I'm 19 and so is my boyfriend. I am very carreer oriented and want to be a doctor and will only marry after I'm finished with school and have a career, and am waiting for sex for religious reasons. I love my boyfriend so much and want to be with him long term. All my friends don't think we can last long without sex. Do you think the relationship can last long - years perhaps without sex? Realisticlly speaking. Thank you!
2007-03-03 12:44:25 · 43 answers · asked by skiingturtles 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dump him! It's obvious he doesn't respect you!
2007-03-06 01:37:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
ok ima be honest with u if is a type of man that cant wait 4 u n repect ur wishes n belief then hes not for 4 i belive u n all the womne out there our bodys are 2 beautifull 2 b voilated but any man even if its a man thats not willin 2 wait 4u he should be luck 2 have u in his life n no there are people who have sex n sometimes they dont last long in a relationship and a relationship a real relationship would last long even if there is no sex i mean u dont want2 regret it
2007-03-03 12:56:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's being selfish and thoughtless if he truly honesty loved u he could wait until eventually u were waiting am no longer affirming it truly is only no longer a touch confusing waiting yet when u love someone its worth it contained in the destiny and perhaps if u stuck to ur guns and did not do it the first time he does no longer imagine it became ridiculous besides the undeniable fact that the alternative is up 2 u make certain ur heart is in it even as u make the alternative and in no way his sweet words
2016-12-05 05:10:20 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're serious about putting your love life aside for the next 10 years, I don't think that's fair to him. If he's not the most important thing in your life now, he's certainly not going to be the most important thing after you become a doctor. Its admirable that you want to be a doctor, but I know I wouldn't want to put my life on hold for that long. I don't want to sound too pessimistic, but I think there's a reason why all the doctors I know are either single or divorced.
2007-03-03 13:02:29 · answer #4 · answered by Stingo 34 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know a lot of couples who have stand against the face of sin and made it. They beat sin. You are religious. You should know how to recognize sin. You know what is wrong and what is right. Chose the right. There are men out there who are also chosing the right...well being chaste.
As others have said, if he truly loves you and RESPECTS your beliefs, he will accept them. Think, if he doesn't understand and respects your beliefs now, will he do so in the future? Find someone who has the same beliefs as you, and who will focus on your career goals with you. Stick with your goals! Chastity is a major goal of yours.
Tell him your goals.
2007-03-03 13:10:10 · answer #5 · answered by Red 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it can last long without sex, if that's what you and your boyfriend want. Your boyfriend may not want to wait until marriage. You also need to make sure he understands your reasons for waiting and respects them and will wait for you.
2007-03-03 12:51:43 · answer #6 · answered by charletw2623 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my parents waited till marriage for sex I'm sure you can. as for your boyfriend if he really loves you he'll understand that you want to wait, but if hes still rushing you to have sex then hes only using you for sex! dint fall for "if you loved me you'll have sex with me" all you have to say back is "if you loved me you wouldn't make me have sex with you" so i belive that a relationship can last without sex, it proves that love isn't all about sex now that's the kinda guy you need!!! I know you love him but if he keeps it up he maybe only using you!
2007-03-03 12:52:40 · answer #7 · answered by Pookie! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It won't, your friends are right. You are talking years here, and no man, no matter how saintly he may be, can wait forever.
I won't argue about your religious reasons, which to me, sound foolish. But that is your belief and you will have to live with it.
So it's time to really, think about what you want. Those are high goals you are setting.
There are other ways to relieve ones sexual urges, without going the whole way.
But that depends on what you will do, and what might conflict with your religious views.
Something will have to give, and I think your boyfriend, will be the first to go.
2007-03-03 12:51:56 · answer #8 · answered by johnb693 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
do a 69 with him. guys don't wait i'm sorry at least i have never seen it. ya gotta take care of him somehow, u don't want him walking around thinking about every girl that walks by do ya? ya know hes doing that i guarantee that. If i go a few days i'm wanting it. how long has that poor boy been waiting to tap that *** anyway?
2007-03-03 12:59:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not being honest with yourself.
you want a career more than you want your current relationship. nothing wrong with that, but stop lying to yourself about what it is that you really want.
it is unrealistic to expect someone to hang around you for the next ten or more years without sex. thats what pets are for. they don't expect a relationship to progress and they are perfectly happy with a biscuit, a walk and a pat on the head. men aren't.
there is nothing wrong with your choices. what is wrong is that you expect him to accept them and continue as usual.
cut him loose and continue on with school and your career. when you are in the place you want to be at in life, start looking for a relationship.
2007-03-03 12:53:55 · answer #10 · answered by YumYumTree 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, a relationship like that can last - if both partners are committed to making it work.
With a boyfriend who is already nagging and trying to pressure you into doing things you don't want to do, I don't think it'll last much longer. Don't give in just to keep him in your life though. Chances are, once you've given him what he wants, he'll dump you anyway.
Your best bet is to find someone who shares your values.
2007-03-03 12:49:37 · answer #11 · answered by Liz 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋