We have been together for 3 and half years and we are trying to figure out our future plans together, we are both a year out of high school i'm 19 and he's 20, He is currently in the Army Reserves and wants us to move in to the Army homes instead of our apartment. So he asked if we decide to get married when and i'm not sure. I can't wait til we finally do but i don't know the right age.
2007-03-03 12:56:08 · 9 answers · asked by Madison P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Personally I got married at 20 to someone who is in the Army. Is it easy no. Is any marriage easy no. It requires a lot of work even more work when the other half is in the military. Make sure it's something you really want. Only you can answer the question as to if you're ready. Do you love him or are you IN love with him. Big difference in those 2. Are you able to handle the nights that you are going to be alone while he's at training? Are you going to be able to stand living on a military base? Trust me it's all different when you live on a base. I've seen it make a marriage stronger and I've seen it break a marriage. Personally I wouldn't trade it for the world because I know I am in love with my husband and he is truly my best friend. We've learned to communicate very quickly and effictively. GL in whatever you choose to do.
2007-03-03 13:26:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The right age is whenever you feel mature enough to devote yourself completely to the other person and to build a life together. Don't just get married so you can move into Army housing. Don't just get married because you've been together for 3 1/2 years. Get married because you feel like you want to spend the rest of your life with this person, because you feel like you can't live without this person, because you can't imagine a day of your life without this person. Get married because you feel like it's the right time for the both of you, not because it will help you get housing.
2007-03-04 12:10:07 · answer #2 · answered by ms. teacher ft 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age doesn't bother me nearly as much as your statement, " I'm not sure". Marriage is SERIOUS business. If you aren't SURE, then you have no business getting married.
You also need more of an education. At one time women worked the fields along side their husbands for the survival of their families. Now you need a degree to flip burgers.
What will you do if something happens to your husband & you have to support the family? I'm not talking about just paying the mortgage, but the utilities, food, car, children....all of it. Could you do it at your present state? Better to lay a strong foundation before you try building a marriage.
2007-03-03 22:09:43 · answer #3 · answered by weddrev 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is no magic number but as a 37 year old I would highly reccommend you wait until you are at least 25 years old. There is so much life to live and fun to be had in the upcoming years. Enjoy your youth and wait to settle down later in life.
Good luck!
2007-03-03 21:02:32 · answer #4 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i agree with cindylu and probably everyone else. Youve been together for a while and you ARE out of school, but... I know its going to be hard and feel like FOREVER, but.. you should wait for a year or two.. which isnt long! You could just get engaged and set your date for.. a year or two ahead. Good LUCK
2007-03-03 23:47:41 · answer #5 · answered by Chef Mommy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
3 and a half years enough to know each other. I would recommend you decide asap so that you can plan for your future: together or alone by yourself.
2007-03-03 21:05:31 · answer #6 · answered by bcel_tr 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
there is no magic number and age has little to do with it. You do not sound ready for marriage so I would say do not get married now I would wait another year.
2007-03-03 21:00:21 · answer #7 · answered by CindyLu 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is way overrated . at least wait until you are 25 to even consider it. I was married at your age to the "love of my life " i divorced him 3 years later that was 23 years ago and I will never do it again. Please don't rush you have your whole life ahead of you and if it was meant to be then you can wait.
2007-03-03 21:10:22 · answer #8 · answered by Wildroze 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It doesn't matter. All that matters is that if you guys really do love eachother.
2007-03-03 21:04:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋