5 months pregnant, 22yrs, full-time job, lives with strict parents,1st baby, when should I move out or not??

Question

I've live with my parents and I got pregnant! But My parents own the house that we live in, me in the top duplex with my snotty lil sis. They are at the bottom duplex. I never had the chance to actually make choices 4 myself, unlike my friends who moved out at age 18, but no i have a baby I dont want to be embrassed with filling out a questionaire if I may step out the house,ect. Although, my mom and father doesn't work, and they said they will be babysitters, I wanna move out 2 be a real adult. I understand I wont be receiving much from the father, and moving out or staying at home would have its bitter-sweet consequences, but Im unsure whats best. My plan was to wait 4 my baby to turn 1yrs, but in the meantime...SAVE and pay off credit card bills!!!

I've live with my parents and I got pregnant! My parents own the house that we live in, me in the top duplex with my snotty lil sis 15yrs. They are at the bottom duplex. I never had the chance to actually make choices 4 myself, but now i have a baby I dont want to be embrassed with filling out a questionaire if I may step out the house,ect. Although, my mom and father doesn't work,struggles, and they said they will be babysitters, I wanna move out 2 be a real adult.My parents aren't easy to talk 2 and i want 2 Raise my child the way I want, I added up my expenses I can make it, but no extra shoppin!! I wont be receiving much from the father, and moving out/staying at home has its bitter-sweet consequences, but Im unsure whats best. My plan was to wait 4 my baby to turn 1yrs, but in the meantime...SAVE and pay off credit card bills!!!
I'm more responsible than my parents, and instead of me asking 4 money, they ask me for money, and Its hard to be firm and say no because their parents

Answer 1

I am a 24 yr old single mother of a 19 month old little girl. I moved back in with my mom when I found out I was pregnant and my daughters father walked out. I get nothing from him. I have a full time job and my mom babysits. However, I opted to work overnights to keep the "babysitting" at a minimum. I do plan on eventually moving out and hopefully within a year. I think whatever is best for your baby is what you need to do. I knew I could not make it on my own when I found out I was pregnant and I fixed that. Now I am at a point where I feel comfortable at my job and I know I can provide my baby with what she needs when I go out on my own. I don't know you and will not judge you, but please, in making your decision think more of your baby and not yourself. Good luck and enjoy being a mommy, it is such a wonderful experience!!

Answer 2

Stay at home and save. Your parents may not have much, but they can guarantee a roof for you and your soon to be baby. It may not be the coolest thing and it may be hard, but in the end it may be the best. You can also get back into school. These days you need a degree to get a decent job. Or at least try a vocational or technology college. You can do it. I think if you move out it will be HARD. I live on my own and have 3 other room mates and it is hard. I am 22 too. I work 55 hrs a week and getting by is hard. You can also get help from the government if you qualify. There are programs and lots of help. But really think about staying at home because you will have help with the baby and you can try to go to school so you can someday give everything to your child that he/she may need.
Good luck.

Answer 3

Now is not the time to move out. What is best for the baby.? If you want to move out. Leave the baby there. Stop being selfish. You have already made some bad decision. and moving out will be another one. The baby needs to be in a loving and stable environment. Want to be a adult ? You will soon be. Raising a child takes a lot of sacrifices. Your very lucky to have a support system beside you. Many mothers don't and the results are devastating., for them and the generations to follow.

Best of luck to you

Paytair

Answer 4

Well they are the homeowners and do have the right to know who is coming in and out and when. They are probably getting on to you more now, because they are concerned for you and your child now. What about the father? Where is he in all of this? If you moved out, is he going to help you pay your bills and support the baby? That would allow you to still save money and pay off your bills. Make him help to support his child. He doesn't have much of a choice now does he? You don't, and you didn't make it alone. Maybe they're concern is warranted. Give 'em a break and maybe a heart to heart is necessary. And why is your sister living in your have of the duplex? That seems like it would be their necessity to take care of her. Offer to pay rent and move her in with them, then they should give you a little more privacy. P.S.
Don't be late on the rent.

Answer 5

I think you should stay for a year after you have the baby if you have credit card debt because starting out fresh will be much easier financially. Also, a newborn baby is a lot of hard work and even though you will love this child you will need some help and support from family,

Answer 6

Good plan , your living situation is not the greatest, but at least you have family a round to help. Your parents offer to babysit, will be a huge help, and you will be able to work and save money for your own place, I don't think you have any other choice right now, but if you work hard , stick to your plan to pay off credit bills , and save, you will have more choices in a couple of years. Best wishes to you.

Answer 7

It just depends on how bad you want to be a real adult! If you have enough money left out of your check to pay for a decent place to live for you and your child after you pay the credit card bills, utility bills, etc., then I say go for it, but if you know you're going to need your Mom and Dad alot then I say you've got a good thing going. You have to ultimately think about what is best for the baby's future now, your needs will come second from now on. Welcome to the real world honey!

Answer 8

You are okay....but make no mistake.....the babys father owes and you need to d whatever it takes to get child support...it is not for you it is for your child.....nothing selfish about it...

clearly your living situation right now is not ideal....but you are on the right track..don't be embarrassed, just do your best, follow your plan, and hold your head up. YOu have made some mistakes but I am betting you won't make them again...hey girl, you know better now.......now do better.......you need to get away from the negative people, like your parents and snotty lil sis....you can get help, training and a sound mind with help from the government, not as a way of life, just as a way to a path that can allow you to care for yourself and your baby....good luck...one mistake does not a life make......

Answer 9

don't move out until you think through and have a plan...find a room mate, affordable place to live, etc.
the money you'd put towards a babysitter you can use to pay off bills if you're folks are still willing to babysit.

tell your folks your plan and then do it. you're an adult and don't need to ask their permission. let them know that you love them and they raised a smart kid, but you'll make the move with or without their help. hopefully they'll give you a hand (like maybe enough for first and last month's rent).

Answer 10

as a young father of two, take my advise.
Stay home with your parents as long as you can because it will benefit you and specially your new born. Trust me. Don't be naive and think that it's easy out there in the world all by yourself and taking care of a child.
Moving out of your parents house is not what makes you an adult. It's how you carry yourself amongst your piers and how you come to making the tough decisions in life.

Be smart and patient.