Ok so, I was talking to this guy a few months ago named Brenden but i droped him for another guy named david.Well David and i did not work out. Brenden n i satyed friends throughout this who ordeal and have just recently began flirting again, problem is while i was with david, brenden found another girl. Cant say i blame him. Anyway they are not official, but the girl has no idea hes talkin to me the way he is. Brenden says he likes us both and is having a hard time making a decision. This whole thing feels wrong, but i like him. What should i do?
2007-03-03 12:20:28 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
did someone tell you that the whole world revolved around you?
2007-03-03 12:22:55 · answer #1 · answered by crunchymonkey 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it feels wrong, then there is definetly something not right! Tell him that he needs to make up his mind, because it is not fair to either of you girls, to sit there and wait for him. I wish I could tell you more, but I was in the same situation a few months ago, and he chose the other girl, broke up with her, started with me again, got back together with her, and then broke up again with her, and he just sucked up to me. The thing I did wrong was give him another chance, which he didnt deserve, and It turned around and bit me, because I didnt like him like that anymore, and he still liked me, and It just got blown completly out of proportion. I dont want this to happen to you, so be sure to let him know, that there will not be any second chances, at least not right away, or untill he can prove to you that he really was wrong and that he needs you!
2007-03-03 12:26:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Back off sister, you had your chance and you found out that the grass is'nt always greener on the other side.
He's having a whale of a time having 2 girls lusting after him, would you really want to be with a guy who can flirt so openly with another woman?
2nd best is never enough, you dropped him like a hot potato when someone better came along and when that all fell out of bed you turn to him even though you know he's seeing somebody else, shame on you.
If the situation feels wrong then it is wrong-let sleeping dogs lie and walk away!
2007-03-03 12:39:32 · answer #3 · answered by The Original Highbury Gal 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you want from this situation. If you want the guy, then you gotta go get him. But if you hesitate too much then he and the unofficial girl just might get official. If you really like this guy then you have to tell him that, otherwise he can just as easily go get the other girl.
But also keep in mind that he never got with someone and you did, there might be some conflict of interest there. You dropped him, so he might realize this. If you really want this, then you have to be the one to make it happen.
2007-03-03 12:27:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You messed up when David dumped you just accept it and leave Brenden and his girl alone he's obviously not wanting you or the other chic would have got the bullet.
2007-03-03 12:52:07 · answer #5 · answered by richiesown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's just talking to this other girl, don't worry about it. If he gets serious about her, stay friends with him until it falls apart(assuming it does). If he's having a hard time, keep talking to him until he makes a decision. As for the other girl, there's no reason she needs to know. If she does find out and has a problem with it, oh well. Thats her loss. But don't shut out others because the guy you're talking to can't make up his mind.
2007-03-03 12:27:55 · answer #6 · answered by dead_end_lies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
now thats a tricky one. Quite simply though, if this guy really likes you he would be positive about you. It sounds as though he is hoping for the best of both. It all depends what you want. would you always be thinking that he was chatting other girls up while he was with you? this is of course if you get together. To be honest you should talk it through with him and if he cant make his mind up then i suggest you move on and find someone you deserve.You could end up getting hurt.
2007-03-03 12:30:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess it easily relies upon on what hes declaring about the different females. If hes conversing about only one certain lady in the front of then you definately id say he likes her.. yet when he merely talks about random females he's possibly attempting to inform you in a no longer so obtrusive style of way that he isnt waiting to be unique with you. because you already fooled round, he doesnt have a lot to artwork in the route of any extra. In his ideas.. there no reason he must be with merely you,you're already giving him the sweets. next time, evaluate taking issues a touch slower.
2016-11-27 19:43:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He met someone while you two were apart and the fact that he has not let the other girl even know that you are talking is not fair to her. If something feels wrong then most likely it is wrong. I think you should tell him that you want to be friends and find someone that does not have to choose between you or someone else
2007-03-03 12:29:05 · answer #9 · answered by melthule 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being friends with him while he has another girl will make it more difficult for both of you and there will be a greater chance of cheating. He has to really make the choice and keep to it and not change his mind but if he decides he wants to stay with the girl you better stop flirting and spend less time with him or else the inevitable will happen
2007-03-03 12:26:01 · answer #10 · answered by ibs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, don't feel wrong. you are perfectly fine. nobody's married here! you can't let him have absolute decision-making power. if he doesn't choose you, then his loss. but DON'T let him go back and forth between you two and mess around with both of you, but not asking either of you out. whatever decision he makes, you will be fine and get through this. you should go out and have fun with your friends, and just don't pass up oppurtunities to meet guys.
i wish you luck, but no matter what happens, you are still a great person!
2007-03-03 12:25:21 · answer #11 · answered by you - with the face :D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋