I don't like wearing make-up because it's uncomfortable and I like wearing loose clothing. My step-mom says that I "should" or "need" to wear tighter shirts to show off my body when I don't really want to. I'm not saying that I don't like my body, I do, but I just can't stand it when my step-mom can't really accept me for who I am. I've tried talking with her, but she says that I "need" to look nice for the boys. Is it really that bad for a sixteen year old girl to wear clothes that are comfortable?! What would you do in this situation? (Rude comments will be ignored).
2007-03-03 12:42:36 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Here is advice from a dude. You will attract more guys with the skimpy clothes and no make up but, trust me on this, they will be low quality guys. Peronally I prefer girls who have certain things reserved for only that special someone. Is it bad to wear clothes that are comfortable? No. I've always felt girls who wore uncomfortable clothes to impress someone to be kind of stupid.
2007-03-03 13:53:26 · answer #1 · answered by Coyote81 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the same thing when my father met his wife ( I refuse to call her my mom even though they have been together for more than 12 yrs.) She finally gave up when I just started defending myself. When she tried to put on make up on me I wiped it off and told her that it irritated my skin (Lie). When she tried to make me dress more provocatively I made her aware of the teenage boys at my school and that I didn't want them to think that I was "easy". She needs to stop worrying about whether or not you can find a man - be honest with her and tell her that right now you aren't focused on having a relationship with anyone because you would like to focus all your attention on grades and college etc. You are beautiful just the way you are. I used to dress in baggy clothes and still had relationships with men that were worth my time - they weren't out to hit and run. They were genuinely interested in me - not whats under that mini skirt. I am currently married and dress conservatively. I refuse to look like a stripper or have my boobs hang out of my top or show my *** in a short skirt. My husband loves me just the way I am.
2007-03-03 12:54:30 · answer #2 · answered by Sasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is extremely odd for a mother to be telling her daughter to dress in tighter clothes and to make herself as to where boys will notice her. It sounds like you have it together at the ripe age of 16. Keep doing what you are doing and I think you will turn out fine. Good for you for not taking her advice.
Good luck!
2007-03-03 12:46:44 · answer #3 · answered by Raspberry 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mom was like that. She dressed much more fashionably and showed a lot more skin than I did when I was 16. (She even had her naval pierced, and offered to pay to have mine done.) Focusing on only superficial beauty is clearly wrong, and your step-mom may have some issues of her own, but in the end she is trying to help you. You should consider her point.
There are merits to being confident enough to dress casually and conservatively (for example, the ability to focus on school), but you have to keep in mind what you're missing out on.
People don't like to admit it, but people with better appearances get better jobs, get into better schools, and get asked out. When you're about to graduate college and still haven't had a boyfriend (*points to self*) you may regret squandering your teenage years.
2007-03-03 12:49:58 · answer #4 · answered by answerator 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its commendable which you have this way of sturdy relation with the doorstep-mum, not many human beings do. regrettably, she's not herself anymore and to her, the worldwide will come to an end devoid of your dad. even though how a lot you attempt to help her you will constantly finally end up the place you started. She needs to fulfill new human beings, men, the faster she gets in touch with yet another guy, the extra perfect for the the two one among you. save on doing what ur doing expensive, a chum in prefer is a chum in deed.
2016-12-18 05:09:12 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your step-mother is acting very rude! And, no, you don't "have" to look nice for the boys! You just be yourself and don't let anyone else change you for who you are! Ignore her if you can't get your words through her head. Again, just be yourself.
2007-03-03 12:48:55 · answer #6 · answered by *~*RaChAel*~* 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her to backk off before you cuss her life out
shell shiiit bricks
2007-03-03 12:46:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel your pain.
my moms making me quit something i love [dancing] because she wants me to be a model like she was. ah its so annoying
[ps i love comfortable cloths and model clothes ARE NOT COMFORTABLE]
2007-03-03 12:54:08 · answer #8 · answered by DanceForJoy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋