old enough at the time she could be your flower girl, escorted by a grandma if she is too young to make the walk on her own.

Answer 5

Between the ages of 4 & 8 are usually good. Older and the kids start feeling awkward. Younger & your risking some disruption. But then, that isn't a BIG importance to some couples.

Make sure their roles are not "hyped". No sugar, comfortable clothing, naps taken, if applicable.
One 4 yr old flower girl noticed that the people were intensely watching her as she dropped rose petals down the white carpet. She got about halfway and announced, "They TOLD me I could do it!" And proceeded the rest of the way.

It is your wedding. If you want your daughter to walk down the aisle, her daddy then do it. Just make sure you have someone to care for her when they get to the end.

I recently performed a ceremony where the little girl of about 3 was quite stressed about all of the activities. She did nothing but scream. Momma tried to comfort her daughter during the ceremony but eventually the MoH took her out & found someone to play hide-n-seek with her until the ceremony was over. But it unnerved the mother. After the ceremony Momma went & broke down herself.
You don't know how this will affect your child. Think l-o-n-g & hard about your decisions.

Answer 6

from experience i had 4 flowergirls, 2 were7 and 2 were 9. i didnt have to worry about them at all.they listened and did what was expected of them.no tears or tantrums.(i didnt have bridesmaids,too bitchy!!)
from other weddings ive been to with kids under 4 they froze up and wouldnt walk into church,couldnt attend photos because they were tired,and by the time the reception occurred all they wanted was their mum.
it is such a big day and people forget how much pressure we put on kids to perform....lots of people ina room is alot for some kids to handle.
remember someone is always going to get offended,parents always make things about their children personal.
i wanted my 4 year old daughter to be a flowergirl last year...i am glad she wasnt,she was so overwhelmed when we arrived at the wedding,she sulked the whole night asking when we were leaving.
if i were you i would have your daughter as a flower girl and to walk your fiance down the aisle would be just beautiful....
with the other kids, you could have them handing out booklets,bubbles,rice etc at the church ...or even doing a short reading....the babies on your fiances side would be too small for these things so the parents couldnt feel left out by not having their kids chosen.

you could have a beautiful group photo of you with all the nieces and nephews,and give it to them after the wedding.

remember there is a lot going on in the day...when there is less to worry about there is more time to enjoy it.
and just remember to stop for one minute and just soak it up..because as everyone says it flies.
good luck with your day

Answer 7

Me and my fiance (I am the groom) have a lot of young nieces and nephews so we tried to get them all involved...

My twin nieces (7) are flower girls
My Oldest niece (11) Jr. Bridesmaid
Her Oldest Niece (14) Bridesmaid
Her Old Nephew (10) Jr Groomsman
Her youngest Nephew (3) Ring Bearer

What you can do it since you have so many very young kids is to make them all flower girls. I personally would think it was hysterical and really cute. The kids are ALWAYS great when they walk down the isle.

As far as your daughter walking your future husband down the isle, that would be a great idea!!!

Answer 8

The priest who married us mentioned someone else who had lots of kids involved. They got a wagon and outfitted it in white with streamers of the colors of the wedding. The littlest ones were in the wagon and the biggest two pulled it. It would be different, it would incorporate all the kids. If you daughter is walking with someone, I think it will be fine. My brother-in-law and his wife presented her daughter, who was about 7, with a friendship ring during part of the ceremony because they were becoming a family. Just realize that these kids are going to make an awful lot of noise, and may even cry--and not like your mom lol--through the ceremony. Perhaps you could hire babysitters to watch them in the churches playroom or something after their part is over? Congratulations!

Answer 9

I had the same issue in my wedding, we didnt want to leave anyone out and hurt feelings soo what we did was ... we decorated a wagon and put my one year old neice and two year old nephew...the wagon was adorable....it said soon to be married. It had ribbon and tully and was cute, my 7 year old nephew wheeled them out...then my five year old neice was a flower girl and my two year old neice walked directly beside her holding her hand...my neice wasnt scared since the older one was by her side...and the same for the ring barrier my 7 year old god son walked out next to my three year old nephew who was holding a flower, he gave the flower to my mom as he walked down the isle...we didnt have any problems and everyone thought the wagon was a cute idea, since then we have been to 4 family weddings and three of the four weddings used that idea. i have also seen small children carried down the isle....i think its a cute idea to have your daughter walk your husband to be down the isle.

Answer 10

it ought to no longer be be something antagonistic to youthful ones usually although the very undeniable truth that funds turned right into a large problem for the couple. for most weddings each and each 'head' extra to the merely accurate count number, can really upload $50 - $one hundred to the completed invoice for nutrition and seating area. (you're including very virtually an entire table to the count number which contain center piece, linens and nutrition). some caterers will can charge merely as a lot for a particular menu for those toddlers which wont devour the 'fish or filet', yet have a youthful ones decision extra to the shape. i does no longer sense slighted considering your 5 extra customer would have ended up being a flood of others desirous to carry their toddlers too and the bride/groom no longer with the ability to arise with the money for the fee of those better people.